Life Updates: New Job Opportunities, Healthier Lifestyle and Focusing On Myself

Good Morning! I have been struggling with writer’s block once again but I told myself that I wouldn’t let it get to me like it always has in the past. I didn’t want to write a post where the focus is on having writer’s block lol so I decided to make this post a life update because as much as I discuss my life on here, I tend to avoid discussing my life on social media. Weird I know since my specialty is social media marketing but I don’t like sharing my life 24/7 especially since I don’t think that it’s that exciting but I do promote “Amore Luxe” and “Amore Luxe Media” more so it’s a start! I’m learning that I have to create the life that I want and stop waiting for opportunity to knock at my door. I also told myself that I wouldn’t settle and because of my commitment to myself, I have been slowly but surely seeing results in various areas of my life.

My goal is for “Amore Luxe Media” to be one of the biggest social media management companies out there. I am very passionate about how social media management can have a positive impact on building brand awareness and increasing sales for a business. I have been a freelance social media manager for a couple of businesses for years now but when I decided to take it seriously earlier this year, I wanted to make sure that I could offer great service and have a mutually beneficial relationship with my clients. I am always reading and trying to learn more about social media marketing and digital media and have received valuable advice from people I trust. I am acquiring new clients more regularly as well as promising job opportunities with other companies where I can assist and learn on the job. I feel that this is the path that will lead me to complete financial independence and lay a stronger foundation for “Amore Luxe Media” to stand on and thrive.

As far as my multiple attempts at a healthier lifestyle, I’ve tried and failed so much that I feel like I’ve wasted time and money without sticking to a diet and exercise routine to see results. The bad thing is that I know better! I know how to eat properly and what exercises need to be done to achieve the fitness goals I desire but when things get touch, I give in to temptation and unless I am committed to this lifestyle 100% mentally, the physical changes that I want to happen will not come to fruition. I am a very impulsive person who makes many decisions on a whim. Sometimes it’s helpful because I am not indecisive but as it relates to health and fitness, it’s been harmful because I haven’t been able to thoroughly plan and take things one step at a time instead of trying to dive in head first and overwhelming myself in the process. I’ve decided that I am going to implement little changes in my diet and exercise routine that will lead to bigger changes over time. One of the main things I want to do is to drink more water. Anyone who knows me knows that I don’t care for water and I know that our bodies are made of water and I should crave it and all of that but I just don’t care for it unless I am extremely hot and the water is extremely cold. I have to force myself to drink it and while adding things like lemons and strawberries helps, it still doesn’t make me want to drink it any more than I already do. I figured if I can drink at least three 20 ounce bottles a day on a regular basis, I can do anything! One goal at a time, one step at a time is the new mantra for my health and fitness journey. I will update you in future posts on my progress so wish me luck 🙂

I know I was gung-ho about online dating (read my post about that here) but now I’m starting to reconsider my decision. The recent news story about the online dating serial rapist/killer has added to my hesitance along with the fact that most of the guys I’ve found attractive are either looking for a “friends with benefits” situation or are just weird or lack conversation. I haven’t connected with anyone on any of the apps yet and I know that these things take time but I’m at a point now that I’d rather focus on what I can control and leave the rest in God’s hands. I’ve said “The Serenity Prayer” every night before bed and I want to stay true to its words. That means no stressing about my love life and choosing to direct that energy to becoming the best version of myself. I don’t think I’m going to delete the apps but I won’t actively search through profiles either. Whatever happens, happens and I’m perfectly fine with that!

What are your current goals and what steps are you taking to achieve them? Let me know in the comments section below. Working on ideas for my next post that will either be up on Wednesday or Thursday so stay tuned for that. Until then, remember to love and live luxuriously!

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Book Review: I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual

Image result for i'm judging youGood Morning! After a great weekend of hanging out with friends, I am ready to get back to blogging. As a certified book junkie, I wanted to start sharing my opinions on books that have resonated with me. I read a lot of romance/mystery/drama books but books that are funny, relatable and give valuable lessons and insights are few and far in between. That’s why I was so excited to read I am Judging You: The Do-Better Manual by blogger/digital strategist Luvvie Ajayi.

I started following Luvvie on Instagram (@luvvie) and her blog AwesomelyLuvvie.com and loved her wit and humor especially as it relates to pop culture, social media and everything in between. I knew I had to read her book and see what the “side-eye sorceress” had to say in greater detail. Even though the internet has connected all of us so we can stay in the loop,  it’s very refreshing to disconnect from the world for a bit and sit down with a good book in your hand (or iPad in my case!) and Luvvie’s book did not disappoint. Some of the memorable parts of the book for me were when she spoke about the “Dinner Scrooges” who make eating out an issue, the different types of friends that you most likely have in your circle (I am a former Flake so that paragraph hit me hard lol ) or the “promise ring” relationships that never seem to last! Even though I only know Luvvie through social media, I feel like she could definitely be one of my friends that would fit right in my inner circle. She would be the one who would make you laugh until you cry, be there to support and uplift you at your lowest points and would tell it like it is even if you don’t wanna hear it! Her “judgment” comes from a place of love and concern (and a bit of self-entertainment too) and as much as she can critique about what’s wrong with the world, she admits that she isn’t perfect and is still figuring this thing called life out (and doing a great job of it by the way!)

