Don’t Be Afraid To Speak Your Mind

Good Morning! As I have stated previously, I want this site to be a safe space where we all can share our thoughts and feelings without judgment. I never want anyone to feel like they can’t be their authentic self because I know what it feels like to hold back and not feel as if I was being true to who I was and what I believed in. Having confidence wasn’t enough to lead a life with conviction and purpose. In order to be successful and live my life on my terms, I had to speak my mind and follow through with my actions.

One situation that comes to mind when I regretted not speaking up for myself happened when I was 20. I was very shy and passive and while I was on a trip to LA with a group of girls, we went to an expensive restaurant which had a huge bill that we all had to split. I put the amount that I was supposed to put in but was accused of not paying the right amount but instead of speaking up for myself, I caved in and added an additional amount to my bill. I was mad at myself after because I let peer pressure and the fear of confrontation silence my voice which a person should never do. I was young and naive in many ways but that incident taught me a lesson. If I don’t speak up for what I feel is right, I will be the one who suffers. That was a turning point for me and even though it took time for me to feel comfortable to speak my mind, I never put myself  in a situation where I allowed others to speak for me ever again.

I still try to avoid confrontation but if there is an issue that is weighing heavily on my mind/heart, I don’t hesitate to speak up regardless of what the consequences will be. There is a quote that goes “It’s not what they call you, it’s what you answer to” and any inaction or deterrence on your part speaks volumes about your character. Now I am not saying to start arguments or be difficult or disagreeable just because but if you really feel strongly about something and want to make it right, do not hesitate to voice your opinion on what you feel is right. This is something I have to remind myself of periodically when I feel wronged and I always try my best to be rational and logical about a situation and not base my actions solely off of emotion. Gotta find that balance!

Has there been a point in your life where you were afraid to speak up for what you wanted or believed in? If so, what did you do to change things around? Let me know in the comments! I’ll be back on Monday but until then, have a great weekend and be sure to love and live luxuriously!

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Lessons I Wish I Knew Before I Entered My 30’s

Good Morning! 2019 has been a year of self-reflection and making moves based on what makes me happy instead of what I feel is expected of me. I realized that in my 30’s, there is no more room for playing around. I have to get on my grind with no more excuses or apologies. Even though I have no regrets on any past decisions I’ve made, there are things I wish I knew before I entered my 30’s. Read on to see what my Top 3 life lessons are!

Your Journey Is Yours And No One Else’s
Ever since I could remember, I wanted to be part of the entertainment industry. I always assumed I was going to be behind the scenes doing A&R because I was shyer in my younger years and just wanted to work on artist development and help the artist reach his/her full potential. Around 2009, I started blogging on the Blogger platform and sharing my personal experiences as well as my poetry and someone suggested that I turn my blog into a website that goes into further detail about love, sex and relationships. I liked the idea and launched my website (then known as The Angielala Experience) in 2010. It was through the site that I realized that I enjoyed being in front of the camera especially when I was part of discussion panels and hosting events at my college. I  found my true calling and decided that I was going to become the Internet Oprah. I felt that I was on my way when I landed interviews with celebs such as Trey Songz, Chilli and Naturi Naughton as well as working for brands like Kodak while in college but by the time I hit 30, it felt like my career was at a standstill. I wasn’t fulfilled in my personal life or my professional life and it seemed like everyone had it together but me. By the time 2017 came around, I was at my lowest point.  I lost my father 3 years prior and my grandmother in October 2017 so that along with the fact that I felt stuck at my job made me feel like there was nothing to look forward to. After much thought along with the encouragement from my friends, I decided to go to therapy which was one of the best decisions I’ve made. Therapy made me realize that I don’t have to have it together right away and that as long as I was making the steps necessary to bring about change. Most importantly, I’ve learned that comparison is the thief of joy and that by focusing on what others are doing, I lose sight of my overall goals and treat the journey as a race when its a marathon. I am not where I want to be but I am much further than where I was when I was at my lowest point and that’s because I have tunnel vision and am only in competition with myself.

The One You Are Meant To Be With Will Come Along When The Time Is Right

I was never the type of woman who liked to date. When I like someone, I tend to get attached and want to settle down and be in a relationship. I am picky so if I fall for someone, its because I see something in them that makes them stand out. Unfortunately, the bad has outweighed the good especially in my last situationship and instead of letting go and moving on, I stuck around and tried to make things work because I didn’t want to be alone. As I stated previously, I don’t have any regrets but staying in that situation held me back from being the best version of myself. How can I promote confidence when I am in a situation that has me doubting myself and what I deserve? When you know better you do better so instead of trying to convince him or change his mind about us, I finally let him go and decided to use that energy to get my life together. It feels so refreshing to not worry about someone who in all honestly didn’t put that much energy and time into worrying about me. I know now that I can only focus on what I can control and that’s the decisions I make and how I see myself and once I realized that, things started to fall into place. I know that the right man will come along when I am ready to see him and receive him but until then, my physical, mental and emotional well-being are my priority and though I am single, I am not lonely because I am using this time to fall in love with myself!

 

You Have To To Make Self-Care A Priority

When I was in my 20’s I was thin and could eat just about anything without worrying about gaining weight but as soon as 30 hit, I noticed the pounds coming on and by the time I was 32 in 2018 , I had gained a good 15-20 pounds and while I love the extra weight in my boobs and thighs, the stomach pudge has got to go! I haven’t been as consistent with diet and exercise as I should have but I will get it together! Most importantly, I had to take time out to pamper myself like giving myself a mani/pedi and meditating to ease any anxiety and stress. Going to the spa helps as well and I’ve been a few times in the past few years and plan on making more trips. I also want to do yoga but I’m not trying to spend money so I’m considering doing it from home for now. Although these activities are nothing major, they make me feel better about myself and when I feel good about myself, I can conquer the world!

