Day 7 Confidence Challenge: No Gossiping!

gossipGood Morning! Last night as I was deciding  what I wanted today’s challenge to be, I started thinking about the negative traits that I wanted to change about myself and one of them was gossiping. I am not as bad as some of my friends and family members but I still do indulge in gossip from time to time and that says more about my character than the person or people who I am speaking of. I can’t pretend that I like everything someone says or does but instead of focusing on the things that aren’t appealing or of interest of me when it comes to their appearance, behavior or overall personality, I could use that same time and effort into working on my life and the person I want to become. Gossip comes from a negative place and even though not all of it is meant to be malicious and hurtful (think about the funny and entertaining gossip blogs many of you read on a daily basis), it still demonstrates anger, envy, jealousy and other characteristics that are harmful to one’s mental well-being. They say misery loves company and a bunch of gossipers can spread misery and negative energy wherever they go.

I know how difficult it can be to stay away from gossip especially when your coworkers are talking about how much they can’t stand their boss or you turn on the television and watch yet another celebrity get bashed on TMZ but  today, try your hardest to refrain from engaging in the chatter. Change the subject or walk away once someone attempts to bring you into the negative conversation. Turn the channel on the television or close out of the window of the site that is feeding negative energy about someone. Engage in other activities that are uplifting to yourself and others and you will feel better about yourself and life in general. Instead of the possibility of guilt or remorse after bashing someone, your confidence will rise because you didn’t have to put someone down to feel better about yourself and that is what this challenge and overall campaign is about. Affecting others in a favorable way will bring about good energy in your own life and will be clear to anyone who encounters you.

I made a conscious decision not to post challenges everyday because I don’t want this challenge to feel like work. On the “off” days, I want everyone to reflect on their progress so far and create goals that will bring them into a more confident frame of mind. I want to thank everyone who made it through week one of the “30 Day Confidence Challenge” and for those who are just starting, here’s a recap of the challenges so far:

Day 1: Finding “Me Time” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/09/day-1-confidence-challenge-treat-yourself-to-some-me-time/

Day 2: “Smile” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/10/day-2-confidence-challenge-smile/

Day 3 and Day 4: Challenge Break to work on “Confidence Goals”

Day 5: “Think Positive” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/13/day-5-confidence-challenge-think-positive/

Day 6- Reflection on Confidence Progress so far

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Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Social Media Drama

socialmediadrama2Good Afternoon! After making my New Year’s Resolutions (https://amoreluxe.com/2015/01/01/realistic-new-years-resolutions/) I was thinking to myself, “How am I going to go about achieving these goals?” As far as eating healthy, I have to buy and consume foods that will be beneficial to my body and I’ve done enough googling to know how to do that and as long as I stick to it, I’ll be good. As far as my second goal of thinking and acting positively however, that one in my opinion is easier said than done especially when my life consists of being heavily involved in social media. I am on just about every social media website out there (Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Tumblr, etc.) and although I have viewed a lot of  positive stories, pics, and quotes, sometimes it feels like the negative outweighs the positive and at times, I am also guilty of playing a part in the negative energy that is put out into the social media atmosphere.

One of my closest friends refuses to sign up for any social media pages. I didn’t understand this logic because I feel that sites such as Facebook are a great way to stay connected to family and friends that you would lose contact with otherwise but she wouldn’t budge from her position of social media being emotionally draining and drama filled. I didn’t fully understand where she was coming from until I thought about the “drama” I have had because of social media. My ex boyfriend is my Facebook friend and a few years back, a Facebook friend of mine messaged me. We had a good conversation and  when this person asked me for my number, I didn’t really see as a big deal because I had like a million business cards with my number on it so I figured it was just another way of “connecting” with people. Turns  out that this guy I was connecting with was my ex’s cousin and he was very upset. We talked about it and moved on from that situation but now I know to check the “mutual friends” list before I engage in conversation with anyone I become Facebook friends with!

I’ve learned that incorporating all aspects of my life (business and personal) isn’t always the best idea on social media. People see your social media page as a reflection of yourself so if you come across as crazy on your social media pages, people who don’t know you personally will think you are a  crazy person in real life. I know of a few people who love to go back and forth sending negative tweets and arguing on others’ pages out of frustration and in real life they are sweet, friendly and make for great company. Social media can be like one of those mirrors you see in a fun house. The image of yourself is distorted by the mirror that is in front of you and while you may the true you others see the distorted image which is not close to what is reality.

