Eliminating Negative Energy

Good Morning! Still working on this consistent posting thing lol  but I do have something that I wanna talk about that has weighed on my mind for the past few days that I wanted to share with you guys. As I was scrolling through my Instagram feed, I stopped on a post by Cardi B of Love and Hip Hop fame (I think her posts are so entertaining so don’t judge me!) and she posted a pic of herself in a unique outfit and most of the comments were giving her praise posting things like:

girl you are working it!

beautiful!

heart emoji

big smiley emoji

kiss emoji

You get the picture!

Unfortunately, one person decided to write a comment that had nothing to do with the actual picture but choosing to comment instead on a rumor going around about her dumping a rapper she’s been seeing because he was going to charge her to be featured on a song of hers. Never mind that the rumor wasn’t true but it must have upset her so much that this was the ONLY comment that she replied to. Out of hundreds of positive comments/praise,  she chose to respond to the ONE person that brought negativity to her page and responded with anger saying something like:

“B-word” you don’t know what you’re talking about!

In that moment, I realized that many of us do the same thing on and offline and what starts out as being something positive and uplifting has turned into anger or resentment that weighs the soul down.

Instead of focusing on the “likes” or positive things happening in our lives, we choose to focus and respond to the negative; who doesn’t like us or why we don’t have this or that and dwelling on all the negative circumstances draws more negative energy our way.  You are what  you attract and instead of being concerned with that type of energy in the form of unnecessary criticism, harsh judgment or opinions that do not add to your life, focus on the people and things that make you happy and bring joy to  your day. Now I am not saying that there needs to be people who compliment you 24/7 to feed your ego or confidence but being around people who see the best in you and want the best for you is the easiest way to attract the things you want. If there are people in your life that focus more on the negative than the positive, you  may need to reevaluate these connections and find others that are like-minded and will help you in your journey to being the best version of  yourself. It is easier said than done but your peace of mind will thank you later for it;)

I’m working on being the best version of myself this summer by starting a 45 day fitness journey with a few of my friends, reading/listening to inspirational and motivational books/speeches, participating in a 90 day workshop with a group of inspiring and motivated women who also want to work on themselves and doing a bit of traveling for fun and celebration! Needless to say, I will have a lot to discuss in upcoming posts so make sure you always come back here to see what I am up to! Look forward to sharing my journey with you this summer and beyond!

Take care and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

 

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Vulnerable

Good Morning! It’s been 4 months since my last post and there’s a really good reason for that…I just didn’t want to post for the sake of posting but actually post something when I was inspired. I have been vlogging a bit on Instagram and Snapchat but I wanted to wait until I knew exactly what I wanted to write about…this is more like a venting session so bear with me!

My biggest goal with this site has also been my biggest fear. I strive to be transparent and vulnerable with my readers/viewers but in doing that, I’ve opened up the door to be judged and criticized by others but most importantly, this process has made me overly critical of myself. I turned 31 last week and I never thought that my life would end up this way. I am working at a job which isn’t fulfilling my passion or purpose( or pockets for that matter lol), I am not in a committed relationship and wasted the majority of my 20’s in dead-end relationships, I am not where I want to be mentally, physically or spiritually and most of 2015 and part of 2016 was trying  to come to grips with the fact that life threw me a few curveballs and I didn’t handle them as swiftly as I think I should have and now I’m dealing with the consequences. I know that everyone has their turning point where they decide to make a change in their lives and I realize that I’ve had turning points for different facets of my life. At the end of 2015, I told myself that I wouldn’t have sex unless I was in a committed relationship and I’ve kept that promise no matter how tempting it may have been to fall back into my old ways of doing what was expected and being passive in a relationship. In 2016, I told myself that I would be more financially responsible and pay off my loans and bills. Now I am in 2017 and I am still unattached and still in debt and I wanted to get my life together before I started blogging again so I could be a good example of what being the best version of yourself gets you. It took me a minute to realize that being the best version of myself means that I have to be honest with myself and understand that no one is perfect. I know that to get to where I want to be in all aspects of my life, I have to put it all out there and show the ugliness and bare my soul sort to speak to find the beauty, love and happiness I desire.  Being uncomfortable means that I am allowing myself to accept that I need to change situations and circumstances in my life and gets me out of being in denial or accepting that this is the way that things will be. I have always stated that I am a work in progress but for the first time in a long time, I do not have an issue with putting myself out there when I stumble and fall because I know that in the end, I will have everything that I’ve been waiting for.

With all that being said, I am still trying to figure out the exact vision for “Amore Luxe”.  It started out as a love/sex/relationships website under a different name (If you have been here since “The Angielala Experience”, thank you for your support!) then when I renamed the site “Amore Luxe”, I decided switch my direction and discuss confidence related issues. At this point,  I don’t want to have any restrictions on the topics I talk about but I do want to discuss things that I am passionate about whether it be dating outside my race (which I have attempted in the past and am open to doing again!) or the latest Trey Songz album, (which has turned out to be one of my faves especially after seeing him perform the songs live!) I don’t want to be restricted because I strayed away from the main theme of the site was so as of now, “Amore Luxe will be about love, life and everything in between! I plan on revamping the site in the coming months so be patient with me cause I am an impulsive person by nature which isn’t always good because when I am adamant about things, I tend to rush. When you want to create something meaningful and lasting, these things take time so I wanna pace myself this go around but I promise you will love the result!  Any comments, suggestions or critiques are always welcome and if you don’t feel like sharing publicly in the comments section below, feel free to email me at angelacherai@amoreluxe.com 🙂 I even know what my next post will be about so stay tuned for that topic!

