Quarantine Diaries #4: How To Stay Positive

Good Afternoon! Its been 2 months since my last post and I told myself that I wasn’t going to let that happen again especially since I have so much free time being at home but I fell into a rut of sorts again that I needed to deal with before I could come back on here and offer words of advice. I never want to act like everything is fine when its not but at the same time, I always want to be the best version of myself whether I am providing services for my clients or providing content on here for my readers. I have had good days and not so good days but after having a discussion with my boyfriend, I was able to realize that changing my mindset and approach even when I can’t change your surroundings or current circumstances is crucial to my mental well-being. It is easier said than done especially in today’s climate but it is necessary for me to stay positive and attract good energy into my life.

A couple of days after my birthday, I took a week off from social media because all of the sadness as a result of the murder of George Floyd hit me hard. I don’t normally post about current events or political news because its an area that I am not well versed in but I did share my sadness, anger and frustration on Instagram and Facebook before I took a break. Even though I was tempted to sign in so I could see the posts that my friends were talking about in our group chats, I realized that being away from the constant news cycle from my Instagram and Facebook feeds helped me to get my mind and spirit back on track. I started reading more and focusing on the goals that I want to accomplish which helped me not focus on what I was missing online so when I signed back on the following week, my spirit didn’t feel as heavy as it had prior to my break. I won’t lie and say that seeing the videos and images of the protests, riots and new cases hasn’t had an effect on me but I know that I am not controlled by my phone, iPad or any other devices and if it gets to be too much, I can turn them off and take that moment for myself to get back on track. I am not saying that you have to take an extended break from it all but it is good to take a break sometimes because seeing all of these things while being in quarantine can emotionally drain you so a break of any kind can help ease those feelings a bit.

The goal is not merely to survive but to thrive and it is okay to not be okay sometimes but know that you will get through whatever it is you are going through because your thoughts and actions can control your perspective on life. Even if you are working from home and your boss/coworkers/employees are driving you crazy, try to see that they are probably feeling the same way about their current situations and are lashing out in other ways which include making your life a bit harder. I am not saying to put up with the stress and drama but the way you approach situations will change the way people respond to you. Everything will not always be peachy keen but by not allowing yourself to get caught up in your emotions or playing victim and being able to see the role you play in everything that happens will allow you to be free of the stress and frustration that is holding you back and have a brighter outlook on life. I am currently working on this as it relates to dealing with my mother who stresses me out to no end but I am finally starting to realize that I don’t have to let any negativity she is dealing with seep into my consciousness and to not take everything she says or does so personally. As I previously stated, everyone is dealing with their issues in their own way and you cannot change their actions but you can change the way you react to them.

In addition to working on my mental/emotional well-being. I want to improve my physical health. While most people have gained weight during quarantine, I’ve lost 15 pounds and while I am happy that I am at my goal weight, I didn’t lose the weight in a healthy way. Anxiety and stress caused me to lose my appetite so I only ate once a day and when I did eat, I consumed junk that’s loaded with empty calories. I told myself that quarantine was going to be the time where I started eating healthy and I did eat healthy for about two days before I went back to my old habits. I want to tone up and eat healthier to maintain my current weight and the only way this will happen is if I stop making excuses and focus on what I want for myself in the future instead of focusing on the present. I have a bad habit of quitting when things don’t come easy to me but nothing that is easy is ever truly worth it whether its dieting, going after professional goals, dating, whatever! Everything and everyone that is truly worth having requires work and instead of being lazy and unmotivated, I gotta get off my ass and do the work. I know exactly what I want and what it takes to get it and pushing myself to be the best version of myself will add value and purpose to my life. Most importantly, I will be able to lead by example which is one of the main reasons why I started Amore Luxe in the first place. As much as I appreciate your support, I want you to call me out when I am bsing so make sure you comment on here or on my IG/FB page and tell me to get my fish together if you see me slipping. I may be angry in the moment but I will love you for it in the end!

