Pushing Past The Pain


Good Morning! One of my biggest challenges has been to find the motivation and willpower to keep pushing through all the stumbling blocks and obstacles in my way. From dealing with my father’s death to feeling stagnant in my professional career, there’s been a lot of mental challenges that have been difficult to overcome. Giving up isn’t an option for me but since there is no set plan on how to be successful as it relates to my dreams and goals, sometimes I feel like I’m running around in circles and not really getting anywhere. I had a talk with a friend of mine last night and he made me realize that some people aren’t built for this type of lifestyle. To be an entrepreneur, you have to be ready for whatever comes your way. Many times, that means that you have to be prepared to have moments of failure. It is inevitable when you are taking chances and cannot always accurately predict the outcome but for the people who let their faith in their dreams overpower their fears, being an entrepreneur is worth taking the risk. This does not only apply to those with the entrepreneur spirit. For anyone who feels like they have encountered disappointment after disappointment and wants to give up on the things that matter most, just know that if you dig a little deeper and push a little harder, everything you want will fall into place. It isn’t an overnight process because nothing worth having come easily but the risk is worth the reward. My message to anyone going through something in their lives is to push past your pain, fear, disappointment or whatever is holding you back because you will never reach the finish line towards your dreams if you stop running altogether.  Instead, let’s choose to run together now so we can fly laterūüėÄ I refuse to settle for anything less!
I’m still working out the details for my webchat in September so stay tuned for more info coming soon! 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously! 

Selma Movie Review

Good Morning! I wanted to wait until “Selma” was released nationwide tomorrow (January 9th) but after seeing a preview for it for the millionth time on tv, I took it as a sign to give an early review so I could persuade everyone to go out and see it on Friday. I had the opportunity to see the movie right before Christmas at an advanced screening of it in NYC courtesy of http://www.gofobo.com. I knew I was going to love the movie because I am a Civil Rights History buff. When I was younger, I used to read ¬†anything related to the Civil Rights Movement so I was familiar with “Bloody Sunday” and the importance of that moment in history but I didn’t realize how strategic the “non-violent” approach really was in the grand scheme of things. In “Selma” ¬†the viewer is able to see how being non-violent played into the hearts and minds of the public by way of the media. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was able to show the pain and suffering of African-Americans in Selma and the south by showing that voting isn’t a privilege but a basic human right and being denied those rights is not only illegal but immoral.

I also loved how the director, Ava DuVernay (who is the first African-American woman to be nominated for a Golden Globe award and hopefully Oscar) approached many of the scenes, in particular, the “Bloody Sunday” scene. The phrase that comes to mind after viewing that scene ¬†is “tragically beautiful” because of all the emotions that occurred in those brutal moments. You could feel hate from their oppressors and mental strength and resilience from the marchers. It is so crazy to realize that all of this actually happened only 50 years ago. We have come a long way but as recent ¬†event such as Ferguson and Eric Garner have ¬†shown, we still have a very long way ago. “Selma” is coming out at an ideal time because we all can learn from the past to make sure that we handle current racial issues in a strategic way to see real progress.

I think that David Oyelowo (the actor who played MLK Jr.) did an amazing job showing the different facets of MLK.  He showed MLK as a funny, down to earth person who even in his greatest moments had imperfections and indiscretions like everyone else. I was really impressed with the fact that he was British because being able to capture the voice and overall essence of someone as well-known as Martin Luther King Jr. is not an easy task. I am sure he will be nominated for an Oscar for his role as well!

Make sure you go out and see “Selma” in theaters tomorrow and come back to the comments section and let me know what you thought of it! Can’t wait to read your replies!


Love and live luxuriously!

It Ain’t Easy Being Tommy

Greetings, earthlings. My name is Fenominelly, formally known as Robby Rob, and I was Angela’s co-host in February for “How To Approach That Special Someone”. I’m new to this, so please bare with me. My words won’t be as poetic as Tendra’s or well put together as any of the other contributing women of the site, but I feel that is what will make me spTommy From Martinecial. ūüėÄ

I want to kick off my first post by writing about the act of finding a job. That step is NOT easy. I have been at this step since the beginning of May and have had nothing, but interviews filled with hope. I have just entered my senior year in college (PENN STATE WADDUP!!) and coming home every summer has been a bit of a drag. I would end my school with hopes for the summer, only for it to die down slowly because I haven’t been able to obtain the one thing that would set off my entire vacation; a JOB. I, as well as many people around the world, try almost everyday to look for work and even though interviews come and go, they do just that; come and go. I opened up this summer with three interviews and was excited. It has almost been a month since I have been home and so far I haven’t received a ¬†solid yes. Does it hurt? Yes. Does it take a piece of me each time I realize this was yet another dead end interview? Of course. But today, I got the best advice I could have gotten in a long time.

“We live to live out our dreams. The cost of that is very expensive.”

To my sister from another mister, I thank you for these inspirational words. It reminded me that hard-work and perseverance will get me where I would like to be. That is my message to you all today. Have confidence in knowing that your hard-work and perseverance will get you to wherever your dream is because the cost is your sweat and tears. The cost for that dream to come true is you going from your lowest of all lows  to that absolute high. Your lows are to remind you of just how great the high will be. Therefore, keeping pushing and keep fighting. I know it is much easier said than done, but always remember that there is a rainbow after the storm cloud.