 

What are some life lessons you wished you knew before entering your 30’s? Let me know in the comments section below. New post coming on Friday so stay tuned for that! Until then, always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

Confidence Is Series Episode 1: Andrea Leilani

Good Morning! When I was thinking about what I wanted “Amore Luxe” to become after changing the name and rebranding back in 2014, I thought about all of the things that I struggled with growing up and how those issues affected me into adulthood. Self-confidence is something that I always had an issue with especially when if felt like everyone else had it all together. Social media only added to my insecurities especially when so many of us only show the good side of our lives and leaving the pain, frustration and doubt out. I wanted to create a “safe space” where women could talk freely about what was going on in their lives without judgment and I would be transparent about my journey and process to becoming the best version of myself. It took some time to figure out exactly how I wanted to implement all of the ideas in my head (5 long years to be exact) but I finally got it together! One of the ideas was what I call “Confidence Is…” Series where I interview women who have overcome various adversities both seen and unseen to become the strong, powerful ladies we see today. These women would share their stories and what they had to go through in order to get to a place where they were happy with who they are regardless of the opinions of others. I had 3 women in mind that I wanted to start this series off with and I am so happy that I was able to get one of them for the first episode which was released on YouTube in June. Andrea Leilani is an amazing woman who struggled with her identity and confidence but once she decided to be true to herself and who she was, she was able to find happiness and radiate positivity and light to others.

You can view my interview with Andrea Leilani by clicking below and be sure to like/comment/share. Working on getting the 2nd episode together as we speak so be on the lookout for that. If someone you know would has an interesting/unique story on how they were able to become the best version of themselves, email me at angelacherai@gmail.com so I can share their story! Hope everyone has an amazing week and until next time, always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

Spotlight On Black Businesses: Day 2

Good Morning! I am back with Day 2 of my Spotlight On Black Businesses. These next 3 businesses are my go to ladies for my protective style needs and new go to online boutique for my fashion needs. I have known these 3 women for 10 + years and I am so happy that they stepped out on faith and started their own businesses. Read on to find more about these lovely ladies and their endeavors.

Shante (@suiteshante)

I just have to say Happy Birthday to my girl Tae!!! She is kicking off her thirty something (not gonna put her age out there like that) year with a bang! Today is not only her bday but it is also the official launch of her online boutique Suite Shante (www.suiteshante.com) I remember when Suite Shante was just a dream and to see her vision come to fruition has been motivation for me to get back on my grind. She is so deserving of all the success that is headed her way and mark my words, Suite Shante will be a premiere online boutique for trendy, chic clothing at an affordable price. I plan on taking flicks in the outfit that I’ve already chosen from the site(its hella cute!)  so check for those in upcoming posts! Make sure you follow her on IG @suiteshante for more information! Tae, Happy Happy Birthday! I am not sure what you will wish for but I am sure that whatever it is, you will make it happen because that’s just who you are! Thank you for always being there for me and giving me the push I needed to get back into the swing of things. I know that Suite Shante is just the tip of the iceberg so I am looking forward to what’s next.  We will definitely have a blast  on Sunday! Love ya

Tiffany (@_kustomkrownz)

There’s so much I can say about my oldest friend (Known her since we were 6 lol) but one thing that always stood out about Tiffany is her passion for life and desire to learn. She is self taught as it relates to making wigs and was the only person that could get me in a wig for longer than a day because of how skilled and talented she is! Through her company Kustom Krownz, she sells high quality virgin hair extensions (which I can honestly say last for a long time!) and custom made wig units which she will cut, dye, style and whatever else you desire!  Recently, she opened up her own salon suite right outside of Las Vegas. I am bummed that she is so far away but so proud of her making that move in order to grow and expand. Fortunately for me and her other customers outside of Nevada, she does ship so make sure you hit her up at @_kustomkrownz and tell her that Angie sent you so I can get a discount lmao…seriously though if you want high quality extensions and wigs at reasonable prices, Kustom Krownz is the way to go! Tiffany, 27 years of friendship and counting and I have never been more proud of you than I am now. Your growth and ability to seize the moment has led you to all of the success you have had so far and there is still so much more to go. I will be out there as soon as I can to see your salon. Love ya!!!

Tiarah (@crochet_queen9)

There isn’t just one word I can use to describe Tiarah because she is funny, chill, friendly, serious, crazy (in the best way possible!) and very talented. The box braid style you see in the pic was done by her masterful hands (don’t ask her to do this particular style for you cause I was at her house forever and she’s just not gonna do it ever again lol) and I love the result! Crochet & Slay is her company where she will crochet (obviously!) braid, and twist your hair to give you a style that works for your taste and budget. I stopped going to braiding salons because I feel that Tiarah takes the time (literally!) and effort into giving you exactly what you want without the headache and tension that can happen when you let others braid your hair. Make sure you hit her up @crochet_queen9 for an appointment and view the various styles and satisfied clients she has. Tiarah, I am so proud of you and all of the moves you are making to ensure a better future for you and your family. Following your passion is tough but you have put in the work which is half the battle. Can’t wait to see where Crochet & Slay goes and just remember that you can do anything you set your mind to! Love you girl!

Tomorrow will be the spotlight on the last 3 businesses/endeavors so make sure you come back to view my post! Also, if you own a business, comment below so I can shout you out in a future post! Thanks for the support and always remember to love and live luxuriously!