So now I am getting back to business not only in my personal life but in my professional one! While I don’t plan on changing much as far as Amore Luxe outside of providing more written/visual content on a consistent basis, Amore Luxe Media will focus solely on providing content writing, copywriting and writing composition services for clients.Although I will no longer provide social media management services, I will provide captions for social media posts that you can use for your product/service along with any other written content you need to promote your business. Email me at angelacherai@gmail.com for a full list of services and pricing information. Thank you for always supporting me and I am determined to make the second half of 2020 better than the first and I want you all to do the same. New post coming either Friday or Monday so stay tuned! Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

Quarantine Diaries #3: How To Handle Anxiety

For anyone who needs this reminder, here you go šŸ˜‰

Good Afternoon! I wanted to post my 3rd Quarantine Entry a few days ago but I am all about being honest and didn’t want to post about a topic where I couldn’t give you any advice on what worked for me because I was still dealing with a particular dilemma or issue. In this case, the issue is anxiety. I have discussed my anxiety issues in the past and how I’ve tried to stop catastrophizing situations and speak positive thoughts into my life. Being quarantined has made doing these things a bit more difficult and as a result, my anxiety has been coming in full force. Dealing with the tightness in my chest and heart palpitations are one thing but the never-ending negative thoughts are what really drive me crazy. Everything is always worst case scenario and in every scenario, I am the reason why certain things are happening even when I really have no control over the actual events that are taking place. In order for me to handle my anxiety, I had to figure out the root cause of why I was feeling the way I was.

Many of the thoughts that kept popping up were related to loneliness and frustration because I felt like the life I once had was gone forever. That life included me seeing my boyfriend on a regular basis and being able to make plans with friends. Even though I know that I am not the only one having a tough time with all of the pandemic related situations we have been forced in, my responses to them were extreme and I couldn’t understand why until I took a deep look at what usually triggers my anxiety. It was then that I realized that my personal insecurities were the contributing factor and they were having a serious effect on how I perceived situations. I read way too much into things people would say and feel slighted by their actions even if that was not their intention. I made mountains out of molehills and then the mountains created avalanches in my mind that kept spiraling out of control. It was my feelings of inadequacy that was the foundation of all of my inner conflict and frustration and once I realized that, I was able to handle my anxiety better by looking at situations for what they were instead of creating worst case scenarios in my mind. By just focusing on the facts and logic and not letting emotions cloud my judgment, I was able to see that in many instances, I was either overreacting, allowing my insecurities to exacerbate situations or just worrying about situations that were unlikely to happen because I was unable to see the bright side of the situation.

Anxiety is something that I deal with on a regular basis and in extreme situations like quarantine, the feelings hit me like a mack truck. I’m learning that when they do appear, I need to take a deep breath, assess the situation and think objectively in order to gain a better perspective on things. Most importantly, allowing insecurities to creep in every time something happens that comes off as a trigger feels like I’m playing the victim and although I have no control over what others say or do, I have complete control over how I think and respond and heading into negative territory does more harm than good. I am a work in progress but I am happy that I am learning how to combat the anxiety and worry right when it happens instead of letting it linger on for hours and days at a time. One good thing that has come out of being in quarantine is self-reflection which has allowed me to really hone in on what needs to be worked on in my life in order to have the life I want. In addition to improving my mental well-being, I am determined to improve my physical well-being by working out and eating better. I’ve started on my health and wellness journey and in the coming weeks, I will update you on my progress so stay tuned for that šŸ™‚

Are there any tips or techniques you use to deal with anxiety? Share them in the comments below! I will be back next week with another quarantine diary entry but until then, I hope you have a great weekend and remember to love and live luxuriously!

Quarantine Diaries #2: Staying Connected With Family, Friends and Outside World

Good Afternoon! I meant to post this entry on Wednesday but I was sidetracked with my clients’ assignments (btw, if you are in need of writing assistance for essays, research papers, term papers, etc. email angelacherai@gmail.com so I can help you out!) but I definitely wanted to touch on this topic because so many of us are used to communicating with friends, family and even coworkers on a regular basis but social distancing makes communication tougher but not impossible. When talking on the phone isn’t enough, here are a few apps that have made this social distancing this a bit easier!

