Random Thoughts Part I

Good Morning! I know that I was supposed to post on Wednesday but I literally could not think of anything to write about. Between work and my clients for my side hustle, I was mentally drained. I feel like I’m playing catch up after being stagnant for so long and it finally caught up with me. I know I was adamant about not having any excuses but I also don’t want to appear as if I am going back to my old ways especially after finally finding my groove. After going through my list of topics that were previously written and not feeling inspired, I figured I would just discuss exactly what is going on with me. I usually do this in the form of a voice note but since I figured that being completely transparent is what I promised I would do, why not fill my readers in with what’s going on in this crazy mind of mine and just maybe someone out there can relate! Here goes!

I am back at the daycare center as the director. My biggest fear with going back was feeling how I felt back at the end of 2017 right before I decided to leave. I felt stuck and stagnant in a place that didn’t fulfill me and although the job was fairly easy and convenient, I wanted a change. After leaving, the feeling of dread and depression temporarily lifted but because I didn’t put in the effort to find a new job after leaving my old one, I started feeling stuck again but I also was broke which made a bad situation even worse. After over a year of feeling blah and doing nothing about it, this past summer, the spark of inspiration that I was craving came in the form of a podcast that my friend DJ and I started. Working on the podcast gave me motivation to come back to the site and to get my life back on track. When I made the decision to live my best life, things started falling into place. I started gaining more clients for my writing composition services and the director job was offered to me again but I was able to choose my own hours and work on my own terms which gave me the freedom I needed to do other things. I am still looking for something that is more fulfilling and that pays better but for now, the daycare and my side hustle are helping me get my finances and my life back on track.

As far as my personal life is concerned, the last guy I was seeing went MIA and I think its because he’s got a baby on the way. Since we have history and had gotten to a point where we were being really open with each other, I thought that things would be different this time around but if the baby story is true, then his distance makes sense. I am not even mad at him (which is really big for me because he’s pissed me off in the past by doing way less) but I am disappointed in the way that things have gone down and the fact that we haven’t spoken and regardless of whatever is going on, I thought our friendship would always remain intact. Now I am not so sure but instead of stressing about it, I’m letting go because the truth will come to light eventually and I’ll know everything I need to know when it does. Needless to say, I’ve decided to invest my time and energy into other areas of my life instead of worrying about finding the one. I’ve been dabbling in the online dating sites (including the Facebook Dating app which hasn’t shown any real prospects so far) but mainly out of boredom and curiosity. I am definitely not going back to anyone in my past so the next man that comes in my life will be someone completely new. There is someone I am interested in but I’m not ready for a man like him in my life and he is end game but until then, I am going to live my best(solo) life and have hella fun while doing it:)

Yup I think that about covers it! Not sure what next week’s posts will be about but I’ll come up with something! If you have any topics you want me to discuss, hit me up on IG @amoreluxe_ and let me know! Until then, have an amazing weekend and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Motivation Monday: Jharrel Jerome Wins Emmy

Good Morning! I was so excited to post about the Emmys because the person I was rooting for most won. If you haven’t figured out from the title who that is, let me type in all caps so you don’t miss the memo: JHARREL JEROME!!! Many of you first became aware of him from his role in Moonlight and although I though he did a good job in that particular role, I didn’t really pay attention to him until June 1st 2019. I remember that day vividly because it was the day after my birthday but also the day where I watched a cinematic masterpiece “When They See Us” (directed by the genius filmmaker Ava Duvernay) with Jharrel’s heartbreaking performance in the forefront of my mind.

Even though “When They See Us” premiered on May 31st, I had birthday plans so I decided to watch it the following evening in the  comfort of my home. There were 4 episodes that felt like mini movies and while each episode touched my heart, the 4th episode is the one that made me break down and sob hysterically. The 4th episode featured Jharrel Jerome’s performance as Korey Wise, one of the 5 men previously known as the Central Park 5 who were tried and convicted of a crime that they didn’t commit. Since Korey was 16 at the time, he was tried and convicted as an adult and served time in a maximum security prison. Because of this, his experiences differed from the the other boys and Jharrel’s gut wrenching portrayal of Korey touched my soul. I was blown away by his commitment to the character and the fact that he was able to give the viewers a glimpse into what Korey went through (his solitary scenes and the scenes with his mom are the highlights of the 4th episode) gave me a better understand of how unjust the criminal justice system really is especially for people of color.

