Wisdom Wednesday: Love vs Lust

Good Morning! I can’t take the credit for the topic of today’s post so thanks to my homie Jason for coming up with a great topic. Many people confuse love with lust and for a while, I was guilty of doing the same. Over time, after becoming more self-aware, (check out my previous post to read about that journey!) I was able to see things for what they really were and by taking my rose colored glasses off, it was easier to tell the difference between true love and lust based off of infatuation.

In my opinion, love is multifaceted. There are different kinds of love depending on the individual and the type of relationship that exists. As far as romantic love is concerned, it takes time to build the foundation for the deep connection that transforms the longer you are with someone.  I believe that love develops from that foundation and grows over time after being able to see people for who they really are and embrace all of those parts, regardless of their flaws.  If I am being completely honest with myself, I feel that most of my relationships didn’t have that strong foundation for love to grow. They were either based off of superficial qualities and once I was able to see the man I was involved with for who he really was, I was blinded by lust, not for the essence of the person I was with but for the image of the man that I created in my mind. I can say one of those relationships was love but because there was so  much pain and embarrassment involved with that particular person, I don’t remember the positive emotions that are associated with love such as awe and amazement but more so the negative ones like disappointment and frustration. I know that love isn’t all about rainbows and butterflies but I do believe the good should outweigh the bad and if it doesn’t, is it really love? I feel that everyone will have a different answer depending on their own personal experiences but for me, love should follow the principles that are outlined in 1 Corinthians 13:4-5:“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”  I feel that this verse embodies the qualities that I feel love should be based on and are necessary for a relationship to grow and last.  I am currently single but I promised myself that my next relationship will be with the love of my life and until God feels I’m ready for him to enter my life, I’m good with being alone:)

What emotions/feelings do you associated with love and lust? Let me know in the comments below! You can also connect with me on IG (@amoreluxe_) and on FB (Angela Cherai) to voice your opinion on this topic and if you have any ideas/suggestions for future posts, let me know! Until next time, remember to love and live luxuriously!