No More Excuses

Excuses_1680x1050Good Morning everyone! I went MIA for the last 4 weeks because I was in dire need of inspiration. I let things in my life get the best of me and I started to settle instead of going after everything I always wanted. Yesterday on my way to church, I had an epiphany of sorts. I realized that when I really wanted something. I was always able to achieve it and when I didn’t want it bad enough, I made excuses for my actions instead of accepting the fact that things that are really worth it aren’t going to come as easily. My biggest obstacles are finding a job that will allow me to make a real living and give me the flexibility to do things that are my passion such as working on things related to the site and to get my driver’s license. I have a fear of driving that I have tried to overcome for a very long time and instead of dealing with it head on, I put it to the side and “plan”on dealing with it later. It’s embarrassing to talk about but I realized that maybe the embarrassment will help me deal with the fear. Feeling like something is stopping me from reaching my full potential is far worse than worrying about what others think of me. My journey is my own and being scared/embarrassed/hesitant will only continue to hold me back. Those are just excuses that I attempted to use as a crutch but instead it became a heavy weight that I’ve dragged around for too long. Greatness takes time and we all are a work in progress but I have to be consistent and put in the work if I plan on seeing any results.  I know now that excuses are temporary bandages that only hide what still lies beneath. Handling issues head on may hurt at the beginning but the pain ans struggle will be worth it when my goals are achieved and my dreams are coming true before my eyes.

Much love to you all and thank you for coming along this journey with me. There is so much in store so stay tuned!

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Meant To Be

post-4023-What-s-meant-to-be-will-always-qNIPHey everyone! It’s been a few weeks since my last post and part of the reason was technical issue with the site but the main reason I haven’t been posting is because I struggled both personally and professionally. I have talked about me being frustrated as far as where I am in love and in life as a whole but for the past week, the frustration has built and brought about anxiety and tension. I know that change starts in the mind and that you have to conceive something for it to be achieved but somewhere along the way, self-pity and doubt creeped in and lingered throughout my day. Talking about these feelings help somewhat but when I am alone once again, I start thinking and wishing that things were different.

The worst habit that I have is that I compare my life and current situation to that of my peers who I feel are more successful in their love life, career or both in some cases. I will be 29 in 11 days and I always thought that I would have it all together by the time I was approaching 30. I thought I would have a successful marketing career and have the site bring me closer to my dreams of being the “Internet Oprah”.As far as my love life, I thought I would be in a committed relationship on the road to marriage. I want children someday but as long as my career and love life were on track, I figured having 2 kids would fall into place sometime in  my early 30’s. My reality is far different from my earlier expectations. I am working 2 part-time jobs, one which I can’t stand (retail) and the other which I like (tutoring) but isn’t my passion or purpose. I am attempting to date but it has been hard to let go of my old habits and feelings towards the opposite sex and how I view myself. I know that I have to work on myself before I can be in a successful relationship but I also want to date and relax without the pressure of always expecting more especially when I can tell that things aren’t headed in that direction. Most importantly, I want to stop comparing myself to others because I know that my journey is my own and my story is not the same as everyone else. I may want different things out of life and have different ideas on what success is so for me to compare my life to others is doing a disservice to myself. What is meant to be will be and I need to take charge and focus on changing the things I can and learning how to leave everything else in God’s hands. Acknowledgement of my issues is the first step and sharing these issues with you all is a form of therapy for me. I hope that my journey will be helpful to others especially if you are going through a similar situation. Life can be  unpredictable and overwhelming but can also amazing as long as you can be the best version of yourself, give your all when you really want something, and most importantly, have no regrets.

I never considered myself to be an expert of any kind because I am learning day by day on how to live the best life for myself. Life is the greatest teacher and has made me realize how strong I am, how much I have grown and how far I have come from the person I was a decade ago. The right amount of pressure makes diamonds so please be patient with me because I am going to work hard on “Amore Luxe” and on being the person I want to be so I can shine and spread my inner light with others in hopes that they can do the same.

 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

The Pursuit of Confidence

invisiblecrownGood Morning! While I was watching television last night, a commercial caught my eye. I knew it was obviously selling something but the main character was a guy who walked with such confidence, everyone who encountered him thought he had to be someone who is important such as a movie star, spy or surgeon. At the end of the commercial, the viewer finds out that he is a hotel staff member but the thing that gives him this air of confidence is his Axe Body Spray. While I thought the ending was corny, I liked the concept because I truly do believe it is all about how you carry yourself. Perception is reality to many and you have to believe in yourself before anyone else will. I know that it can be difficult to feel confident in yourself or your abilities, but you never know who’s watching.

The “Confidence Campaign” began as an idea where I wanted to spread the message of how being confident in yourself is essential for love, success and overall well-being. I wanted to feel confident while tweeting and posting on the site. I wanted to exude confidence while making YouTube videos and hosting events. I wanted others to look up to me while showing the best version of myself at speaking engagements. The only issue I had with that was on most days, I wasn’t feeling confident in myself. I didn’t want to pretend because I always prided myself on being honest with my readers and viewers. What I failed to realize is that like happiness, confidence is a journey and not a destination. Confidence isn’t something that happens overnight. You have to be true to yourself even when it may not be the “popular” thing to do. Friends may be lost along the way because they aren’t happy with you when you are happy with yourself. Relationships can be broken once you realize your self-worth and stop settling for mediocrity. Risks have to be taken and rules have to be broken. These are difficult situations to handle and are a process but once you start on your journey to being confident, life has a way of giving you even more than what you asked for. You just have to know that you deserve it!

With that being said, I want you all to join me on my “Confidence Journey”. I promise to be as honest and transparent as possible, not only to help others on their journey but to become the best version of myself in all aspects of life. I am going to talk about the good (30 Days of Confidence Challenge) the bad (my fear of driving and underlying commitment phobia) and everything in between. No matter what you are going through, always remember that it isn’t where you came from that matters, but where you are going. Can’t wait for us to take this journey together:)

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

Playing Catch Up 

catchupGood morning! I was on my way to work yesterday when I started thinking about how I felt like all my life, I felt like I was playing catch up. I didn’t date until college, I didn’t graduate from college until I was 27 and I am not where I want to be in my personal or professional life. I have been blessed with many opportunities but I don’t always take advantage of them and I asked myself “Why does it seem that I haven’t fully gotten the grasp of this “life” thing?” The answer that I received surprised me. I don’t think that anyone has fully gotten the grasp of life because for as many successes that I’ve witnessed from others, there have been just as many failures if not more.

I had a talk with a friend yesterday and she gave me something to think about. She asked me”If everyone posted every moment of their lives on social media, do you think that their lives would look as picture perfect as it seems?” The answer is a resounding “NO”. People post the positive things that are going on not always to seem to be doing better than they are but instead, they want to attract the positive energy that they receive when putting positive vibes in the atmosphere. That is what I try to do but I know that I still have to acknowledge and handle the negative obstacles that come in my way. If everything in life was perfect, there would be nothing to strive for. There cannot be passion and pleasure without pain. I truly do believe that they go hand in hand. I won’t lie and tell you that I want to go through the bad to get to the good but I know it is what has to be done.

Everyone has their own journey that they have to travel to get to where they need to be and maybe my missteps along the way may have felt like they were holding me back from my goals but I’m slowly realizing that everything happens the way it’s supposed to and even if I’m playing catch up, I’ll get to where I need to be soon enough!