Wisdom Wednesday: Turn Your Dreams Into Reality 

  
Good Afternoon! After a week of being on an emotional roller coaster as well as in slight discomfort from getting 3 teeth pulled, (ouch!) I told myself that I would make a post on Wisdom Wednesday that would push me forward and give myself and others the motivation to go after the things they want in life. While I was on Facebook yesterday, I saw the quote posted above and I realized that as much as I dream and visualize the things I want in my life, I haven’t stepped out of the “dream” state of mind. 

Dreams can’t come true without the action that goes behind them so even though I am physically awake, my dreams are dormant because I haven’t been pushing myself to go after the things I want with everything I have. I have accomplished a lot in my (almost) 30 years of living but I’m not content with living off of past successes and achievements. Life is a challenge but the things that are really worth having are worth the pain, struggle and sacrifice. I’ve already taken the first step by being able to create my own dream but now I have to take a huge leap forward and be prepared for whatever comes my way. In the end, I want to be able to see those visions in my head in real life and not only in the fantasies that linger in my mind while sleeping.  I can’t wait to see what transpires:) 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously! 

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Speak Your Mind

drseussquoteGood Morning! After a week of writer’s block, I promised myself that I would post something even if it was a quote because I know that there is someone out there that may help from my posts as random as they can be sometimes! I believe that we are all works in progress and I know that as much as I’ve grown in the past few years, I still have a long way to go. I was looking for quotes online and stumbled across one by one of my favorite authors: Dr. Seuss (lol) that spoke about being true to who you are. Even though many people would consider me to be an outspoken and outgoing person, one of my biggest issues is that even though I know that I should focus on how I feel about myself and the decisions I make, the little girl inside of me still seeks approval and acceptance from her peers. It stems from my childhood and adolescence because I didn’t think that anyone cared about how I felt or what I wanted so I stayed silent on the sidelines. It took me years to really put myself out there and at times, I still have issues when it comes to speaking my mind. I have strong opinions about things but sometimes I hold my tongue because I don’t to sound ignorant or misinformed. Other times, I stay silent because I don’t want to feel like I’m the only one that doesn’t “get it” and I didn’t want to start arguing and end up looking foolish in the end. In instances like these, I don’t want to stand out so being silent seems like the only way to be accepted.

I started to notice that I was reverting back to the old me when I was at my retail job the other day. The managers and a few of the associates are very opinionated and self-assured and I started feeling like I used to when I would stay silent on things that bothered me because I wanted to avoid confrontation . Truth be told, I really don’t care for most of the people I work with and feel like I’m settling when I clock in so I’m polite and mainly focus on doing my job until it’s time for me to go. The thing is, I love talking to people about what’s going on in their lives and sharing stories so we can connect and hopefully heal but I can’t be my true self while interacting with associates and customers because the focus is not about connecting but making the sale. Although I went to school for marketing and understand the nature of business, I feel like this place is sucking the positive energy out of me because it isn’t my passion or my purpose. I know it is a temporary thing and I need to make the best of it but I can’t allow this job to bring me to a mental space where I am not being true to who I am or what I feel. Now I know better than to become loud and angry if someone says or does something that doesn’t sit right with me but I also know that I am not going to put up with disrespect solely because of my position as a sales associate. I am trying to find that balance so I can speak my mind and it doesn’t come off as abrasive or defensive but at the same time, I am respected and seen for who I really am.

One of the things I wanted to do this year was focusing on being a better person starting from within. As I stated in an earlier post, I wanted to start eating healthier even before I attempted to work out because I have been told that the key to staying fit is 70% diet and 30% exercise so I’m gonna work on that 70% now. Working on being a better person also means that I have to be in a positive space mentally and spiritually. I spoke about getting rid of toxic people in a recent post (https://amoreluxe.com/2015/01/16/toxic-people/) but even with positive people surrounding me, I have to find that light from within to truly shine. My friend Kimmy and I are always talking about making our dreams a reality.She is involved in social media marketing and has notable clients under her belt but she wants to go out and try new things in the city of dreams and is actually making it happen! She told me that I should read the book “The Secret” because it talks about the law of attraction to gain the things that you really want in life. I plan on starting it tonight so hopefully by next week, I can give my review on it. Also, I am planning on creating a vision board because she made one and so did my friend, beauty blogger extraordinaire Kiwi of www.kiwithebeauty.com  (love, love, love her site!) These ladies inspire me and have such positive energy surrounding them so if they are opening up their minds and exploring new possibilities by doing these things, I am damn sure going to do it too because this will help me become the woman I want to be!

