Good Morning folks! For the last month or so, I’ve had a pretty bad case of writer’s block. I couldn’t think of anything to write about that didn’t sound repetitive or depressing and I told myself that I wouldn’t post anything that I consider mediocre or second-rate. I want all of my blog posts to show insight into what is going on in my life and hopefully be helpful and relatable to others. After the conversation I had with a friend yesterday where we discussed our fears and dreams, I realized that our biggest obstacles are not those that come from outside influences but instead the mental roadblocks we create in our mind. If you say you can or can’t do something, either way, you are correct.
You are the only one that is in control of your thoughts, feelings and actions and although we cannot predict the future and may not be able to manipulate all things to our favor, we have the power to control how we respond to these actions and behaviors. For every action there is usually a reaction and how we react can decide the course of our future. Unfortunately, previous negative experiences can create bad mental habits that can be difficult to break. Experts have said that it takes about 66 days to break bad habits and create new ones. Whether it’s a nervous habit such as biting your nails or something more addictive like smoking, these habits start in the mind. You have to first address the mental issues going on inside your brain before the physical changes can occur. I am conscious of what my bad habits are (procrastination, not following through on plans) and I’ve realized that fear is the controlling factor that brought about these bad habits.
Fear of failure and rejection are why I keep making excuses and put off things that I feel will take me to the next level. Fear is a self-defense mechanism to protect us from danger that we sense whether we are conscious of it or not. This is normal but when we let the fears that we create run our lives instead of conquering them, they lead to bad mental habits which can lead to bad physical ones. Along with fear, there is jealousy, denial, pride and countless others that can bring the worst out of people. Excessive drinking that can lead to depression and isolation may be because of not coming to terms with a tragic situation in someone’s past. Road rage may stem from being taught that the only way to deal with frustration and anger is confrontation. Whatever the habit, there is always an underlying cause of it and acknowledging what that cause is and managing it is essential for success. Focus on your journey and understand that change is inevitable but how you handle the changes is a testament to who you really are.
I wish everyone the best of luck in breaking bad habits and always remember to love and live luxuriously!