Good Morning! I was trying to think of an interesting topic for today’s post and I started thinking about anything interesting that happened this week and one incident in particular came to mind. One of my guy friends from elementary school gave a back-handed compliment on an Instagram post of mine and when another friend said something about his comment, he called her a bitch or as I refer to it, the “B” word. A few women I know use the “B” word as a term of endearment when greeting or referring to one another ( “Hey btch”, “That’s my btch”) but when it is used to insult someone like the way my guy friend used it, tempers flare and the “B” word takes on a different meaning. The same can be said for the “N” word. Depending on who is using the term and in what context, it can be a sign of love or mutual respect or the highest insult to the African-American race.
I have talked about my disdain for the “B” word in the past in a YouTube rant (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VCk3Hx1GMqI) but I am going to break it down once again so everyone understands why I don’t like using the term in a positive way. When you look up the “B” word in the Merriam-Webster dictionary, it gives you these 3 definitions:
1: the female of the dog or some other carnivorous mammals
2 a : a lewd or immoral woman
b : a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman —sometimes used as a generalized term of abuse
3: something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant
Now I don’t know about the rest of the female population but I’m not a dog, don’t consider myself a lewd or immoral woman, and I’m not malicious,spiteful overbearing unpleasant etc. ALL of the definitions of the “B” word describe negative traits in a woman and so many of us use the word so casually like it doesn’t mean anything. Words have power and I know there’s this “Bad B*tch” movement going on that is supposed to empower women and I am all about empowerment but there are other ways we can describe strong, independent and confident women without resorting to using the “B” word. I think we should start movements and used words that emphasize those positive qualities and not the one that is used for shock value.
I am guilty of using the “B” word occasionally but it’s always used as an insult out of anger and frustration. I feel that I was out of line in those moments and I attempt to use less explicit terms when I speak about or to someone who I am upset with but I do not use the term in a positive way. I have so many amazing women in my life from the ones in my family. my friends co-workers and people who I just associate with and to call them a “b” word is diminishing their worth as a woman and a human being. We are more than that and to the men that call the women in their lives the “B” word, let’s set a better examples for the younger generation and not feed in to the sexist stereotypes that the “B” word has created.
Okay I am done ranting for today lol…Let me know what you think about the “B” word in the comments section below and stay tuned for the “New Year, New Me” makeover recap coming soon!
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!