Happy Monday everyone! I was up half of the night last night thinking about what I could post on here to start this week off right and I started reflecting on my weekend. I braved the slushy cold mess outside to make it to the Bronx for a surprise birthday party that my friend planned for her signficant other. I wasn’t really that pumped to go because I didn’t care for the guy because he was rude to me the first time we met. I didn’t want to stay cooped up in the house all weekend either so I said I would go and attempt to have a good time. I have a lot of things going on in my personal and professional life and I just wanted to have fun and escape from it all but when I am in a blah kind of mood, I let it consume me and I end up wallowing in it instead of shaking it off and enjoying myself. I told myself that this year would be different and the party would be the first test in seeing if I could really start to change the way I viewed things.
I ended up enjoying myself and made peace with my friend’s significant other because he apologized and besides, what’s the point in holding a grudge over something so petty? Life is way too short to stress over the small stuff and I realized that for so long, I have held on to things from the past that I have allowed to seep into my present. I can’t grow if I let bitterness and anger hold me down and the people around me that add to my life will be able to feel it and distance themselves away from me as well. I am not saying that forgiving and moving on will be easy because I am still working on being more forgiving to those who have hurt me but I know it is necessary in order for me to make progress through my journey.
I first read “The Serenity Prayer” in Fantasia’s book “Life Is Not a Fairy Tale” and it gave me so much peace of mind in that moment. For those of you who haven’t heard the serenity prayer, it goes as follows:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
I feel that whatever your religion is (or even if you don’t practice a religion at all) you can say this prayer in your own way and understand that everything happens for a reason. If you can change your circumstances, by all means do so and if you are not, learn from it and move on in the best way possible. It is very difficult to accept failure and defeat but the ones who rise up and become stronger in the process usually win in the end. In order to win, you have to truly let go of what you have lost. My significant other says that he is a “work in progress” and I feel that many of us are. We are striving to be better people in various aspects of our lives and a positive outlook on the future is a great way to start on the road to greatness.
Hope everyone has a positive and productive week!