I was watching American Idol last night for the auditions and to see if this “beef” with Nicki Minaj and Mariah Carey was real and I was blown away at the subtle shade that these ladies kept throwing at each other. It was what my friend Jou calls “petty” and unnecessary. I was talking to the guy I’m seeing and he said that women are more likely to engage in that type of behavior than men. I agreed with him to a certain extent but I started thinking about the reasons behind “shady” behavior.
Are we in competition with one another so much that instead of congratulating someone on their accomplishments and being genuinely happy for them, we have to criticize and nitpick on someone because of what we think they lack or are undeserving of? I try not to engage in the shadiness or pettiness but sometimes I catch myself saying things that would be considered as “hate” because of all the negativity surrounding me at that particular moment. They say misery loves company and I feel that may be an underlying reason of all the shade going around.
I am not saying that you have to love everyone or agree with their thoughts or actions but if you go out of your way to insult, demean or belittle them, that isn’t saying as much about them as it is about you. If you have your own dreams and aspirations that you are trying to carry out, you have NO time to worry about what anyone else is doing. That is the way I try to see things when cattiness starts to creep into my space.
Instead of talking about people behind their backs(or to their face), focus on what lies ahead in your life…easiest way I know how to steer clear of shade!