Less Than Perfect

Pretty, pretty please don’t you ever, ever feel
Like you’re less than less than perfect
Pretty, pretty please if you ever, ever feel
Like you’re nothing, you are perfect to me

Pink-Less Than Perfect

Good Afternoon! I announced the launch of the “Confidence Campaign 2015” yesterday and I am so excited! There are so many issues I want to talk and have open discussions about. Confidence has an effect on every aspect of life and although we are always told that it is what’s on the inside that counts which is absolutely true but so many of us care about our appearance. We focus on what others think of us especially w hen it comes to the opposite sex and do things to appeal to them. Some may think that these thoughts start at adolescence because of peer pressure but I have seen for myself that it starts at an early age.

I am a tutor at an afterschool program and I work with kids ages 5-11 and there is this one girl who was one of the inspirations for this post. She is a cute, thin brown-skinned girl who runs  her mouth at all the wrong times and is constantly in trouble because of it. Her mother came in to the daycare one day visibly upset because her daughter got in trouble at school earlier  in the day Even though her talkative nature was worrisome, what bothered me even more was that her mom said she hardly eats anything when she’s at school or home. My mother is a Certified Teacher in Health Education and between the conversations we’ve had and the countless movies I’ve watched throughout my childhood and young adult life, I started to become worried that this little girl was showing signs of Anorexia. I pulled her aside and had a conversation with her and asked her why she didn’t want to eat and she told me that she didn’t want to get fat. I couldn’t understand why this little girl who takes ballet and has not an ounce of fat on her was so worried about being fat. It broke my heart and made me realize that working on having good self-esteem at a young age.

Children are very influenced by what they see and hear and absorb everything so we have to make sure that we put positive self-image messages out there to counteract the millions of negative messages that the media releases daily. Instead of showing size 2 models in all the advertisements let’s have size 14 models which reflects the size of the average woman in the United States. Instead of focusing so much on fad diets to lose weight quickly let’s focus on eating healthy and incorporating exercise into our daily lives to be better people, not to appease the world but for our own mental, physical and spiritual well-being.

I hope that this “Confidence Campaign’ is a gateway into further conversations about changing the way we view each other and ourselves. Let’s continue the conversation on Twitter. Facebook and Instagram by using the hashtag #confidencecampaign. This is definitely the beginning of something big! Much love to you all:)

 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Selma Movie Review

Good Morning! I wanted to wait until “Selma” was released nationwide tomorrow (January 9th) but after seeing a preview for it for the millionth time on tv, I took it as a sign to give an early review so I could persuade everyone to go out and see it on Friday. I had the opportunity to see the movie right before Christmas at an advanced screening of it in NYC courtesy of http://www.gofobo.com. I knew I was going to love the movie because I am a Civil Rights History buff. When I was younger, I used to read  anything related to the Civil Rights Movement so I was familiar with “Bloody Sunday” and the importance of that moment in history but I didn’t realize how strategic the “non-violent” approach really was in the grand scheme of things. In “Selma”  the viewer is able to see how being non-violent played into the hearts and minds of the public by way of the media. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was able to show the pain and suffering of African-Americans in Selma and the south by showing that voting isn’t a privilege but a basic human right and being denied those rights is not only illegal but immoral.

I also loved how the director, Ava DuVernay (who is the first African-American woman to be nominated for a Golden Globe award and hopefully Oscar) approached many of the scenes, in particular, the “Bloody Sunday” scene. The phrase that comes to mind after viewing that scene  is “tragically beautiful” because of all the emotions that occurred in those brutal moments. You could feel hate from their oppressors and mental strength and resilience from the marchers. It is so crazy to realize that all of this actually happened only 50 years ago. We have come a long way but as recent  event such as Ferguson and Eric Garner have  shown, we still have a very long way ago. “Selma” is coming out at an ideal time because we all can learn from the past to make sure that we handle current racial issues in a strategic way to see real progress.

I think that David Oyelowo (the actor who played MLK Jr.) did an amazing job showing the different facets of MLK.  He showed MLK as a funny, down to earth person who even in his greatest moments had imperfections and indiscretions like everyone else. I was really impressed with the fact that he was British because being able to capture the voice and overall essence of someone as well-known as Martin Luther King Jr. is not an easy task. I am sure he will be nominated for an Oscar for his role as well!

Make sure you go out and see “Selma” in theaters tomorrow and come back to the comments section and let me know what you thought of it! Can’t wait to read your replies!

 

Love and live luxuriously!

Pretty Hurts

Perfection is a disease of a nation. It’s the soul that needs the surgery

Beyonce-Pretty Hurts

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Last week, I posted quotes that stood out in my mind and because I have listened to Beyonce’s latest album nonstop, this lyric from her song “Pretty Hurts” stood out to me especially since many of my posts focus on having confidence. I was talking to my friend Kimmy  last night and we started talking about R&B artist Dawn Richard. I had the pleasure of interviewing her at the beginning of last year after her show at SOB’s in NYC(check out the interview here http://theangielalaexperience.com/2011/07/29/feature-artist-dawn-richard/) and she was so sweet and honest. As far as looks go, she was beautiful in my eyes.  Her brown skin was flawless , her haircut was on point and she had this glow about her that seemed to draw everyone in. I was so happy for her and the artist that she was becoming. I felt that she had it altogether and knew who she was so when I was on her Instagram page a few weeks ago and saw her post a picture of someone who I assumed was a model, I thought nothing of it because I figured she liked this particular woman’s look/style. Imagine how I felt when I started reading the comments and realized that she had posted a picture of herself. I was in shock and not in a good way. Although the woman in the picture was beautiful, she wasn’t the woman with the full face and smooth brown skin that I remembered interviewing a year earlier. I thought  “Maybe its Photoshop gone too far” but then I looked at pictures she posted after the first one that didn’t seem to be altered in any way and it was then that I felt that another pretty girl had given in to the pressure from the media/society.

I feel that people have a right to do what makes them happy so if plastic surgery is what works for you, then that is cool but it bothers me when people say they love who they are but then change the traits that make them unique. I feel that flaws are beautiful and give a person character. Like my eyes are huge but they stand out and I’m a petite girl for the most part but the changes that have happened to my body over the last few years have been natural not because of cosmetic enhancements. I know its hard to feel beautiful at all time especially when you see something in others that you want but giving in to the pressure would make you blend in instead of standing out. It is better to be a first-rate version of yourself than a second-rate version of someone else.

Always follow your heart and do what is right for YOU and not anyone else.

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