Here we are, only a hop, skip and a jump away from the Inaguration, and 16 days into the new year. I’m still picking tinsel out of the treads of my favorite winter boots and what do I see on my last several trips to the store? Candy hearts, pink teddy bears and promotional packages on flower and gift delivery; Edible Arrangements coupons in my email and Valentine’s Day date ideas popping up in abundance on social networks.
Then the other day I was listing to one of my playlists aimed at mellowing my mood and Chrisette Michele’s Blame It On Me played. It made me think of the not so cheerful side of life, love and happiness, the “rain” in rainbow and how for many people something as simple as a cancelled date can derail weeks worth of accomplishment.
2013 as many of you know has been loaded with vivid depictions of accomplishments thru changing attitudes, and being resolute. This time I’m targeting rejection.
re·ject (r-jkt)”tr.v.” *re·ject·ed*, *re·ject·ing*, *re·jects**
1. *To refuse to accept, submit to, believe, or make use of.
2. *To refuse to consider or grant; deny.
3. *To refuse to recognize or give affection to (a person).
4. *To discard as defective or useless; throw away.
As humans we have an undeniable desire to be desired, to belong, to be accepted. It is when we encounter the opposite that we have an issue. When she didn’t say “yes”, or when we don’t become apart of “THAT” clique in school, or get “THE” job, or the person you have been giving your affection to tells you they don’t want it from you anymore. Everyone knows the “Its me, not you” speech, whether you’ve given it or received it. After the rejection some people are left with despair, desperation and/or depression. No one wants to be rejected, myself included; but its what you do afterwards that matters.
1. Don’t Take It Personal:
That’s not just the name of Jermaine Jackson’s only hit single! Remember that the situation in which you find yourself maybe because of you or not however, don’t take it personal. Everyone we meet and everything we experience has a reason or a season. You are so amazingly awesome (there go the words again) that you deserve better. Better service, better job, better love. Don’t go off like Brandy and be “sittin’ up in your room” lamenting and feeling sorry for yourself. You are not sorry, so no reason to feel that way. You can make lame decisions, but you, yourself are not lame.
2. It Happens:
That my dears is not complicated. In the course of human events I don’t believe there has yet to be an individual that has not experienced rejection. I’m sure our President gets rejected daily while trying not to fall off of this fiscal cliff. Over the years I’m sure Ms. Minaj had to get rejected a dozen times before she decided to appoint herself as “Head Barbie”. You aren’t the first and you won’t be the last person to be rejected.
3. Move On:
At this point YOU decide whether this experience will better you or break you. Thomas Edison said,” I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Your passions belong to you and only you can set people’s imaginations ablaze about those things. No two dreams are alike, so never stop trying to make yours real. Like I always remind people. They didn’t break the mold when they made you. There was no mold, you are your own unique experience! Don’t let an experience derail you, just because he’s a good guy and you are a good woman does not mean you are the good man and woman for each other.
Now that I have gotten all this word vomit (also known as a rant) out of my system I hope that somthing I’ve said has rekindled any fires out there that needed a spark. Whether you didn’t get the job or received a rejection letter from the college you wanted to attend…you may be disappointed but you aren’t struck out.
Til the next experience B. Soul(ful)