Good Morning! I had another idea for a post that I plan on discussing in the future but as soon as I saw the video of a project I was involved in on YouTube, everything changed! Last summer, I decided to step outside of my comfort zone (see what I did there!) and go out on a blind date. Simone and her co-producers created a dating docuseries called “Date to Date” and interviewed a group of people (including myself) in their 20’s and 30’s in the NYC area and asked about our dating preferences. After recording the information, they matched us up with people who they felt fit the desired traits that we mentioned previously and set up 2 dates with the chosen person in hopes that we would get to know each other a bit better and possibly connect on a deeper level. And they would be there to capture it all on film! I was matched with a really sweet guy named Wesley. Our first date consisted of us talking and creating our own salads. Simple enough right! We discussed our dream vacation spots, qualities we like in the opposite sex and a bit about our past relationships. You can view highlights from our date by watching the episode below (I have it cued to where my part starts bur I encourage you to watch the entire episode because its really good!)
I know you guys want to know what happened after our date and if I made a love connection. If you know me personally, you already know the deal but if you don’t you can check out today’s posts on my IG (@amoreluxe_) and FB (Angela Cherai) to find out the answer;) Special thanks to Simone, Essence and Malcolm of For Art’s Sake 125 for this interesting experience! New post coming Monday so be on the lookout for that! Until then, have an amazing weekend and be sure to love and live luxuriously.
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I would hold you in my arms…I would take the pain away…Thank you for all you’ve done …Forgive all your mistakes…There’s nothing I wouldn’t do… To hear your voice again… Sometimes I wanna call you but I know you won’t be there
As many of you know from an earlier post of mine, my father had a stroke and I have been MIA for the most part dealing with all of that. He passed away last Saturday and I was hesitant to post about it on here because I didn’t want to bring any sadness to anyone reading. Then a friend of mine reminded me that blogging is a release and that the good and the bad highlight humanity as a whole so I decided to share what has gone on in my head in hopes that it will possibly help someone else going through a similar situation.
Back in January, I wrote a post called “Daddy’s Little Girl” (http://theangielalaexperience.com/2014/01/09/daddys-little-girl/) where I discussed the issues I have had with my father. I was mad at him but also at myself because I wasn’t sure how we were going to make things better and when I wrote that post, we weren’t on speaking terms. Right before he left to stay with my grandmother in Florida, we made up in our own way and I helped him pack and gave him a kiss on the cheek and told him to have a safe trip. I didn’t feel sad or anything because I just knew he’d be back. If I had known that it was the last time I’d ever see him again, I know I would have done things differently. I would have talked a bit more, laughed a bit more with him and focused on the positive instead of what was lacking in our relationship. We spoke on the phone after that and he was always asking me to do something for him which annoyed the hell out of me but I did what he asked…eventually. In our last real conversation, he asked me if I missed him and I told him I did but that I wanted him to get his life together and he said that’s exactly what he was trying to do. I know in my heart that he was trying because he told my mom the same and wanted to make things up to her. It hurts so much that when he finally decided to turn his life around, he ended up losing his life in the process. I wish I would have been more patient and understanding and I wish I could have seen things from his point of view instead of being solely wrapped up in my emotions. I knew he loved me especially after everyone told me how proud he was of me but I hope he knew that I loved him too. I tell him every night before I go to sleep because it’s my way of making up for all the times I didn’t say it. I don’t believe in regrets because everything happens for a reason but I do wish that my father and I would have had more time together but I cherish all the moments we had, even the bad ones because now I am able to look back on it all and appreciate him for who he was.
I have learned that to move on, you have to forgive and allow others to forgive you as well. I hope that my daddy forgave me in his own way for my ignorance and selfishness that placed a strain on our relationship in the past. I can’t change what has happened but I can move forward knowing that he is in a better place and that even though I can’t see him, his presence lives on. I know that whenever I hear a Smokey Robinson (his favorite artist) song on the radio or see Rocky (the squirrel he used to feed crackers to) on our roof , that is his way of leaving a piece of him with me wherever I go. I am hurting now but I want anyone who has been through something like this or is going through it now to know that everything will be alright in time and those breakdown moments will come but it is to be expected and will clear the way for happier days ahead.
Much love to you all!
I was texting a friend of mine this morning and asked him why he’s been feeling so down lately. He mentioned that he was going through a breakup that had him feeling depressed. I remember what it feels like to have to end things with someone who you care about deeply and the pain that follows. It feels like everything is hopeless and at that moment, you can’t think of the light at the end of the tunnel…for many people, it is the lowest point where they start to breakdown. They have invested so much time and effort into their relationship and when the ball drops and everything is over, they don’t know where to go or what to do. That feeling of confusion and isolation can make the strongest person feel inadequate and while going through the low points, its hard to think about the future. Breakups are not limited to relationships. I was having a conversation with another friend of mine who lost his job recently and was depressed for a few months after. The job defined him in many ways and he felt important because of his position at the company. When he had to “break up” and leave the company he had worked at for years, it was as if a familiar part of him left as well. He felt as if he lost his identity and did not know where he fit in anymore. Things he was so confident and secure about seemed to be a distant memory. The “breakup” left him broken but at this moment, he is picking up the pieces and starting fresh with another company which has lifted his spirits greatly.
What many people fail to realize is that low points in our lives are inevitable but they are also temporary places of being as long as you gain the mental strength to pull yourself out of that slump. I have been through various kinds of breakups both in my personal and professional life and at the time, I felt like there was no hope. I sulked and pitied myself for a little while but when I realized that life went on regardless of how I felt about the world and the people and things that have hurt me. I decided then that I could either stay in this state and be stagnant or I could learn from it, grow and move forward. I chose the latter and I feel that I have made great progress since those breakups and breakdowns. I have a lot going on in my life at this moment but since I have dealt with breakdowns in the past, I see this moment in my life as a test of faith, character and strength. What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger and I feel that with every burden that comes along and attempts to weigh me down, I am slowly but surely learning to push them away and focus on the bigger picture that will leave me feeling fulfilled and whole. It is a difficult journey but one that I know will be worth my while.
Thank you for reading and as always