Wisdom Wednesday: No More Excuses!

Good Morning!  I had another post ready to go but after having a conversation with a special someone, I realized that the topic that I had previously chosen really didn’t resonate with me and the writing process felt forced. I started thinking about what I have been dealing with and I realized with all that is going on in my life, I have been making excuses for not doing the things I said I was going to do. I know that if I really want something, I do whatever it takes to get what it is that I desire but lately, I have been making excuses for not achieving the goals I set out to do whether it is promoting “Amore Luxe Media” more, working out 2-3 times a week, drinking more water, etc. I don’t have any valid reasons why I can’t accomplish my goals but I have placed the feelings of comfort and contentment above the fear of failure and disappointment instead of focusing on the end result that will lead to happiness and fulfillment by accomplishing my goals.

My ultimate goal is to become stronger mentally, physically and spiritually. In order to accomplish this, I have to work on the things that are holding me back from being the best version of myself. Going to therapy has helped me improve my mental well-being but I have to do the work after my sessions which means that I need to use the tools that I learned in therapy such as positive thinking, decatastrophizing and meditation/breathing exercises in order to reap the benefits of what I have learned without making excuses that result into the old ways of thinking. As far as my physical well-being, I need to stop making excuses about not drinking water, eating healthier or going to the gym since they are attainable (especially since I pay for a monthly gym membership that is going to waste lol) Not messing up my hair or not wanting to drink water because of the taste isn’t a good enough excuse for me not to do the things that will improve my overall health. My father’s side of the family has a high risk of heart disease and making excuses solely because I don’t want to inconvenience myself is not only stupid but it is putting my health at risk. A temporary inconvenience should not be a deterrent from being in peak physical condition. Excuses are for those who lack the passion and drive to change their life and I refuse to continue to be part of that group!

As far as my professional goals are concerned, I am working on “Amore Luxe Media” holiday promo specials so be on the lookout for that! I also plan on doing a couple of panels and discussions for 2020 so if you are in the NYC/NJ area, definitely stay tuned for that. Most importantly, I just want to remain true to myself and my vision and “Amore Luxe” is a big part of that so thank you for your continued support. It means the world to me! I am in a pretty good place in my life right now and I can’t wait to see what the end of 2019 and the beginning of 2020 bring. I will be sure to keep you all updated every step of the way! I’ll be back with a new post on Friday or Monday depending on my schedule but until then, always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Wisdom Wednesday: Maintaining A Work/Life Balance

Good Afternoon! After getting back on my grind, the hardest thing was trying to find a good work/life balance. Incorporating effective time management skills was crucial for my sanity especially when I had multiple clients who required a lot from me and I was slowly but surely figuring it out. I had the work part on lock but trying to figure out how to have an active social life has been a bit more difficult especially when you want to date and hang out with your friends but its difficult when the assignment that you are working on for your client or having to get up early in the  morning for work is on the back of your mind! Finding that balance is difficult but I’ve realized that it is essential to your mental and physical well-being.

I realized that sticking to time restraints at work is vital to having time for a social life. I always create deadlines for myself that occur before  the actual deadline so I can rest assured knowing that the task was completed and I have room to make changes if needed. I also give myself time restraints as it relates to my social life. Those restraints have been a bit more difficult to follow especially if I am out enjoying myself but I know that I will pay for it in the end if I don’t! I’m still a work in progress when it comes to that part of my life but every time I wake up groggy and exhausted from the previous night’s events is a lesson learned lol

I love the fact that things are looking up in my professional and personal life but I still want to make sure that I don’t overextend myself in either direction. I always want to take time out for myself in order to feel relaxed and rejuvenated. I love binge watching my fave shows and taking naps but regardless of the activity, (or lack thereof) balance is the key!

Since I don’t have any client assignments for the week, I should be able to post on Friday. Make sure you follow me on IG (@amoreluxe_) and Facebook (Angela Cherai) if you have any suggestions for post ideas or any comments in general. Until the next time, always be sure to love and live luxuriously!

Wisdom Wednesday: Getting My Mind Right Again

Good Morning! I planned on posting on Monday about my weekend and a men only discussion panel that I went to with friends on Saturday but things didn’t go as planned. I didn’t have the time to work on the post and properly articulate my thoughts so I pushed it to the back of my mind and focused on the tasks at hand. It wasn’t until I was on hold with my bank (who I need to get rid of but that’s another story!) that I was becoming inconsistent once again with posting but unlike in the past, I had a lot to say but didn’t have the time to sit down, reflect on my day/week and just take a breather so that I could get in the right frame of mind to be able to create quality content. In other words, I needed to give myself some time to just relax and get my mind right.

