I was texting a friend of mine this morning and asked him why he’s been feeling so down lately. He mentioned that he was going through a breakup that had him feeling depressed. I remember what it feels like to have to end things with someone who you care about deeply and the pain that follows. It feels like everything is hopeless and at that moment, you can’t think of the light at the end of the tunnel…for many people, it is the lowest point where they start to breakdown. They have invested so much time and effort into their relationship and when the ball drops and everything is over, they don’t know where to go or what to do. That feeling of confusion and isolation can make the strongest person feel inadequate and while going through the low points, its hard to think about the future. Breakups are not limited to relationships. I was having a conversation with another friend of mine who lost his job recently and was depressed for a few months after. The job defined him in many ways and he felt important because of his position at the company. When he had to “break up” and leave the company he had worked at for years, it was as if a familiar part of him left as well. He felt as if he lost his identity and did not know where he fit in anymore. Things he was so confident and secure about seemed to be a distant memory. The “breakup” left him broken but at this moment, he is picking up the pieces and starting fresh with another company which has lifted his spirits greatly.
What many people fail to realize is that low points in our lives are inevitable but they are also temporary places of being as long as you gain the mental strength to pull yourself out of that slump. I have been through various kinds of breakups both in my personal and professional life and at the time, I felt like there was no hope. I sulked and pitied myself for a little while but when I realized that life went on regardless of how I felt about the world and the people and things that have hurt me. I decided then that I could either stay in this state and be stagnant or I could learn from it, grow and move forward. I chose the latter and I feel that I have made great progress since those breakups and breakdowns. I have a lot going on in my life at this moment but since I have dealt with breakdowns in the past, I see this moment in my life as a test of faith, character and strength. What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger and I feel that with every burden that comes along and attempts to weigh me down, I am slowly but surely learning to push them away and focus on the bigger picture that will leave me feeling fulfilled and whole. It is a difficult journey but one that I know will be worth my while.
Thank you for reading and as always