Spotlight On Black Businesses: Day 2

Good Morning! I am back with Day 2 of my Spotlight On Black Businesses. These next 3 businesses are my go to ladies for my protective style needs and new go to online boutique for my fashion needs. I have known these 3 women for 10 + years and I am so happy that they stepped out on faith and started their own businesses. Read on to find more about these lovely ladies and their endeavors.

Shante (@suiteshante)

I just have to say Happy Birthday to my girl Tae!!! She is kicking off her thirty something (not gonna put her age out there like that) year with a bang! Today is not only her bday but it is also the official launch of her online boutique Suite Shante (www.suiteshante.com) I remember when Suite Shante was just a dream and to see her vision come to fruition has been motivation for me to get back on my grind. She is so deserving of all the success that is headed her way and mark my words, Suite Shante will be a premiere online boutique for trendy, chic clothing at an affordable price. I plan on taking flicks in the outfit that I’ve already chosen from the site(its hella cute!)  so check for those in upcoming posts! Make sure you follow her on IG @suiteshante for more information! Tae, Happy Happy Birthday! I am not sure what you will wish for but I am sure that whatever it is, you will make it happen because that’s just who you are! Thank you for always being there for me and giving me the push I needed to get back into the swing of things. I know that Suite Shante is just the tip of the iceberg so I am looking forward to what’s next.  We will definitely have a blast  on Sunday! Love ya

Tiffany (@_kustomkrownz)

There’s so much I can say about my oldest friend (Known her since we were 6 lol) but one thing that always stood out about Tiffany is her passion for life and desire to learn. She is self taught as it relates to making wigs and was the only person that could get me in a wig for longer than a day because of how skilled and talented she is! Through her company Kustom Krownz, she sells high quality virgin hair extensions (which I can honestly say last for a long time!) and custom made wig units which she will cut, dye, style and whatever else you desire!  Recently, she opened up her own salon suite right outside of Las Vegas. I am bummed that she is so far away but so proud of her making that move in order to grow and expand. Fortunately for me and her other customers outside of Nevada, she does ship so make sure you hit her up at @_kustomkrownz and tell her that Angie sent you so I can get a discount lmao…seriously though if you want high quality extensions and wigs at reasonable prices, Kustom Krownz is the way to go! Tiffany, 27 years of friendship and counting and I have never been more proud of you than I am now. Your growth and ability to seize the moment has led you to all of the success you have had so far and there is still so much more to go. I will be out there as soon as I can to see your salon. Love ya!!!

Tiarah (@crochet_queen9)

There isn’t just one word I can use to describe Tiarah because she is funny, chill, friendly, serious, crazy (in the best way possible!) and very talented. The box braid style you see in the pic was done by her masterful hands (don’t ask her to do this particular style for you cause I was at her house forever and she’s just not gonna do it ever again lol) and I love the result! Crochet & Slay is her company where she will crochet (obviously!) braid, and twist your hair to give you a style that works for your taste and budget. I stopped going to braiding salons because I feel that Tiarah takes the time (literally!) and effort into giving you exactly what you want without the headache and tension that can happen when you let others braid your hair. Make sure you hit her up @crochet_queen9 for an appointment and view the various styles and satisfied clients she has. Tiarah, I am so proud of you and all of the moves you are making to ensure a better future for you and your family. Following your passion is tough but you have put in the work which is half the battle. Can’t wait to see where Crochet & Slay goes and just remember that you can do anything you set your mind to! Love you girl!