There is a quote that says “The only true failure is the failure of not trying”so I am going to make sure I continue to give it my all. I am still working on a few things related to the “Confidence Campaign” so make sure you stay tuned for what I have in store because it is definitely worth the wait:) I hope all of you have an amazing day and remember to always love and live luxuriously!

 

 

 

 

 

My Year End Post: Master of My Fate

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.
          Invictus by William Ernest Henley

IMG_0410-0Merry Christmas Eve everyone! I wanted to write a post before the new year came in and since I have off from work for a few days, I figured that I would write my end of year post today. I have thought a lot about this year and all the ups and downs that have brought me to the place where I am today.

The beginning of the year started off well and I had big plans for the site and life in general. Things rarely go as planned so when my father suddenly became ill and died a few weeks later, my world was turned upside down. Nothing made sense anymore and I felt lost. His death was a wake up call for me and I started seeing everything in my life for what it really was instead of what I wanted it to be. After having a conversation with my publicist, I decided to relaunch the site under a new name that was more in alignment with my message of confidence being the foundation that everything else in life is built upon. “Amore Luxe” was going to be a new beginning for me in many ways and I wanted to incorporate this fresh start into other areas in my life both professional and personal. I told myself that instead of feeling stuck in a situation that was going nowhere in regards to the man I was seeing, I would attempt to date. Once again, reality didn’t quite match up to my expectations.

When I joined the online dating site OkCupid.com this past summer, I thought I would interact with men who wanted the same things I did as far as building a friendship and working on being in a relationship. I found out that many of them were more interested in having a “friends with benefits” type of situation and while messaging and flirting was fun for me at first, I soon realized that I wanted more and the guys I was interacting with weren’t ready and/or able to be open to the possibility of what that entailed. Even the one guy who I thought I had made a connection with from OkCupid turned out to be a flake who never made good on his word and it made me realize that even though online dating is different from real face to face interaction, disappointment when things don’t work out still hurts just the same.

While in the 4th quarter of 2014 after getting disappointment after disappointment over situations and people who had let me down , I told myself that I would focus on things that o could control and let everything else just fall into place. Focusing on “Amore Luxe” was definitely on that list but I needed financial stability so I could take things to the next level. Unfortunately, finding a job related to my major (marketing) was easier said than done. I went on a few interviews that didn’t pan out and with the holidays coming up, I knew that retail work would be something I could do until I was able to do what I really wanted. I talked about my job in my last post so I won’t get into that but working there has made me realize that my purpose is greater than my current situation and that it is up to me to use this as motivation to get me where I need to be.

As I sit here writing this semi long post(if you read up to this point, I am pleasantly surprised and appreciative!) I see now that I am the “master of my fate and the captain of my soul” meaning that no outside power or force can have control over me unless I allow it. Trials and tribulations are a part of life but it is up to me to stay strong and to pick myself up when I fall down. I can’t let fear of the unknown or disappointment run my life and I can’t let others opinions of me deter me from my destiny. 2015 is a week away and although I can’t be 100% certain of what to expect in the weeks and months to come, I can say that I am trying a different approach this time around that has nothing to do with changing physical attributes related to myself or “Amore Luxe”. Instead, I am focusing on becoming a better blogger, vlogger, businesswoman and most importantly, a better human being that can help others master their fate and become captains that can change the world.

Thank you to all who have been on this amazing journey with me…we have so much more to do so stay tuned:)

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!