Quarantine Diaries #3: How To Handle Anxiety

For anyone who needs this reminder, here you go 😉

Good Afternoon! I wanted to post my 3rd Quarantine Entry a few days ago but I am all about being honest and didn’t want to post about a topic where I couldn’t give you any advice on what worked for me because I was still dealing with a particular dilemma or issue. In this case, the issue is anxiety. I have discussed my anxiety issues in the past and how I’ve tried to stop catastrophizing situations and speak positive thoughts into my life. Being quarantined has made doing these things a bit more difficult and as a result, my anxiety has been coming in full force. Dealing with the tightness in my chest and heart palpitations are one thing but the never-ending negative thoughts are what really drive me crazy. Everything is always worst case scenario and in every scenario, I am the reason why certain things are happening even when I really have no control over the actual events that are taking place. In order for me to handle my anxiety, I had to figure out the root cause of why I was feeling the way I was.

Many of the thoughts that kept popping up were related to loneliness and frustration because I felt like the life I once had was gone forever. That life included me seeing my boyfriend on a regular basis and being able to make plans with friends. Even though I know that I am not the only one having a tough time with all of the pandemic related situations we have been forced in, my responses to them were extreme and I couldn’t understand why until I took a deep look at what usually triggers my anxiety. It was then that I realized that my personal insecurities were the contributing factor and they were having a serious effect on how I perceived situations. I read way too much into things people would say and feel slighted by their actions even if that was not their intention. I made mountains out of molehills and then the mountains created avalanches in my mind that kept spiraling out of control. It was my feelings of inadequacy that was the foundation of all of my inner conflict and frustration and once I realized that, I was able to handle my anxiety better by looking at situations for what they were instead of creating worst case scenarios in my mind. By just focusing on the facts and logic and not letting emotions cloud my judgment, I was able to see that in many instances, I was either overreacting, allowing my insecurities to exacerbate situations or just worrying about situations that were unlikely to happen because I was unable to see the bright side of the situation.

Anxiety is something that I deal with on a regular basis and in extreme situations like quarantine, the feelings hit me like a mack truck. I’m learning that when they do appear, I need to take a deep breath, assess the situation and think objectively in order to gain a better perspective on things. Most importantly, allowing insecurities to creep in every time something happens that comes off as a trigger feels like I’m playing the victim and although I have no control over what others say or do, I have complete control over how I think and respond and heading into negative territory does more harm than good. I am a work in progress but I am happy that I am learning how to combat the anxiety and worry right when it happens instead of letting it linger on for hours and days at a time. One good thing that has come out of being in quarantine is self-reflection which has allowed me to really hone in on what needs to be worked on in my life in order to have the life I want. In addition to improving my mental well-being, I am determined to improve my physical well-being by working out and eating better. I’ve started on my health and wellness journey and in the coming weeks, I will update you on my progress so stay tuned for that 🙂

Are there any tips or techniques you use to deal with anxiety? Share them in the comments below! I will be back next week with another quarantine diary entry but until then, I hope you have a great weekend and remember to love and live luxuriously!

Quarantine Diaries #2: Staying Connected With Family, Friends and Outside World

Good Afternoon! I meant to post this entry on Wednesday but I was sidetracked with my clients’ assignments (btw, if you are in need of writing assistance for essays, research papers, term papers, etc. email angelacherai@gmail.com so I can help you out!) but I definitely wanted to touch on this topic because so many of us are used to communicating with friends, family and even coworkers on a regular basis but social distancing makes communication tougher but not impossible. When talking on the phone isn’t enough, here are a few apps that have made this social distancing this a bit easier!

FaceTime (only for Apple product users)

Since I am a self-proclaimed Apple junkie, (I have an iPhone, iPad, MacBook Air and Apple Watch lol) I love video chatting via FaceTime. I haven’t been able to see my boyfriend in a few weeks but we FaceTime everyday which has made it a bit easier to deal with not seeing him on a regular basis. I also have group FaceTime chats with my friends who I met at my first real job (shoutout to BL crew) which is always entertaining to say the least. FaceTime is the easiest way to keep in contact with those you care about since its free and is included on all Apple products.

Google Hangouts/Zoom/Duo/In The House (can be used regardless of what type of device you have)

For those of you who don’t own any Apple products, (I don’t get it but whatever!) there are apps such as Google Hangouts, Zoom, Duo and one my girl Steffie just put me on to called In the House app. These apps are free and although Zoom has time restrictions for users who choose to use a free account, they allow easy communication with multiple people at once. I haven’t tried In The House yet but I prefer using Zoom with someone who has a premium account! I have been to 2 virtual birthday parties and a girls catchup chat and had sooooo much fun! Make sure your phone/internet connection is strong because these apps can use a lot of bandwidth and you want to be able to see and hear everyone clearly!