Tomorrow will be the spotlight on the last 3 businesses/endeavors so make sure you come back to view my post! Also, if you own a business, comment below so I can shout you out in a future post! Thanks for the support and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

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Amore Luxe.com is On Hiatus!

img_0291Happy New Year! It’s been about 4 months since my last post and I told myself that I would stop with the BS excuses in 2019 so I’m just going to be honest with you. I have no idea what I wanted to do with “Amore Luxe”. What began as a passion/hobby started to feel like a burden. I was depressed and discouraged and didn’t want to write about that so I stayed away. I would occasionally pop up and try to impart words of wisdom but it didn’t feel completely genuine so I felt that it was best that I stayed away until I had something positive/fun/uplifting to write about. Days turned into weeks and weeks turned into months and before I knew it, 2019 was here! I told myself that I wouldn’t start this year off the same way as I did all the others: broken promises and more bs so I’m posting today to tell you that I’m still figuring out what direction I want this blog to go into. No major announcements will happen until I know exactly what I want to do. I have ideas but until they are made a reality, I am going to work behind the scenes and really plan things out.  Although there won’t be any posts for the time being, I am still active on social media (Angela Cherai on FB and @amoreluxe_ on IG) so you can reach me there and “Amore Luxe Media” is up and running so hit me up for all of your social media/content writing needs! Thank you for your continued patience and I will make sure that all of the changes are worth the wait! Talk to you soon!!

Until then,

Love and Live Luxuriously!

 

My List of “Non-Negotiables”

Good Morning! At this point in my life, I am the epitome of a “work in progress” and one of the things I’m working on is being more consistent. I am frustrated with myself for not posting as consistently as I would like but it is something I continue to work on by brainstorming and not being afraid to ask others for advice. With that being said, the topic of this post came from my therapist who suggested I share some of the things that I’ve discussed with her during our sessions. I have discussed my past relationship with her in great detail (and with you guys as well!) and focusing on the areas where I settled and compromised when it went against everything I wanted and stood for. She suggested that I create a list of “non-negotiables”, basically a list of things I am not willing to compromise on in a future partner. My list is kinda long lol so I won’t share every non-negotiable but here are the top 3 non-negotiables that apply to my dating life which I feel that many of you can relate to as well!

My future partner will not be involved in any social media drama (or any drama for that matter!)

In my previous post, I spoke about how social media can be harmful in a relationship in my last post and although I’ve never dealt with any drama personally, I’ve seen how it can ruin relationships from viewing other people’s drama on my feed. I told myself that I would never be involved with anyone that will let the perception of social media distort their reality and I wouldn’t go back and forth publicly with anyone on social media especially if it’s regarding my personal life. Anyone who thrives off of internet drama is someone who needs to stay as far away from me as possible because I am all about maintaining positive vibes in 2018 and beyond!

My future partner is open to a committed relationship that will lead to marriage

Now this was something that I knew I wanted but was afraid to admit because I didn’t want it to seem like I was being forceful or asking for too much but my therapist made me realize that wanting more out of a relationship and being upfront about it is the mature thing to do. I realized that by settling for behaviors like not making plans in advance, not meeting family or friends and not talking about the future did not demonstrate that I wanted a committed relationship and when I would mention these things in my last relationship, it was either brushed off or excuses were made which showed that he did not want the same things I did. I told myself that in my next relationship, I would be clear about what I wanted and if my needs could not be met, then there would be no need for us to go any further! Being honest with your partner is important but being honest with yourself should be your number one priority!

My future partner is willing to be completely honest, transparent and open

Now this one is the most important to me because I dealt with someone who was vague, indirect and secretive when it came to talking about himself. I understand that some people have trust issues and aren’t going to open up right away and that is fine but when you are involved with someone for a several years and you feel like you really don’t know the essence of who they are, then you have a problem. Knowing the basics is a given but if a real connection is to happen, I feel like certain truths have to be shared that may be uncomfortable to talk about or may leave you feeling vulnerable. If your partner is holding back things from you or you feel that you have to be “Inspector Gadget” to find out what’s going on with him/her, chances are they aren’t ready for that next level and you have to respond accordingly…in other words: MOVE ON!

