Eliminating Negative Energy

Good Morning! Still working on this consistent posting thing lol  but I do have something that I wanna talk about that has weighed on my mind for the past few days that I wanted to share with you guys. As I was scrolling through my Instagram feed, I stopped on a post by Cardi B of Love and Hip Hop fame (I think her posts are so entertaining so don’t judge me!) and she posted a pic of herself in a unique outfit and most of the comments were giving her praise posting things like:

girl you are working it!

beautiful!

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You get the picture!

Unfortunately, one person decided to write a comment that had nothing to do with the actual picture but choosing to comment instead on a rumor going around about her dumping a rapper she’s been seeing because he was going to charge her to be featured on a song of hers. Never mind that the rumor wasn’t true but it must have upset her so much that this was the ONLY comment that she replied to. Out of hundreds of positive comments/praise,  she chose to respond to the ONE person that brought negativity to her page and responded with anger saying something like:

“B-word” you don’t know what you’re talking about!

In that moment, I realized that many of us do the same thing on and offline and what starts out as being something positive and uplifting has turned into anger or resentment that weighs the soul down.

Instead of focusing on the “likes” or positive things happening in our lives, we choose to focus and respond to the negative; who doesn’t like us or why we don’t have this or that and dwelling on all the negative circumstances draws more negative energy our way.  You are what  you attract and instead of being concerned with that type of energy in the form of unnecessary criticism, harsh judgment or opinions that do not add to your life, focus on the people and things that make you happy and bring joy to  your day. Now I am not saying that there needs to be people who compliment you 24/7 to feed your ego or confidence but being around people who see the best in you and want the best for you is the easiest way to attract the things you want. If there are people in your life that focus more on the negative than the positive, you  may need to reevaluate these connections and find others that are like-minded and will help you in your journey to being the best version of  yourself. It is easier said than done but your peace of mind will thank you later for it;)

I’m working on being the best version of myself this summer by starting a 45 day fitness journey with a few of my friends, reading/listening to inspirational and motivational books/speeches, participating in a 90 day workshop with a group of inspiring and motivated women who also want to work on themselves and doing a bit of traveling for fun and celebration! Needless to say, I will have a lot to discuss in upcoming posts so make sure you always come back here to see what I am up to! Look forward to sharing my journey with you this summer and beyond!

Take care and always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

 

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New Year, New Me Makeover Recap

Good Afternoon! I know you all have been waiting for me to post about this makeover that my friends and I were working on and I am a week late in posting but things have been very busy for me! I am so happy that I finally have the chance to post everything on here! I had the opportunity to interview the Grand Prize winner Evelyn and the runner-up winner Shanik and talk to them a bit about their reasons for getting the makeover. Their stories really touched me and the rest of the makeover team and I am sure you will feel the same! Evelyn was styled from head  to toe from hair, makeup and clothes and participated in a photo shoot to show her new look off. Shanik had her hair styled and makeup done by our team. Both ladies were also gifted with a gift bag courtesy of Mizani and Danessa Myricks. In other words, they are SET for the new year!

Thanks to Ellin Lavar of Lavar Hair Designs for letting us use her salon for the makeover and shoot and a very special thanks to the “New Year, New Me” Makeover Team for making all of this possible! Follow them on Instagram:

Hair Stylist: @HairGirlReginaPearl and Tawanna of @lavarhair
Stylist: @steffiev
Creative Director: @sh0nique
Make Up Artist: @niasia_ and @mo_bates
Nail Artist: @shellbeezy
Photographer/Videographer: @misterduffey
Salon: Lavar Hair Designs @lavarhair

 

Scroll down below for pictures as well as my interviews with the lovely ladies! I have a lot planned for February and thanks to my new social media maven Kimmy, I’m about to make some ish happen so stay tuned! Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

 

 

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Before and After shots of our “New Year, New Me” makeover grand prize winner Evelyn

 

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Before and After shots of our “New Year, New Me” Makeover Runner Up Shanik!

 

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Side Profile of Evelyn from her shoot

 

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Evelyn’s full on punk glam look!

 

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The lovely ladies posing together after their makeovers!

 

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Close up of Shanik’s new look!

 

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Side profile of Shanik’s new cut!

