Happy New Year!!! Hope every had fun last night…safely of course:) I didn’t do anything special this time around. I just stayed home with my family and celebrated with them. I cleaned my room because my mom says you should always enter the new year with a clean room because it clears your mind and helps you to be more focused. I felt better afterwards and then I started brainstorming about what should be my first post for 2014. I didn’t want to just talk about New Year’s Resolutions and all of that because that is typical and expected. I didn’t want to say things like “This year will be different” and “New year, new me” because its cliché and redundant. I wanted to focus on what was stopping me from being the best version of myself that I could be. My grandma told me its hard following your passions when you don’t have a lot of money and I agree but I’ve accomplished a lot so far with my meager funds so that can’t be what’s stopping me. My girl Regina is always encouraging me and telling me about networking events and opportunities to put “The Angielala Experience” in the forefront but I told her that it seems like sometimes people don’t care what I am doing which doesn’t help motivate me at all and she made me realize that if its my passion, then it doesn’t matter about the people who aren’t into what I am doing because there are so many others that will be intrigued and inspired by “The Angielala Experience” so that shouldn’t be a reason that I am not meeting my full potential. I do have issues in my personal life when it comes to family and my significant other but my mother pointed out to me that these issues have been around for a while but I didn’t let that stop me from graduating from college with a 4.0 so I know how to block things out and take care of business when I need to. It was then that I realized that it was me and all the excuses I have made that have held me back.
There is a quote that says “Excuses are the nails used to build the house of failure” and I feel like I have hammered away at these nails for the past year or so. Whenever times get too tough, I start making excuses for my behavior to make myself feel better. No one said that following your heart and going after your dreams would be easy but I never thought that my mentality would be the roadblock holding me back from my success. Rejection and failure are inevitable but it is how you handle them that shows what kind of person you are. In the past, I have taken rejection and failure as shocking blows to my self-esteem instead of learning from them and doing things differently the next time around. I told myself that I would create goals and tackle each one by one until I accomplished most if not all on my list. I would put time restraints on some (like getting my driver’s license by my 28th birthday) to get to work on the goal quickly but if I didn’t reach those goals by that time period, I wouldn’t beat myself up but instead go about achieving these goals in a different way. The other goals (like meditating) wouldn’t have any time restraints but I would continue to work on them throughout the days, weeks and months until the task was complete and I have achieved the desired results. The most important thing about these goals would be that I wouldn’t make any excuses about why I am not able to get them done. There are people in the world that have had many obstacles in their path that they had no part in creating and they were able to overcome them and achieve their goals so what makes me any different? I am not in a race to get to the finish line first but at the same time, I can’t stop running because I see others ahead of me. I have to keep going at my speed and follow the path that I have set out for myself. Only then will I be able to live out my dreams.
The moral of this post is to stop making excuses! If you want to join a gym and lose some extra pounds, do it. If you can’t afford a gym, look up some exercises on fitness sites, YouTube and health magazines and create your own workout routine. (Sidenote: I started getting Self Magazine delivered to my house every month since September of 2013 and I don’t remember signing up for anything so I really have no excuses because it’s a sign from God.) If you want to go back to school for your GED, Bachelors’ or Master’s degree, get to it! College is expensive but there are loads of scholarships and grants out there if you do your research. My point is that there is always a way to get what you want out of your life but only you can do it for yourself. Give it your all and you will be surprised at how much you can achieve. I wish you all the best of luck:)