I don’t watch that much television anymore(with the exception of Law and Order SVU and Scandal) but there is a show on MTV that I find fascinating called “Catfish” that deals with people who want to meet the internet love of their lives. The twist is that when they meet their love in person, nothing is the way they thought it would be. I have met a few guys off of the internet(yeah kinda weird to admit but I’m putting it out there!) and although the situations weren’t as extreme as the ones on “Catfish” (I actually talked to the person on the phone and their pics were actually their pics lol) the face to face interaction wasn’t what I expected it to be.
The first guy I ever met off of the internet was someone I was talking to on Myspace(so you know how LONG ago that was). Let’s call him “Playboy” cause that was part of his AIM sn lol…”Playboy” was kinda cute, we seemed to click online but in person, the magic just wasn’t there. I wasn’t drawn to him the way I was online and after we agreed to meet the next day but when he suddenly cancelled, I knew then that we didn’t live up to each other’s expectations.
The next dude I met was someone who found me off of a message board I frequented. He was cute from his pics and we had great conversation. Same story as the first situation right??? Well when we met up a month or so later, I thought he was nice but something was off about him. I didn’t realize until our third date that his hand was deformed and I was mortified. I try not to be judgmental but I was really bothered by it and it turned me off from future dates. He never mentioned it and I didn’t pick up on it until I took a closer look but I wish I would have known in advance because I would have been able to deal with it differently. We never saw each other after that last date but I was very leery of who I dealt with in online interactions after that.
This last dude that I am going to mention was different than the others because he hit me up on Myspace regarding a mutual associate of ours. We ended up talking to each other and I enjoyed our conversations not really focused on what he looked like. Curiosity got the best of me and I decided to check out his profile and I was blown away. He was freaking gorgeous and when we talked on the phone, he sounded as good as he looked. Even though I had 2 bad experiences in the past with online dating, I felt such a strong connection to this man I’ve never met before. He lived 4 hours away and when we tried to make arrangements to meet up, something always came up. A year after we started talking, I was in his area for an event so we finally met up and I was super nervous. We had an interesting time but once again, things were not the way I expected them to be. This time, it had nothing to do with looks or chemistry but more about fear of the unknown. Putting yourself out there for someone who is a stranger in many aspects is scary. You never know what to expect. the best thing to do is to hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
I have been fortunate not to have any “Catfish” experiences but my own online dating life and the show have taught me one thing.No matter how much you think you know about someone whether its an online or face to face relationship, always expect the unexpected.