 

BTS Video and Interviews

 

 

 

Throwback Thursday: College Highlights

 

My honors scholar award, me at one of the honor society ceremonies and graduation:)

 
Good Afternoon:) My writer’s block has gotten serious so I have been looking for inspiration in various places. I was on Instagram looking at my friends’ “Throwback Thursday” posts and wanted to do one of my own but I wanted to elaborate a bit more about the pics and what they meant to me. I started thinking about the last time I felt fulfilled and accomplished and I realized that I haven’t had those feelings since I graduated from college in 2013. This was my second time trying the college thing (when I went to college in Atlanta straight out of high school, things didn’t work out the way I expected) and I set 2 specific goals for myself. The first goal was to graduate in 3 years because it was possible as long as I didn’t take any breaks and the second was to graduate with a 4.0 GPA because I wanted to push myself mentally in a way that I never had before. I was beyond ecstatic when I accomplished both of those goals and it made me realize that I could do anything if I put my mind to it and REALLY wanted it bad enough. On top of that, I was inducted into 3 honor societies and won a special award from the Honors Program I was in. These achievements made me feel like I was finally able to get something right and looking back on it, I am so proud I made it to that point and my father was able to see his little girl achieve these goals before he passed away the following year. 

As I was reflecting on that time in my life, i wondered where my passion and dedication has gone since then. There are so many things that I want to achieve and I know what they are but I’m not sure on where to start. Going back to school was scary for me in the beginning but my willpower and determination outweighed my fear of failure. As I stated earlier in this post, if I really want something bad enough, I can make it happen but before I get to that point, I need to start doing the things that I am passionate about to give me that push I need to lead a life of greatness. I know that everything happens for a reason and I am here for a greater purpose and not confined to my current circumstances. Instead of overwhelming myself with trying to do multiple things at once, I’m going to focus on one or two goals at a time like I did in college and give my all to making them happen. Patience is a virtue and I thank you all for being patient with me as I figure out the next steps to take in my journey. Talk to you soon!
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Getting My Body (and mind) Right!

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Happy Labor Day everyone! While most of us are off from work/school and enjoying the day out at barbeques, parades and festivals, I’ll be at home focused on eating right and exercising. Why you ask? I chose today to start off my new fitness routine which includes eating things like egg whites, almond butter and oatmeal (not the kind with all the sugar in the instant packets but the plain oats lol) and doing an at home workout plan that consists of crunches, sit ups and squats. I am not really big on cookout food so I don’t miss not eating burgers and hot dogs but pasta and white bread are my weaknesses so I am going to miss my baked ziti and buttered rolls for dinner once a week lol. I decided that even though most of the foods I like taste really good, they aren’t good for you. Last summer, I was having really bad stomach issues. I was bloated, constipated and in pain for most of July 2014 and taking laxatives didn’t help much. Things eventually went back to normal but I didn’t understand why I felt so terrible. I ended up telling the doctor about my past issues at my last checkup and she told me that it was because of my diet. The bread and cheese weren’t digesting properly and I wasn’t drinking enough water to cleanse my system out so I became backed up. She suggested that I incorporate more fruits and veggies in my diet and eat pasta and bread in moderation. I knew she was right but I wasn’t sure where to start. Then I saw a pic of my friend on Instagram that changed everything for me.

My childhood friend Nedeline and I  lost touch after she moved away in 3rd grade. Fast forward to about 20 years later through the magic of Facebook, we were able to reconnect. The little girl I remembered had changed drastically. While my friend was always thin, she wasn’t the fit and fabulous woman who I see today. I couldn’t believe that she was in such amazing shape. She looked like one of those women that I see on commercials for workout dvds. I was blown away and I wanted to know exactly how she did it. It turns out that she is a “fitness entrepreneur” who has her own company called “Hardgirlz”.  She’s entered fitness competitions and through “Hardgirlz”,  helps people with their own fitness journeys. I started making a lot of changes in my life that were good for the mind and soul but along the way, I stopped focusing so much on my body. Seeing a pic of her on my Instagram feed was a sign that I needed to make a major change that would not only help me to become a healthier and more active person but would allow me to take back the control that I let food have over me. My family has a history of heart disease and for me to have a better chance at a longer life, I need to improve my eating and exercise habits now while I am still young so my body will thank me later. With Nedeline’s help, I feel that I will be very successful in maintaining this new lifestyle. I will be updating you all on my journey so you will see pics and all of that as the weeks progress so stay tuned!

Follow Hardgirlz on Instagram (@_hardgirlz) for inspiring pics and how to start your own fitness journey!

 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!