FaceTime (only for Apple product users)

Since I am a self-proclaimed Apple junkie, (I have an iPhone, iPad, MacBook Air and Apple Watch lol) I love video chatting via FaceTime. I haven’t been able to see my boyfriend in a few weeks but we FaceTime everyday which has made it a bit easier to deal with not seeing him on a regular basis. I also have group FaceTime chats with my friends who I met at my first real job (shoutout to BL crew) which is always entertaining to say the least. FaceTime is the easiest way to keep in contact with those you care about since its free and is included on all Apple products.

Google Hangouts/Zoom/Duo/In The House (can be used regardless of what type of device you have)

For those of you who don’t own any Apple products, (I don’t get it but whatever!) there are apps such as Google Hangouts, Zoom, Duo and one my girl Steffie just put me on to called In the House app. These apps are free and although Zoom has time restrictions for users who choose to use a free account, they allow easy communication with multiple people at once. I haven’t tried In The House yet but I prefer using Zoom with someone who has a premium account! I have been to 2 virtual birthday parties and a girls catchup chat and had sooooo much fun! Make sure your phone/internet connection is strong because these apps can use a lot of bandwidth and you want to be able to see and hear everyone clearly!

Instagram and Facebook live (features are available on all Instagram and Facebook apps)

I don’t usually go live on Instagram of Facebook myself but I love joining live sessions that my friends and influencers/celebs/notable individuals have. Ciara and Russell Wilson went on IG live a couple of weeks ago discussing their first date and what makes their relationship work and I was so enamored with them that I sat through the whole chat which is something that I rarely do lol. My hairstylist Regina Pearl went on IG live last week to discuss how to use the product kits she was selling to maintain your hair during this quarantine (smart idea right!) Various celebrities such as Neyo, Lil Jon and T-Pain have been doing battles that have been nostalgic and enjoyable. I also like to keep up to date with what’s going on in surrounding communities by watching the mayors of nearby cities discuss Coronavirus rules and regulations for their respective cities. Whether I watch Instagram/Facebook live to be entertained, educated or informed, Instagram and Facebook live have been helpful in ensuring that I am kept in the loop and keeps me occupied.

Regardless of whatever method you choose to stay connected, remember that the situation we all have been placed in is only temporary and life will go back to business as usual. This is the best way to eliminate unnecessary direct contact while still maintaining a sense of normalcy. Continue to follow CDC sanitary guidelines as well as the rules set forth by your city and state officials. We will get through this together and if you have any blog topic ideas, suggestions or just want to chat, comment below and I will be sure to get back at you:) Thanks for reading and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

Quarantine Diaries #1: Creating A Plan To Stay Focused and Motivated

It was all good just a few months ago lol

Good Morning everyone! I know its been a minute but now that I have nothing but time because of the Coronavirus and the quarantine that followed, I will definitely be posting more during this unexpected break! I was thinking about what I could write about since my day to day has become very monotonous but I decided in order to be able to provide any type of meaningful content, I first have to infuse meaningful activities and habits into my daily routines. At the end of last week, I created a plan that would keep me busy but most importantly, allow me to have passion and purpose which will keep me motivated even after all of this is over.

A few of the activities that I included were to eat better and exercise, read more consistently and put aside time for my clients’ work instead of trying to do everything all at once. I realized that since I have so much time on my hands, there is no need to rush. I can do things at my own pace without feeling anxious or overwhelmed which is usually why I give up easily or take too much on at once depending on the situation. This pandemic has forced many of us to stop what we are doing and embrace this new normal that is temporary but still an inconvenience in our daily lives. By creating a plan, (something that I rarely do or stick to) I am able to bring back a sense of structure and order into my life but because it is at my convenience, I am more likely to follow through. Everyone has their own way of doing things but creating a plan that has a list of activities and habits helps me work towards my physical and mental well-being goals which will have a positive impact on other areas of my life. Can’t sit around watching “Tiger King” all day (especially since I’ve binged watched it already hahaha)

In the next Quarantine Diary Entry, I plan on discussing how I have been able to stay in contact with friends by using technology to our advantage (so thankful for FaceTime and Zoom!) so make sure you are on the lookout for that. Also, be sure to let me know what you guys have been up to during Quarantine 2020 by posting in the comments below. Until then, always be sure to love and live luxuriously!