Thanks for reading all of that lol and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

 

 

 

Snow Day Revelations/Going on Hiatus

Hey everyone! It’s the first full week of February and I can’t believe that this is my first post of 2017. I didn’t plan on things being this way but the same old issues keep coming up mainly my lack of inspiration and motivation. I am off from work for the first time since Christmas break because of the snow and while I was having a lazy day in bed, I was finally inspired to write something! I told myself in 2017 there would be no more “woe is me” posts and I intend on keeping it that way but I also need to be honest with myself and my readers: I am not feeling the direction that I’ve taken with the site over the past couple of years, well more the execution of my ideas because it has brought me to the point where 6+ years into blogging/vlogging, I still feel like I haven’t really gotten into the swing of things and I’ve realized that is because I am still trying to figure out what I want for myself and for my life.

c83e4e9f3e567602e964d7d9d9c77ff7My behind the scenes team is always changing and the lack of consistency with that has hindered me greatly. I felt like if I didn’t have the team behind me that believed in me and my vision, maybe there was something wrong with what I was doing. What I failed to realize is that I was the foundation that everything else is built upon. If I didn’t believe in myself or my vision, it didn’t matter who was on my team, the vision would never come to life because of the shaky foundation that I erected.  When I came to the realization that my foundation wasn’t solid because of  the issues I was dealing with in my life up until that point, I knew that before I could build an empire or go after my dream of being the “Internet Oprah”, I had to work on becoming the best version of myself outside of the internet. I have a friend that is also a health/wellness coach that has helped me create the version of myself that I’ve always desired. I am working on having a healthier lifestyle (sooooo hard for someone who loves pasta and dairy foods!) but most importantly, I am learning that every day is a new day and instead of living in the past, I have to live in the present and plan for the future so I can get to where I want to be. Life is not a race and the only person I am competing with is the woman in the mirror so as long as I uplift myself and bring positive energy into everything I did, I will attract what it is that I want. Seems so simple right! It’s harder than any physical workout though because I have to change my way of thinking and way I view myself. I always say I am a work in progress and 2017 is when the world will see the fruits of all my hard work and labor so watch out!

With all that being said, I don’t know exactly when my next post will be. I am not giving up on the site but I am taking a hiatus so I can figure out what I want to do and how to execute it flawlessly. I plan on coming back after my mini vacation in March with updates on my progress and how I plan to switch things up with the “Amore Luxe” brand. Thank you for you love, patience and support and I will be back before you know it! 

 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

#FearlessFriday: Baring It All

570311Good Afternoon! I know I promised that I would post 4x this week to make up for not posting last Friday but this week has been tough for me. I have just been feeling mentally and spiritually drained and it all comes back to focusing on people and things that have nothing to do with me. The seeds of envy and doubt started to grow within once again and it was a post that I saw on Instagram this morning that made me realize how petty and pitiful I was acting. I was so worried about everyone and everything else that I forgot about me and where I want to be in my life. Sitting around moping won’t get me anywhere and neither will comparing myself to others especially when I don’t know the journey they had to take to get to where they are.

I feel like 2015 was a year where I became so complacent and miserable with things going on in my life personally and professionally and I promised that 2016 would be different and it has to a certain extent. I am no longer dealing with men who are a waste of my time although one keeps trying to come back in the picture after I’ve made it clear that I’m not interested in being the passive, predictable me that settled for anything just to not be alone. Although that part of my life has changed for the better, I am still not where I want to be professionally. I know that I have to make a huge comeback because last year, I didn’t really do anything that would propel me forward but until today, I really wasn’t sure where to begin. I had to take a long look at myself to realize that no change can occur in my life until I change, starting with my mindset and the way I react to things. After that, I can work on being a better version of myself physically and these changes will be reflected in the content I create and share with the world. I am known for saying that I want to be the “Internet Oprah” but I forgot about all the things she has endured in the public eye especially as it relates to her weight and I know now that I have to show the bad even as I’m going through it because that is the only way I can grow and inspire others.

Baring it all has been scary and when social media magnifies everything and leaves room for criticism, I’ve been hesitant in the past to talk about things as I’m going through them. I don’t want to create a facade of a life that is perfect or near perfection when I am still struggling with being the best version of myself but I know now that I am the type of person that thrives when I am transparent and can let go of negative thoughts holding me back. I welcome your comments, suggestions and constructive critiques because as much as I want to inspire my readers, I look for inspiration from you all as well:) Stay tuned for my next post on Monday and I hope everyone has an amazing weekend!

 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!