I have never been one to put all of my business on my Facebook page  or subtweet about anyone because I am the kind of person that will tell someone face to face if I have an issue with them. You obviously can’t do the same with people you don’t know personally so I have said negative things about celebrities that I don’t care for and have spread that negative energy to my friends and followers. Although it’s unrealistic to like everyone and everything they say or do, I don’t have to take part in bringing them down. I truly do believe the saying “To each his own” and I want to be able to ultimately say that I am open-minded and encourage people to be true to who they are even if I may not necessarily agree with their thoughts. Now this doesn’t mean that I am going to censor myself from speaking my mind when it comes to how I view the world, but I am going to focus on MY thoughts and MY actions before I pass judgment on someone else. This is about my own personal growth and I want to attract what I put out there so I am hoping that my  life will be filled with positive vibes for 2015 and beyond!

Progress can be a slow process but I am going to work on it on a daily basis starting here on “Amore Luxe”. I want every single post I make to add to someone else’s life. I want everyone who reads a post or watches a video on here to feel inspired, encouraged and uplifted after they close their browsers. There are so many sites that focus on gossiping and the negative attributes of the human race and I don’t want to contribute to that in any way. Drama may be  entertaining but it is also draining to the spirit so “Amore Luxe”will be a place where your spirit can feel replenished instead of depleted.  Spreading confidence is my mission and I hope that in the future, millions of people can be the best versions of themselves and help in spreading that self-love for others to see the beauty and light within themselves. And we are going to have lots of fun while spreading the love so make sure you stay tuned!

 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

My 10 Year High School Reunion Recap!

Good afternoon! I wanted to post about my high school reunion yesterday but yesterday was super hectic so I didn’t get a chance to sit down and post until today! I spoke about attending my high school reunion in a post titled “Life of The Party (https://amoreluxe.com/2014/09/05/life-of-the-party/) and finally the big date came this past Saturday! I was super excited because even though I still live locally, I hadn’t seen many of my classmates since we graduated in 2004 so I wanted to see exactly what was going on with everyone and I must confess, I wanted to see who changed things up either personality wise, look wise, or all the above! I was expecting the reunion to be stuffy and boring like many I have heard about in the past but I was pleasantly surprised that when I arrived with my bff Krystal a little after 9pm (it started at 8 but we were “fashionably late lol) a real party was in full effect: open bar, people dancing and mingling and I’m like wow I really wasn’t expecting this! I started to mingle as well and tried to get as many pics as I could because I wanted to be able to reflect on those moments. Like I said in an earlier post, I was shy in high school so I didn’t think people would remember me but thanks to the creative planning committee, we were provided with replicas of our high school ids so if you couldn’t figure out exactly who the person was, all you had to do was show your id and boom! the connection was made…one guy I had known since 4th grade didn’t remember me until he saw my id picture and was like OMG and remembered me and my mom who taught health at my middle school for a year (that’s a whole nother story lol). I had another moment with a classmate who I didn’t recognize but I knew he went to our high school because he was being social with everyone. I couldn’t place his face so I finally asked to see his id and I was like OMG you look so different especially since he went from having a full head of hair to being bald lol…it worked for him though! Moments like these were funny and entertaining and I have our reunion to thank for that.

I think that the Columbia High School class of 2004 reunion is summed up perfectly by the quote “Some things never change” . Many of my classmates have remained friends with the people that they attended high school with and the ones that were social and had dynamic personalities still know how to work their way around the room and dance floor. Surprisingly, everyone looked amazing and even with those ladies who have filled out and the men who grew facial hair since we were all together, they were still recognizable and had that “je nais sai quoi” that everyone loved about them. Even though there was a great turnout (and even more people came to the after reunion spot at a local bar in the area lol), others missed out because they thought it would be boring, uptight and a waste of time… I only have to say that you should never underestimate the CHS class of 2004 because we killed it then and we are still killing it:p . I could go on but I think I will wait to post more after Part 2 of our reunion happens (yeah it was just that good!) For now, enjoy the pics posted below and to always love and live luxuriously!