Good Morning! Last night as I was deciding what I wanted today’s challenge to be, I started thinking about the negative traits that I wanted to change about myself and one of them was gossiping. I am not as bad as some of my friends and family members but I still do indulge in gossip from time to time and that says more about my character than the person or people who I am speaking of. I can’t pretend that I like everything someone says or does but instead of focusing on the things that aren’t appealing or of interest of me when it comes to their appearance, behavior or overall personality, I could use that same time and effort into working on my life and the person I want to become. Gossip comes from a negative place and even though not all of it is meant to be malicious and hurtful (think about the funny and entertaining gossip blogs many of you read on a daily basis), it still demonstrates anger, envy, jealousy and other characteristics that are harmful to one’s mental well-being. They say misery loves company and a bunch of gossipers can spread misery and negative energy wherever they go.
I know how difficult it can be to stay away from gossip especially when your coworkers are talking about how much they can’t stand their boss or you turn on the television and watch yet another celebrity get bashed on TMZ but today, try your hardest to refrain from engaging in the chatter. Change the subject or walk away once someone attempts to bring you into the negative conversation. Turn the channel on the television or close out of the window of the site that is feeding negative energy about someone. Engage in other activities that are uplifting to yourself and others and you will feel better about yourself and life in general. Instead of the possibility of guilt or remorse after bashing someone, your confidence will rise because you didn’t have to put someone down to feel better about yourself and that is what this challenge and overall campaign is about. Affecting others in a favorable way will bring about good energy in your own life and will be clear to anyone who encounters you.
I made a conscious decision not to post challenges everyday because I don’t want this challenge to feel like work. On the “off” days, I want everyone to reflect on their progress so far and create goals that will bring them into a more confident frame of mind. I want to thank everyone who made it through week one of the “30 Day Confidence Challenge” and for those who are just starting, here’s a recap of the challenges so far:
Day 1: Finding “Me Time” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/09/day-1-confidence-challenge-treat-yourself-to-some-me-time/
Day 2: “Smile” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/10/day-2-confidence-challenge-smile/
Day 3 and Day 4: Challenge Break to work on “Confidence Goals”
Day 5: “Think Positive” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/13/day-5-confidence-challenge-think-positive/
Day 6- Reflection on Confidence Progress so far
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Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Morning! I hope everyone had an amazing weekend. On Friday, I wanted you all to use Day 3 and 4 of the “30 Day Confidence Challenge” to think of short-term goals that you want to achieve. It could be something as simple as taking time out to do your favorite activity once a week or something a bit more difficult like eating healthier. The goals should be ones that are confidence boosters and after you achieve them, you feel better about yourself and what the future brings. Before you can achieve any goal, you must have the right mindset to start with. Positive thinking is essential for achieving your goals because you have to believe you can do something before you actually do it. It can be difficult to have continuous positive thoughts especially when there is negativity all around whether it’s coming from your family, friends, coworkers or just life’s challenges in general. In times like these, you have to remember that there is always something to be thankful for. For every bad situation that you may encounter, there is always someone who has it worse than you. Being thankful for the little things is a place to start when thinking positively. Think of the positive things that happen as lights that are leading you through the darkness. They will increase in intensity as long as you give positive energy to them. Thinking negativity will dim those “positive” lights and leave you in a constant state of darkness.
In the popular book “The Secret” (which I’m reading), it emphasizes that we are what we attract. What we attract all starts in the mind and is delivered through our actions. If we think about what we want and put that energy into the atmosphere, we can have it and if we think about what we don’t want, we can have that as well. In other words, don’t waste your time thinking about the things you don’t want or don’t like and start thinking about the positive you want to come your way. Put those thoughts and ideas into action and you will definitely receive your hearts desires and then some!
I know it won’t be easy to maintain a positive frame of mind everyday so let’s start with today. Whenever you feel negativity creeping into your mental space, STOP it. Do whatever you have to do to bring yourself back to a positive mental space whether it’s taking a few minutes out for yourself for me time (Day 1 challenge), or thinking of things that make you smile (Day 2 challenge), make sure to do something because negative thoughts lead to negative actions whether you are conscious of it or not. The mind is a powerful instrument that can be beneficial or harmful to your life. Being positive will allow us to become the best versions of ourselves in all aspects of life and leading by example will help others do the same.
I want this to be an INTERACTIVE experience so please make sure you comment on here, Facebook, Twitter or Instagram with your thoughts and suggestions about the “Confidence Challenge” and encourage others to join in as well. Make sure you use the hashtags #confidencechallenge and #confidencecampaign when posting. I look forward to reading your posts 🙂
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Morning! We are on Day 2 of the “Confidence Challenge” and I am so happy for the feedback I have been receiving. Many challenges that I’ve seen online are usually ones that need people to do some type of physical activity such as the “30 Day Ab” and “30 day squat” challenges (I’ve done both and believe me, they were no fun at all!) and I realized that although implementing workout routines to change yourself on the outside is difficult, breaking bad habits that tear at your self-esteem is even more difficult because they require a change in attitude and behavior. You can’t just go through the motions and expect to see results, you actually have to believe it and want to change.
With that being said, I wanted us to start with exercises that seem simple but have a deeper purpose. Today, I challenge all of us to smile. Easy enough right? Well I want you to smile even if your co-worker or boss says something you don’t like. I want you to smile through all the bickering your kids may do or if your significant other is being neglectful, try being positive and work through your issue while maintaining a smile. This is not to say to act like everything is okay because that is unrealistic but your smile is a way of telling yourself that everything will work itself out. It’s a way to restore balance and peace and most importantly, your smile can be contagious and change the mood of the people around you and overall atmosphere. Smile while walking down the street or while exercising. Do things that will make you smile like listening to your favorite song or watching your favorite scene from a movie or tv show. The point is to smile regardless of your current predicament because we are not focusing on the past or present but what we want in the future. Confidence is the way to get to where you need to be and exuding happiness by smiling is one of the first steps to becoming the best version of yourself. You are what you attract so start attracting positive energy.
I’ll be back to posting more challenges on Monday but over the weekend, I want you to think of some short-term goals you want to accomplish. I shared mine in Monday’s post (getting my license, getting into this MBA program and finding a job that will benefit me and “Amore Luxe”) but come up with a few of your own and think about not what you have to do to accomplish them but instead, what things need to change about you and your situations to attain the things you desire. Make sure to share all of your progress on here or on Instagram/Twitter/Facebook by using the hashtags #confidencechallenge and #confidencecampaign. We are gonna be even more awesome at the end of the 30 days so let’s keep moving forward:)
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!