Good Afternoon everyone! I’ve been reflecting on the things that have happened in the past few weeks. As I stated in my previous post, I stopped seeing the guy that I had been dealing with for a VERY long time. It’s been difficult going out of my comfort zone because I become so used to settling but when you know better, you do better. One of the reasons I had a hard time letting go at first is because I hated saying the word “no”. I have always been a people pleaser and it trickled into every aspect of my life both personal and professional. The personal part was the worst because I thought I had to accommodate and sacrifice constantly for things to work. While I don’t have a problem with either, when the accommodation and sacrifice is one sided, it gets to be draining. More importantly, when I am this way even when I don’t want to be, I start to become resentful. I had an epiphany a week before I decided to make some changes. The core to most of my problems was because I did what I thought people expected of me instead of doing what I wanted. “No” was not in my vocabulary but I knew that I had to start using it to change my situation and feel liberated. Saying “no” sends out a message that I will no longer tolerate mediocrity in any form. Saying “no” means not settling for any less than what I deserve. Lastly, saying “no” means I’m reclaiming the power that was once given away so freely. You can’t please everyone but as long as I am secure and confident in the decisions I make, everyone else opinion is irrelevant.
I will be posting my first book review of 2015 tomorrow so stay tuned for that! Also make sure you check back to see when my we chat is…topic and date is TBA but it will definitely happen sometime in August:)
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!