Motivation Monday: Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

Happy Labor Day! Since today is a holiday, I know a lot of people are off from work/school but tomorrow is the start of a brand new work week and the start of school for a lot of individuals so I wanted to start the week off with an inspirational post. I want everyone to aspire to be the best versions of themselves and one way to do that is to take risks and step outside of your comfort zone to attain the things that you desire. Many times, we become so complacent in life and are used to our everyday routine that we are afraid to step out on faith and believe that we deserve so much more than we are currently receiving that we settle and mistake being content for being happy. It can take a life changing experience for us to see things the way they really are and at that point, it is clear that a major change needs to be made in order to see different results.

My bff Felesha recently lost her job of 5+ years unexpectedly. Even though it wasn’t her dream job, she made decent money and was content in the role and place she was in at this point in her life. It took being fired to reignite the fire and passion inside of her to push her to challenge herself. She was so used to settling for what she thought was okay when in reality, she knew that the knowledge, skills and experience she has meant that she could ask for more not only from a career standpoint but in all aspects of her life. She was upset for a day or two but brushed herself off and went on the job hunt. Within a week after losing her job, she interviewed for another position and was offered the job. This position paid almost double compared to what she was earning before which will help her in accomplishing other goals she has. Her being fired was definitely a blessing in disguise and it took Felesha being outside of her comfort zone of having job security and unsure of what her future held for her to go after what she really wanted. Even though being fired is one way for you to end up outside of your comfort zone, that extra push may not come unexpectedly from things outside of your control. Sometimes, not being satisfied with your current circumstances and life choices is enough to inspire big changes that will shake things up!

I was stuck in a position where I was unhappy with my life and I took steps to get to the point where I am now. Settling for “just okay” was the worst thing I could do and being okay in fact was miserable. I wasn’t able to be the best version of myself because I wasn’t living to my fullest potential. I had to leave a toxic job, a toxic situationship and go to therapy in order to find clarity and purpose. I am well on my way to achieving everything that I dreamed of but I have experienced many uncomfortable moments along the way including loneliness, uncertainty and the absence of funds (being broke is a mentality so I don’t want to use that phrase anymore lol) but I know that being uncomfortable means that I am on the right path because nothing worth having comes easy!

I want all of you to step outside your comfort zone (if you haven’t already) to find happiness/love/success or whatever it is that you desire! I have discussed some of the things I’ve done to get on track to achieving my goals (check out my previous posts on going to therapy and being my own biggest fan for more details) but I plan on talking about more of those steps in future posts so be on the lookout for that. My next post on Wednesday will be based on a question that I posted on my social media so check me out on IG (@amoreluxe_) or on Facebook (Angela Cherai) if you want to share your thoughts on the particular topic;) I hope you have a great week and always make sure to love and live luxuriously!

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The 2017 Switch Up!

2017Happy Holidays everyone! I wanted to make 1 last post for 2016 before I decided to introduce a few of the changes I have in store for 2017. A lot of my friends and followers have been asking me why the posts on the site have been few and far in between and I would tell them that I was lacking inspiration which was true but there was more behind that statement.

Even though the issue was that I couldn’t think of anything to write about, I really didn’t want to write period. I feel that I can articulate myself better when I am talking to others whether it be through videos or face to face conversations. Writing is just something that I felt obligated to do because I have a blog site and written content is what’s expected so I tried to deliver to the best of my ability. The issue with that was that I wasn’t satisfied with most of my posts. I wanted to get back to doing what I love which is the videos/public speaking/discussions/hosting part of my life. Now my original issue which was the lack of inspiration comes into play.

I feel like talking about myself has become redundant and boring especially since I am still trying to figure a lot of things out and although so many people (including myself) like celeb gossip blogs, that was never the direction I wanted to go in with “Amore Luxe” so I kept wracking my brain trying to figure out what I could talk about that would be entertaining and intriguing without compromising my vision and I think I’ve finally got it! Stay tuned to see what I’ve come up with when I make my first post of 2017 next week ūüėČ Continue reading “The 2017 Switch Up!”