When I was in a stagnant place financially and career wise, I kept asking God to make changes in my life so I could get to where I wanted to be. I wanted to be motivated enough to go after what I wanted and I wanted to acquire new clients for “Amore Luxe Media” so I could have the funds I needed to do the things that would help me achieve my goals. God answered my prayers but I wasn’t prepared for what he had in store! In 3 months time, I started a podcast with my homie, started posting consistently on “Amore Luxe”, went back to working at the daycare center in a solely administrative role AND acquired 3 consistent new clients and a few others. Needless to say, I felt blessed but overwhelmed. My days consist of doing light paperwork at the daycare and working on various assignments for my clients. Once a week, I head out to NYC to record the podcast with my homie DJ (visit http://www.weekendfriendz.com for more information on how to listen!) as well as my weekly therapy sessions on Wednesdays which are helpful but can be an inconvenience with my already busy schedule. In the midst of all of that, I joined the gym and wanted to go at least twice a week after work to get in shape but so far, that hasn’t been working out. My brain is fried and I feel tired and overwhelmed. While I am thankful that I am no longer unmotivated or feeling stagnant, I feel like I am being pulled at both ends and even though I try to plan my schedule accordingly, I just feel like there’s not enough time in the day to do all of the things I want to do. I started feeling anxious about everything and decided instead of going down that rabbit hole of worry and self-doubt, I needed to take a moment to myself to get my mind and spirit right so I can be the best version of myself when finishing all of these tasks. Doing this was easier said than done but it was absolutely necessary.

First, I had what I like to call a “mini meditation moment”. I sat down, closed my eyes and inhaled/exhaled for about 5 minutes. After I have my moment to myself, I recited positive affirmations to myself (“You got this” “You are capable of doing anything you put your mind to” etc.) and watched YouTube videos . Once I felt like I was in a better frame of mind, I focused on the most important task off of my list which was working on an assignment for one of my clients. After being satisfied with the amount of work I put in towards the assignment, I started getting ready for bed and settled in with enough time to have another mini meditation moment before going to sleep. I realized that while I work well under pressure, I am not a robot and need to take some “me time” in order to recalibrate and perform at the highest level. Everyone’s version of “me time” is different but these tips worked for me but regardless of what method/actions you take to get your mind right, make sure you do it because it is essential for your overall health and well-being!

I plan on talking about the men only discussion panel I attended in my next post on Friday so be on the lookout for that. Until then, make sure you continue to be the best version of yourself in all aspects of life and remember to love and live luxuriously!

Anxiety Is Not A Game!

Good Afternoon! The reason why this post was uploaded at noon and not at 9am like normally is because I couldn’t think of anything to write about at first. I thought about what issues am I facing currently and I realized that my anxiety has been creeping back in my life slowly but surely. There are different levels of anxiety and its an ongoing issue that I constantly deal with but I am learning to recognize the warning signs and learning how to better deal with those feelings as they come.

My anxiety usually appears in the form of heart palpitations, worst case scenario thoughts and the inability to be able to completely relax.  It happens as a result of an issue that feels out of my control or one that could have been prevented if I would have done something differently.  The anxiety began this weekend when I was out at a party and I accidentally broke something. Although the object that I broke appeared to be fixed, I was still worried about something happening where my friend would get in trouble or I would have to pay an exorbitant amount of money to repair/replace the object even though a high amount was unlikely. The night went south after that and between worrying about that and being concerned for the well-being of someone else close to me, I was stressed out all weekend. The stress lasted into Monday and yesterday where I was annoyed about not receiving payment from one of my clients for something I worked on for him and wanted to avoid confrontation although I was not at fault and feeling overwhelmed with deadlines for other clients. Since my anxiety only appeared to worsen throughout the day, I decided to disconnect from social media yesterday evening and went to sleep after watching my tv shows. Today I woke up still feeling anxious so I decided to start putting everything into perspective. If I end up having to pay for the broken object, I will work out a payment plan that won’t mess me up financially. I will be direct with all of my clients from now on regarding payment and not agree to work on projects with those who have a hard time following. I will continue to stick to deadlines but I will create a schedule that will allow me to pace myself and allow me to not feel so overwhelmed. Even though my anxiety will most likely pop up again in the future, I know that I can alleviate the symptoms by changing my thought process, decatastrophizing, and realizing that no matter what the outcome is, its not the end of the world even though my anxiety wants to convince me otherwise!

How do you deal with anxiety?  Let me know your tips in the comments. Still working on ideas for the next “Confidence Is…” Profile so if you or someone you know is the perfect example of confidence and strength in the face of adversity, email me at angelacherai@gmail.com so I can interview them! My next post will be up on Friday but until then, always be sure to love and live luxuriously!