Happy Holidays everyone! I wanted to make 1 last post for 2016 before I decided to introduce a few of the changes I have in store for 2017. A lot of my friends and followers have been asking me why the posts on the site have been few and far in between and I would tell them that I was lacking inspiration which was true but there was more behind that statement.
Even though the issue was that I couldn’t think of anything to write about, I really didn’t want to write period. I feel that I can articulate myself better when I am talking to others whether it be through videos or face to face conversations. Writing is just something that I felt obligated to do because I have a blog site and written content is what’s expected so I tried to deliver to the best of my ability. The issue with that was that I wasn’t satisfied with most of my posts. I wanted to get back to doing what I love which is the videos/public speaking/discussions/hosting part of my life. Now my original issue which was the lack of inspiration comes into play.
I feel like talking about myself has become redundant and boring especially since I am still trying to figure a lot of things out and although so many people (including myself) like celeb gossip blogs, that was never the direction I wanted to go in with “Amore Luxe” so I kept wracking my brain trying to figure out what I could talk about that would be entertaining and intriguing without compromising my vision and I think I’ve finally got it! Stay tuned to see what I’ve come up with when I make my first post of 2017 next week 😉 Continue reading
Good Afternoon! I’ve racked my brain all weekend trying to figure out what to write about. I had a few ideas in my head but none of them were about anything that really resonated with me. If I didn’t feel strongly about it, I knew that would come through in my writing so I told myself I wouldn’t write unless it would be beneficial to myself and others. Even if its something that I’m uncomfortable with, I’d write about it because I know that I could speak for those who may not have the courage now to talk about what bothers them. Although I am working on my confidence, there has always been one thing that I never felt confident doing even after I faced my biggest fear related to it: Driving.
I didn’t get my license until I was 29 (at the end of last year) and that was because I was scared to drive on the road with others because I feared being involved in an accident. I also feared failing the road test because I had failed it a few years earlier and felt like an idiot afterwards. I would always ask myself “Why is this skill that comes so easily to others so hard for me to achieve?” and “Is there something wrong with me because I can write a 20 page paper in 2 days and get an A on it but I can’t do left turns on busy intersections without tensing up and getting sweaty palms!” I know it’s because I am not confident in my driving abilities but I’ve overcome things that were once tough for me like speaking in front of a crowd full of people, maintaining eye contact and most recently, being honest about my feelings and learning to let go of situations that no longer helped me grow. These were challenges that I didn’t overcome easily but I was able to do it. So why does this fear of driving still plague me even after getting my license. I kept asking this question to myself until I finally figured it out. I am afraid of dealing with things that I cannot control.
When I write a paper, I know that my grade is dependent on the work I do. If I put a lot of effort into researching and writing, I will get a good grade. If I don’t, the grade will show that. I am in control of the results. Same thing goes with socializing and being able to connect with people. If I show interest and work on my social skills, most people will have a positive response to what I am saying and pay attention. Driving is a different thing altogether. Even the best drivers get into accidents or encounter situations beyond their control. They can’t guarantee that someone else on the road hasn’t been drinking or that the rain won’t hinder them from getting them where they need to go. I don’t do well with things that are completely out of my control and my mind always goes to the worse case scenario. It’s the pessimist in me that needs to fade into the background but that pessimist has been nurtured by fear. The only way to eliminate that fear is by doing the complete opposite. I need to be confident in my abilities but most importantly, I need to have faith.
I have discussed conquering my fears in the past by believing in yourself and going as hard as you can to achieve your goals but I never mentioned the role that faith plays in overcome fear. In the Bible it says “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” In other words, you have to believe in something even though it may not be visible to you at that very moment. I have to believe in myself and my abilities even though I am not able to predict the future to know that everything will work out. People step out on faith all the time and make extraordinary things happen. Why should something as simple as driving be any different? I am working on strengthening my faith every day by praying and meditating, saying positive affirmations and understanding that everything happens the way its supposed to and certain things are inevitable. The future is unknown but as long as I step out one with and emit positive energy into the atmosphere, that same positive energy will bounce back to me. This applies to all facets of my life and it definitely will help me when I start driving.
Is there anything you are fearful of that is hindering you from becoming the best version of yourself? Are you taking any steps to conquer that fear and letting faith take over? I have learned that fear limits you but faith is limitless and for me to get to where I need to be in life, my faith has to be stronger than any lingering fear or doubt in my heart. I always say this but I am a work in progress and everyday is a new day to learn something new and make sure that I get out of my own way!
Make sure you tune in next Wednesday October 26th at 8pm EST because I’ll be live on Facebook! The topic is “Eliminating Limitations” and this whole thing on fear vs. faith is a big part of it. Looking forward to chatting with everyone:)
Check back here on Wednesday for my next post and have an amazing day and always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Morning! I know it’s been a minute since my last post and as I’ve stated before, I’m still trying to sort my life out. This has been one of the toughest years of my life because I have been in a state of uncertainty for most of it. When you are passionate about something and you pray that things will work out the way you imagined, it feels like a punch to the gut when things take a turn for the worst. I never wanted to settle but it felt like a lot of the decisions I’ve made in my professional and personal life weren’t ideal choices but instead, the most logical ones for the time being. This was because I was letting fear take control over my life.
At the beginning of the year, I had so many plans for my life and specifically, for the site but I allowed fear and doubt get in the way of my goals. There was so much that I wanted to do but instead of taking things one day at a time, I let myself feel overwhelmed and decided not to go after any of the things I desired. Now I’m at the point where I can either decide to let my fears (fear of failure, fear of rejection, etc.) control my life and keep me at a standstill or I can let it motivate me to become the best version of myself. I’m going with the latter 🙂 Fear is normal because most of us have things we are unsure of or uncomfortable with. Fear gives us limits and limitations are only good when people and situations can put our life at risk. Fear is not good however when it threatens to limit your potential. In these instances, faith and belief in yourself must override the fear that is holding you back. It is a scary process but the result is worth the anxiety and uncertainty that lingered at the beginning of the journey.
It’s about a month away from the new year and I’m not waiting until 2016 to overcome my fears. There is one end of the year goal that I’m working on and once I achieve it, I’ll be sure to tell you all about it. I want to go into 2016 with a bang and this goal will be the spark that I need to start 2016 off right! Thanks for rocking with me and stay tuned for my comeback:p
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Morning! It’s been almost 3 weeks since my last post and I told myself that I couldn’t keep going weeks without posting but it’s been tough. I’ve got so much on my mind and I feel like I’m being repetitive if I keep talking about the same issues over and over. I wanted to make a post when something interesting/exciting happened but my life feels like it’s been at a standstill just going through the motions instead of living life to the fullest. I knew that the only person stopping me was me but I have tried to figure out what my problem is and I’ve realized that it’s my outlook on life. If I am in a positive state of mind, I’m going to attract positive energy. The same goes for being negative. It’s difficult to think positive when it seems like nothing is going right but sometimes, that’s all you’ve got!
I’m learning that in order for me to get to where I need to be, I have to convince myself that no matter what happens, as long as I’m persistent and consistent, I will get to where I want to be. Trying to force or convince others to feel a certain way about me or what I’m trying to accomplish is pointless because it’s saying that my belief in myself isn’t strong enough to withstand criticism or judgment. When you believe in something enough, no one can tell you otherwise and before I can go after all of my goals and dreams full force, I’ve got to use that positive energy and start truly believing in myself and my gifts/abilities. Once I master that, I will be unstoppable:)
I’ve got a few things that I want to do before the end of the year and I’ll be sure to let everyone know about them when the time is right. Much love and happiness to everyone and I’ll talk to you guys soon!
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!