Instagram and Facebook live (features are available on all Instagram and Facebook apps)

I don’t usually go live on Instagram of Facebook myself but I love joining live sessions that my friends and influencers/celebs/notable individuals have. Ciara and Russell Wilson went on IG live a couple of weeks ago discussing their first date and what makes their relationship work and I was so enamored with them that I sat through the whole chat which is something that I rarely do lol. My hairstylist Regina Pearl went on IG live last week to discuss how to use the product kits she was selling to maintain your hair during this quarantine (smart idea right!) Various celebrities such as Neyo, Lil Jon and T-Pain have been doing battles that have been nostalgic and enjoyable. I also like to keep up to date with what’s going on in surrounding communities by watching the mayors of nearby cities discuss Coronavirus rules and regulations for their respective cities. Whether I watch Instagram/Facebook live to be entertained, educated or informed, Instagram and Facebook live have been helpful in ensuring that I am kept in the loop and keeps me occupied.

Regardless of whatever method you choose to stay connected, remember that the situation we all have been placed in is only temporary and life will go back to business as usual. This is the best way to eliminate unnecessary direct contact while still maintaining a sense of normalcy. Continue to follow CDC sanitary guidelines as well as the rules set forth by your city and state officials. We will get through this together and if you have any blog topic ideas, suggestions or just want to chat, comment below and I will be sure to get back at you:) Thanks for reading and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

Wisdom Wednesday: Making Moves In Silence

Good Morning! I have been seeing  multiple posts on social media about keeping certain things private in regards to the moves you are making personally and professionally. While this type of thinking would be counterproductive because I am a social media manager and blogger and have to post about what is going on with me to a certain extent, I understand the desire of not sharing all of my business on social media. I consider myself to be an open book when dealing with those who are close to me. I share everything that is going on in my life with the intention of receiving clarity or good advice. I have tried to do the same when sharing my life on social media but at times, it can be difficult because I want my social media posts and this blog to be positive and uplift others. Discussing low points in my life feels like it takes away from that but at the same time, I know that life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. I am trying to find that balance where my readers and viewers feel like they know me and can relate to what is going on with my life without feeling like I am overexposing myself or sharing things that should remain private. It has been difficult to find that balance but I feel that it is necessary in order to not let the opinions of others influence my decisions. 

I realize that by making moves in silence, social media doesn’t have an impact on my decisions. I am not making posts to stunt on Instagram/Facebook for the most likes. I post whenever I feel like it and its usually when I am happy about something in my personal life, inspired by something I’ve seen online or frustrated at something that I’ve seen online and feel the need to speak on it in order to release whatever emotions are plaguing me at the time. I don’t create posts for controversy or drama although there have been a few hot button issues that have gotten people talking 😂 My goal is to just do what feels right for me without the influence of any outside sources and I encourage you all to do the same!

How do you feel about making moves in silence? Let me know in the comments section. Be sure to follow me on IG (@amoreluxe_) and on Facebook (Angela Cherai) to stay in the loop whenever I decide to post 😝 Until the next blog entry, be sure to love and live luxuriously!

New Year, Improved Me!

D9FE907C-A2EF-41A9-AA4C-2AE816316CC2Happy New Year! I know I have been MIA but its been for a pretty good reason. I am in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship so most of my free time has been spent with my boyfriend 🙂 Its been great because I haven’t been this happy in a long time but as a result, I have been slacking with posts. I won’t apologize for finding happiness but I do plan on managing my time wisely this year. I have come up with a list of things I want to achieve for 2020 which I will touch on in a minute but everything included on my list aren’t goals to change myself completely as much as they are to improve the foundation that has already been set because I like who I am becoming and don’t need to do a complete 180 in order to see results.

I am using my 2020 goals as a way of tightening up and instead of putting specific dates on all of my goals, I am using the new year as a starting point where I can reevaluate what has worked so far and adjust accordingly by adding specific requirements in order to achieve goals. I joined the gym last year but haven’t been working out and one of the reasons was because I didn’t have a specific goal in mind. I wanted to lose weight but I wasn’t sure how much and I knew that I would have to have healthier eating habits in order to achieve any lasting results. My goal in 2020 is to lose 15 pounds and tone up and  in addition to working out and focusing on exercises that target the midsection, I plan on cutting out white foods (bread, rice pasta, etc) limit dairy, red meat and processed foods and my biggest addiction which is soda specifically Coke and drink more water. Anyone that knows me knows how hard this will be for me because I love my Coca Cola but I know that I have to do better to be better and this is one of the challenges that I have to overcome to get to where I need to be.

Another goal of mine is to save $$$ in 2020. I spent a lot of $$$ this holiday season but I vowed to myself that I wouldn’t spend any more $$$ on frivolous items on a regular basis. I am also looking for additional streams of income to make more money to save so back on the job hunt I go! I have many things I want to accomplish and I have seen so many tips and tricks on saving $$$ with a limited budget so why should I be any different??? I am going to work with what I currently have but at the same time, I am going to seek out other opportunities in order to get my finances to where I want them to be. There are so many things I want to do but I need the funds so I will restrict myself spending wise now to benefit from the fruits of my labor later!

Most of my goals consist of not taking the easy way out and choosing to challenge myself past my current mental and physical limits in order to become a better version of myself. There is nothing permanent in life except change so I am learning how to not only face change head on but to embrace all that comes with it! Regardless of what your New Year Resolutions/Goals are, understand that change is inevitable and necessary to get to that next level!

What are your New Year’s Resolutions? Let me know in the comments below. I’ll be back next week with a new post but until then always remember to love and live luxuriously!