The most important thing I’ve learned from creating my non-negotiables list is that the qualities, traits and behaviors I want from my future partner will be shown in time and when someone shows you who they are, you have to believe them and take their actions at face value. My non-negotiables list has helped me to be completely honest with myself and what I want and is a guideline for the things I should look for in my next relationship. Everyone’s list will be different but regardless of what is included, always stay true to yourself and what you want from your partner. Most importantly, you have to be able to also be able to possess those same qualities and traits that you are requiring from your partner. It is so easy to stay complacent in a relationship or situation that isn’t going anywhere but being firm on your standards and not settling will be much more rewarding in the end. Until then, I’m just focusing on “AmoreLuxe.com (Of course!) Amore Luxe Media, and improving my mental, physical and emotional well-being. I will continue to keep you updated 🙂

What are your non-negotiables? I’m curious especially since I can always add to my list! Feel free to share them in the comments section below. Until my next post, always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Is Social Media Helpful or Harmful When It Comes To Dating?

Good Morning! I know I said I was going to post on Monday but I have had the hardest time trying to think of things to write. Same ish different day basically but I was talking to my therapist about needing things to talk about and she suggested that I discuss how social media has affected dating in modern times. As a social media marketer, I know how important social media is as far as promoting businesses and services as well as staying connected to family and friends that you may not get to see often. As far as dating goes though, I never thought about the effect it may have on relationships especially since the last guy I was seeing didn’t have any social media pages (or so he says lol) so that was never an issue for me. I started thinking about the pros and cons of social media as it relates to dating and while social media has been beneficial in building friendships and professional relationships, I think it has done more harm than good on the dating front.  I’ve seen my fair share of drama on social media and sad to say, the majority of the drama was relationship related.

One of the reasons why I think social media has been a hinderance on dating is because you lose a lot of the excitement of getting to know someone without checking their Instagram or Facebook page to get a feel of who they are. I feel that social media isn’t a true reflection of a person but instead, a calculated and curated image of how he or she wants to be perceived. Perception doesn’t always equal reality so instead of trying to decipher what certain quotes mean or falling in lust over a heavily filtered image, step away from your computer or phone and allow yourself to get to know someone without any preconceived notions based on their profiles.

Another problem with dating while on social media is that many people use likes, comments and statuses as validation. If a guy/girl doesn’t change their relationship status publicly or post pics on social media of them being in a relationship, suddenly there’s an issue because the other person is looking for social media acceptance and/or approval. Your relationship isn’t “real” unless everyone knows about it. Facebook/Instagram/Twitter should not be the deciding factor on whether your love is real or feelings are mutual. Now I’m not saying that it’s okay for your significant other to intentionally not post pics or follow you because he/she doesn’t want anyone to know that they are involved but it should be a natural progression and based on the person’s comfort level. There are people who aren’t into posting their daily lives on social media because it is outside their comfort zone and that should be respected. Navigating the social media space can be tricky but how a relationship should be shared should be decided between two people not the world-wide web.

The biggest issue I have with social media and dating is the disconnect that comes when people become dependent on social media interactions instead of face to face connections. Personally, I don’t want Facebook messages or dms on Instagram to become a main form of communication when getting to know someone. If you are interested in me, show it by asking me for my number and talking to me on the phone so we can set up a real date. Liking my pics or commenting with heart emojis don’t mean as much as sending flowers and notes. It’s the thought and effort that counts and social media interactions require little thought and effort but actions speak volumes. Even if the connection may start online, the face to face interactions are what will build and strengthen the connection that will hopefully last beyond the confines of cyberspace.

I don’t know of any instances where relationships built off of social media input and suggestions have stood the test of time but I could be wrong. I just don’t think that creating a potential reality show or melodrama for your social media followers is the way to longevity in a relationship. There should be balance and everyone including myself( in my next relationship!) have to find that social media/real-life balance that works for them and their relationship. Have you had social media drama that came at the expense of your relationship? Let me know in the comments below (yup I’m nosy lol). I’ll be back on Friday with another dating related post so stay tuned! As always, remember to love and live luxuriously!