I assumed by the title that Luvvie was going to be somewhat preachy and although I do like reading books from experts in their respective fields, sometimes I just wanna laugh and nod my head in agreement without feeling personally targeted.  I’m Judging You does just that while slipping in a lot of gems in between. Luvvie has taught me that it’s okay not to put every moment your personal life on display on social media, (I was never really guilty of that but her words confirmed what I already believed) that there is no one way to live your life to be considered a feminist (thought I was going to have to start making picket signs and put empowering quotes by women in all of my sm bios lol) and most importantly, that we need to be aware of the specific privileges in our lives and help others who are oppressed in whatever way we can. That lesson stuck out because so many of us feel like victims of our own circumstances and feel that we can’t contribute unless it’s some grand gesture. Luvvie makes it clear that by speaking out on the behalf of others who are oppressed can mean a lot and by living your life as a person who tries their best to be a good person and bring positivity to others can be very impactful. I choose to help other women by sharing my stories and experiences to connect with others who may be going through something similar. I believe that together, we can make magic happen and I feel that Luvvie would definitely approve 😉

I don’t do ratings or anything like that but I’m Judging You is the equivalent of jollof rice for the soul (I’ve never had it but Luvvie is OBSESSED with it and I know my Ghanaian/Nigerian friends and readers would agree!) and its a recommended read for anyone who is in need of straight talk laced with laughter and encouragement. Now all I’m waiting for is for Luvvie to write her next book “I’m Doing Better, Now What?” and I’ll be all set!

If you’ve read I’m Judging You, let me know what you think in the comments section below and if you have any other books you would recommend to me, share those as well! Until the next time I post again, always remember to love and live luxuriously!

#MotivationMonday: Let go of what you cannot change

36e661fbc9b8f77232c494a807681139Good Afternoon! I know I haven’t posted in a week and to be honest, I didn’t feel up to it. I’ve been really bummed out lately and up until today, my anxiety was going into overdrive. I had a hard time falling asleep and when I finally did, I kept having weird dreams that I’m still trying to decipher. On top of all that, my chest felt tight and I knew I was worried/anxious but I wasn’t sure why. It took spending time with my grandmother yesterday for the light bulb to go off in my head and the conversation we had helped me get to the root of my anxiety which helped me to move forward.

My grandmother has soooooo many pictures from the time she graduated high school until now and as I mentioned in an earlier post “Photograph”, (https://amoreluxe.com/2016/10/12/photograph/) I love looking at them and hearing all the stories behind the pictures. As we came across a picture of my father who passed in 2014, we both started feeling melancholy and my grandma said “A mother isn’t supposed to outlive her child” and how she usually understands that everything happens for a reason but my father’s passing was something that she could never fully comprehend. I told her that some things just aren’t meant to be understood but that you have to accept it and find peace in knowing that things happen the way they are supposed to. Call it destiny, fate or whatever but what is meant to be will be. In that moment, I realized that most of my anxiety stemmed from the fact that I was worried about things that I could not change or control. I would ask myself questions like “Why did I slack off in my late teens-early 20’s at the first college I attended?” “Why did I waste so much time being involved with men who weren’t ready to commit?” and the one that I kept wasting energy on was “Why does it feel like I’m so behind in life compared to everyone else?” The answer to all of my questions was the same: Since it cannot be changed, I need to find peace with it and move on.  I can’t change the past so why do I continue to focus on the mistakes I’ve made as it relates to school or relationships?  I can only focus on the present and future and learn from those mistakes to make better choices that will bring happiness and success in my life. When it comes to worrying about others, it’s pointless because as I’ve stated many times before, everyone has their own journey and comparing my life to others doesn’t help me in my journey especially since I may not know what they went through to get to where they are today. Everyone has their own story and while I encourage others to go after their goals and dreams and live up to their potential, I only have control over my life and I need to direct my thoughts and energy on getting to where I want to be and look at positive examples and use that to fuel my motivation instead of allowing it to drain the passion that burns within me. I would say the “Serenity Prayer” every night before going to bed but last night was the first time in a long time that I said it and believed in the words I whispered to myself. For those of you who don’t know the “Serenity Prayer”, here it goes:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.

I know that the battle within myself isn’t  over yet but I am in a better mental space today and I am glad I am able to share all the craziness inside this head of mine with you! Let me know what you think and like/share this post if you were able to learn something from it 🙂 Check back on Wednesday for my next post which will probably be about what helps me to de-stress because I’ve tried any and everything to relax and stay focused so stay tuned for that!

 

Much love to you all and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

 

#MotivationMonday: Every day is a new beginning

every-new-day-is-a-chance-to-change-your-life-20130809592Good Afternoon! I spent all weekend trying to think of what to write and was hesitant to talk about the topic I came up with initially because it wasn’t truly authentic to what was going on in my life. It felt like a filler post and I told myself I didn’t want to do those type of posts just to have something up so I was going to wait until Wednesday to post until I saw my friend’s Facebook post. My homie Issac is someone I can always count on for inspiring/motivational posts and today was no different. In his FB post from this morning, he said “One of our most powerful abilities: The ability to change our minds..and don’t forget: you can always do it.” and that one statement was a catalyst in writing this post.

I realized that I was so focused on what I had done in the past and felt stuck in many ways in my present predicament. Even though I know that most of what I am going through is mental, it wasn’t until I read his post that I really understood that I am the one that can enact change in my life and that changing my mind or my perspective doesn’t mean I am wishy-washy but shows that I am being true to who I am. Now I am not saying that you should change your mind on everything every day, but use each day as a new beginning to right the wrongs from the past and to create/refine your vision for the future. We may not know what tomorrow will bring but if we can start and end each day with passion and purpose and the things we want are within our reach. I can’t speak for others but I have a lot to work on but instead of locking myself to specific times and dates for goals, I feel that taking things one step at a time and working on being positive and believing in myself and everything I want to achieve. Most importantly, I have to remember that every day is a new beginning and another chance to make things right:)

 

I think I am going to make an end of the year vision board that will be a starting point for everything I want to accomplish in 2017. Who’s with me??? If you’re down, make sure you like/comment/share because I would love to see what ideas you all come up with!

 

I hope everyone has a positive and productive week and always remember to love and live luxuriously!