I knew he would be nominated for an Emmy and I was pretty confident that he would win but sometimes award shows become popularity contests instead of focusing on pure talent. Fortunately, Jharrel won and received a standing ovation so I believe it was a mixture of both, I loved his speech because it showed his humility, shock and appreciation. Even though he was more than deserving, he did not expect to win and I feel that he brought back the excitement and joy that award shows have been missing. He is a perfect example of when you give your all for someone you believe in, your hard work will pay off.  I can’t wait to see what is next for him and I know that he is definitely on his way to an Oscar. He’s only 21 years old so I can see it happening for him in another 5-10 years for sure! Gotta shout out Ava and the rest of the cast because even though they didn’t win, they showed the world the ugly truth about racism and prejudice from the past that people of color still deal with today. Hopefully the Golden Globes get it right 🤞🏽

Check out Jharrel’s acceptance speech below and let me know what you thought of “When They See Us” and the bigger conversation we need to have as it relates to race. New post will be up on Wednesday.  Until then, I hope everyone has a great week and remember to love and live luxuriously!

Motivation Monday: The Importance of Self-Awareness

Happy Monday everyone! I actually stopped working on an assignment for one of my client’s to write this post because I wanted to make sure that it was up first thing this morning! I have been doing a lot of self-reflection (as I hope has been seen in my previous posts) and what I realized is that I am slowly but surely getting my life to a point where I am happy, secure and fulfilled as it relates to my relationships both personal and professional, my mental and physical well-being and working on being financially secure. It is definitely a process but I wanted to share how self-awareness was the catalyst that reignited my passion and helped me move forward.

I realized that I have to be my own biggest fan (check out my  post to read more about that journey here) and focusing on being positive and motivating myself to live up to my potential meant that I had to remove toxic energy out of my life whether it came from my own self-doubts and insecurities or from any negative energy around me. My friends and family have been supportive of my goals and have always encouraged me to be the best version of myself and that’s why they are so dope! I haven’t been in a toxic relationship/situationship in over a year and while I am open to dating, I realized that I will never settle again. Looking back on how I allowed men to treat me in the past was a direct reflection of how little I valued myself and after the last situation ended, I promised myself that I would NEVER allow anyone in my life that doesn’t know my worth.  I am still working on the diet aspect so you won’t see any fitness/health posts until I get it together in that area but I’m reaching a point where I can’t just eat anything I want and not gain weight as seen in my post “Thick Girl Blues( Spanx Not Included)” so I am trying to be more conscious of what enters my body. As far as getting how self-awareness has benefitted me from a financial standpoint, I started thinking about  what skills I possess that will help me earn more income. In addition to the social media management, I started focusing more on obtaining clients for the writing composition services part of “Amore Luxe Media” and I have a few consistent clients that have been helpful to earning extra income. I also started working at the daycare again but only on the administrative side of the business and I get to make my own hours which I’ve realized has given me freedom and not let me feel restricted or trapped in a position that doesn’t suit my needs or help me reach  my goals. By having multiple streams of income, I am able to save more so I can create a nest egg that I can use towards getting my own place, a car or investing in my business which wasn’t possible when I was making excuses instead of moves.  I’ve realized that being self-aware is very important because for so long, I was feeling sorry for myself and where I was in life and wanted to make excuses and blame everyone but once I became self-aware, I was able to take responsibility for the choices I’ve made (or didn’t make) that made an impact on where I was in my life at that point.  I’m not where I want to be but I am a lot better than where I used to be and I am so proud of myself for getting this far!

What steps have you taken in order to be more self-aware? Sometimes it can be as simple as writing down your goals and what you need to change internally and externally in order to accomplish those goals. I’d love to read your thoughts so be sure to comment below or hit me up on social media at @amoreluxe_ on Instagram or @Angela Cherai on Facebook. New post coming Wednesday! I hope everyone has an amazing week and makes sure that they love and live luxuriously!

 

YouTube Rant: Emotional Manipulation and Lack of Self-Respect

Good Morning! I decided that I wanted to do a vlog of sorts today and was inspired by the conversations I overheard from a couple who were having relationship issues. I found out a lot of information from the 2 conversations (some may say TMI because they were shouting all of their personal business freely for the world to hear lol) but most importantly, I started thinking about the honest and heartfelt advice I’d want to hear if I was in a similar position. I know it is easy to comment from the outside looking it but sometimes it takes an outside, objective perspective to see things for what they really are instead of what you imagined they would be. Watch the video below to find out the backstory behind my rant and my thoughts on what happened.

Sound off in the comments below because I’d really love to hear everyone’s take on this situation. If you have any ideas for topics I should discuss in future rants, let me know! I’ll be back on Wednesday with another post. I hope everyone has an amazing week and always be sure to love and live luxuriously!