#MotivationMonday: Let go of what you cannot change

36e661fbc9b8f77232c494a807681139Good Afternoon! I know I haven’t posted in a week and to be honest, I didn’t feel up to it. I’ve been really bummed out lately and up until today, my anxiety was going into overdrive. I had a hard time falling asleep and when I finally did, I kept having weird dreams that I’m still trying to decipher. On top of all that, my chest felt tight and I knew I was worried/anxious but I wasn’t sure why. It took spending time with my grandmother yesterday for the light bulb to go off in my head and the conversation we had helped me get to the root of my anxiety which helped me to move forward.

My grandmother has soooooo many pictures from the time she graduated high school until now and as I mentioned in an earlier post “Photograph”, (https://amoreluxe.com/2016/10/12/photograph/) I love looking at them and hearing all the stories behind the pictures. As we came across a picture of my father who passed in 2014, we both started feeling melancholy and my grandma said “A mother isn’t supposed to outlive her child” and how she usually understands that everything happens for a reason but my father’s passing was something that she could never fully comprehend. I told her that some things just aren’t meant to be understood but that you have to accept it and find peace in knowing that things happen the way they are supposed to. Call it destiny, fate or whatever but what is meant to be will be. In that moment, I realized that most of my anxiety stemmed from the fact that I was worried about things that I could not change or control. I would ask myself questions like “Why did I slack off in my late teens-early 20’s at the first college I attended?” “Why did I waste so much time being involved with men who weren’t ready to commit?” and the one that I kept wasting energy on was “Why does it feel like I’m so behind in life compared to everyone else?” The answer to all of my questions was the same: Since it cannot be changed, I need to find peace with it and move on. ¬†I can’t change the past so why do I continue to focus on the mistakes I’ve made as it relates to school or relationships? ¬†I can only focus on the present and future and learn from those mistakes to make better choices that will bring happiness and success in my life. When it comes to worrying about others, it’s pointless because as I’ve stated many times before, everyone has their own journey and comparing my life to others doesn’t help me in my journey especially since I may not know what they went through to get to where they are today. Everyone has their own story and while I encourage others to go after their goals and dreams and live up to their potential, I only have control over my life and I need to direct my thoughts and energy on getting to where I want to be and look at positive examples and use that to fuel my motivation instead of allowing it to drain the passion that burns within me. I would say the “Serenity Prayer” every night before going to bed but last night was the first time in a long time that I said it and believed in the words I whispered to myself. For those of you who don’t know the “Serenity Prayer”, here it goes:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.

I know that the battle within myself isn’t ¬†over yet but I am in a better mental space today and I am glad I am able to share all the craziness inside this head of mine with you! Let me know what you think and like/share this post if you were able to learn something from it ūüôā Check back on Wednesday for my next post which will probably be about what helps me to de-stress because I’ve tried any and everything to relax and stay focused so stay tuned for that!

 

Much love to you all and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

 

Wisdom Wednesday: Believe In Yourself

believeinyourselfGood Morning! It’s been almost 3 weeks since my last post and I told myself that I couldn’t keep going weeks without posting but it’s been tough. I’ve got so much on my mind and I feel like I’m being repetitive if I keep talking about the same issues over and over. I wanted to make a post when something interesting/exciting happened but my life feels like it’s been at a standstill just going through the motions instead of living life to the fullest. I knew that the only person stopping me was me but I have tried to figure out what my problem is and I’ve realized that it’s my outlook on life. If I am in a positive state of mind, I’m going to attract positive energy. The same goes for being negative. It’s difficult to think positive when it seems like nothing is going right but sometimes, that’s all you’ve got!

I’m learning that in order for me to get to where I need to be, I have to convince myself that no matter what happens, as long as I’m persistent and consistent, I will get to where I want to be. Trying to force or convince others to feel a certain way about me or what I’m trying to accomplish is pointless because it’s saying that my belief in myself isn’t strong enough to withstand criticism or judgment. When you believe in something enough, no one can tell you otherwise and before I can go after all of my goals and dreams full force, I’ve got to use that positive energy and start truly believing in myself and my gifts/abilities. Once I master that, I will be unstoppable:)

I’ve got a few things that I want to do before the end of the year and I’ll be sure to let everyone know about them when the time is right. Much love and happiness to everyone and I’ll talk to you guys soon!
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!