Good Morning! I know I said that I was going to discuss my healthy eating habits and I promise that I will get back to that…once I start eating healthy consistently that is! I’m all over the place with my good days and bad days but I am aiming for progress not perfection so once I start making some serious progress, I will be sure to share my tips and all of that. For now, I wanted to focus on something that has worked for me and that is the one thing that helped me when I was suffering from writer’s block and in need of inspiration: an idea book.
A page from my idea book…my handwriting is terrible I know lol
As I previously mentioned, I have been going to therapy for the past several months to cope with my anxiety, stress and mild depression. During one of our sessions, I told my therapist that I have felt uninspired and as a result, couldn’t think of anything to write about on here. She suggested that I purchase an idea book and write whatever comes to my mind in whatever form I wanted. Since the book was mainly to help me brainstorm, it didn’t have to be organized and structured like a planner and I didn’t have to have any particular goal in mind while writing. I can honestly say that having no restrictions when writing was such a freeing experience. I could write whatever I wanted, how I wanted and there was no wrong way to go about it. The ideas flowed easily after that. I wrote my ideas into random lists like “Amore Luxe Media Goals” and “Ideal Jobs/Careers” as well as a list of blog/video ideas based off of the ideas from the other lists. I realized I was lying when I said I didn’t have anything to write about because it was clear in those few pages that I actually did. Now I’m not saying that I have it all figured out but my idea book is a step in the right direction!
Remember that the only rule is that there are no rules so don’t feel confined to write your ideas and thoughts in a certain way. You don’t even have to call it an idea book if your book has other things in it like pictures or song lyrics that you’re working on. The point of the book is to spark your creativity and do it in a way that’s unique to you and your thought process. I bought my book for $5 bucks from a Macy’s outlet store but you can go to your local book store, Amazon.com or a specialty store where you can get a leather-bound book or an engraving if you’re fancy like that! I consider my book and the contents in it to be an extension of my personality and plan on using the ideas in it to create a new vision board. The possibilities are endless and I am so thankful to my therapist for helping me rediscover my passion and purpose through this book.
Do you have an idea book or something similar? Let me know what you use it for and how it’s helped you in the comments section below. Have a great weekend and make sure you always love and live luxuriously!
Good Morning Lovelies! Back in 2016, I planned on doing a #FearlessFriday post every Friday where I would share something that I was fearful of or that held me back from reaching my full potential. It could be something as extreme as conquering my fear of riding on airplanes without having a mini panic attack before takeoff or something as minor as going outside of my comfort zone and trying something new like online dating for example (check out my previous post to read more about that!). Today I wanted to discuss something that has held me back from being the best version of myself because of my own personal insecurities. The thing is, I do not take criticism well AT ALL. Like its to the point where I become defensive or embarrassed and lose the motivation and passion to do what I initially set out to do. At first, I didn’t understand why I was this way towards people who were just trying to help me out. As I thought about it and went deeper into my past, I realized that criticism for me was a way of pointing out my flaws and failures which in turn meant that I wasn’t worthy of whatever it is that I desired.
It all goes back to having low self-esteem as a child and teenager and although I have grown and changed drastically since then, some of the doubts and triggers linger from those times that create doubt and wariness as an adult. Back then when I was picked on, I took it personally not realizing that kids prey on weakness and can sense it from a mile away. My insecurities were a weakness that held me back from speaking my mind and embracing everything that makes me, me quirks and all. Even though I learned that self-confidence is essential to do well in life and to gain respect from others, constructive criticism still felt like a punch in the gut and instead of using critiques like “You need to post more content that will appeal to a wider demographic.” or “Your inconsistencies with your blog come across as laziness and you need to do better” as motivation and encouragement, I looked at it from a pessimistic point of view as me not being good enough. These critiques and suggestions that came from my friends were only meant to help but instead I turned it into a ‘woe is me’ party and didn’t heed their advice. Needless to say when the light bulb finally went on in my head, a lot of time had been wasted that could have been used to create content and achieve my goals. When you know better, you do better and now that I get it, I’m going full speed ahead!
Now let me be clear, constructive criticism is totally different from being negative, petty or just a certified hater. If someone you know is being critical just because of their personal preferences, do not offer any solutions to the issue that they are being critical about or are coming from a place of negativity, anger or resentment, that is NOT constructive criticism but is destructive and toxic. Limit or avoid these kinds of people because they will only bring you down in the end. Constructive criticism should be helpful and beneficial to your life and if the critique doesn’t offer a solution or valid reason for your problem or concern, you might want to take a second look at the person that is offering their unwanted opinion.
To my friends, thanks for always providing me with love and support but most importantly, being truthful with me about things that I needed to improve. The truth can hurt but the constructive criticism has made me stronger and more determined than ever and for that, I am forever grateful 😘
I will be posting a book review from one of my favorite bloggers/motivational speakers on Monday so stay tuned for that! Have a great weekend and remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Afternoon! I know I promised that I would post 4x this week to make up for not posting last Friday but this week has been tough for me. I have just been feeling mentally and spiritually drained and it all comes back to focusing on people and things that have nothing to do with me. The seeds of envy and doubt started to grow within once again and it was a post that I saw on Instagram this morning that made me realize how petty and pitiful I was acting. I was so worried about everyone and everything else that I forgot about me and where I want to be in my life. Sitting around moping won’t get me anywhere and neither will comparing myself to others especially when I don’t know the journey they had to take to get to where they are.
I feel like 2015 was a year where I became so complacent and miserable with things going on in my life personally and professionally and I promised that 2016 would be different and it has to a certain extent. I am no longer dealing with men who are a waste of my time although one keeps trying to come back in the picture after I’ve made it clear that I’m not interested in being the passive, predictable me that settled for anything just to not be alone. Although that part of my life has changed for the better, I am still not where I want to be professionally. I know that I have to make a huge comeback because last year, I didn’t really do anything that would propel me forward but until today, I really wasn’t sure where to begin. I had to take a long look at myself to realize that no change can occur in my life until I change, starting with my mindset and the way I react to things. After that, I can work on being a better version of myself physically and these changes will be reflected in the content I create and share with the world. I am known for saying that I want to be the “Internet Oprah” but I forgot about all the things she has endured in the public eye especially as it relates to her weight and I know now that I have to show the bad even as I’m going through it because that is the only way I can grow and inspire others.
Baring it all has been scary and when social media magnifies everything and leaves room for criticism, I’ve been hesitant in the past to talk about things as I’m going through them. I don’t want to create a facade of a life that is perfect or near perfection when I am still struggling with being the best version of myself but I know now that I am the type of person that thrives when I am transparent and can let go of negative thoughts holding me back. I welcome your comments, suggestions and constructive critiques because as much as I want to inspire my readers, I look for inspiration from you all as well:) Stay tuned for my next post on Monday and I hope everyone has an amazing weekend!
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!