YouTube Vlogger Spotlight: Chescaleigh

Good Morning! I strive to be completely honest with my readers about all the issues/struggles that I am dealing with in my life. With that being said, I have a confession to make: I am a YouTube addict. Seriously though! I can spend hours and hours looking and various YouTube content. Some of it is substance material, some of it is fluff but I keep telling myself that I need to stop watching and start creating. That works for like a day or so and then I go to my recommended video list on the main page and I see content that changes the way I look at life and I become hooked once again. This is exactly what happened when I stumbled across YouTube Vlogger Chescaleigh’s YouTube page. She had this video called “Shit White Girls Say To Black Girls” and I couldn’t stop laughing while watching but it wasn’t solely because the content was funny and entertaining.  She was able to show how white people say racist things to people of color about everything from their appearance to their culture but thought because they phrased it in a certain way or because they were cool with that person, the racist comments/questions were acceptable. I have heard a few of the questions myself especially the ones related to my hair so it was refreshing to have someone turn a mirror and show people how silly/stupid/ignorant their comments and questions really are and hopefully will teach them to think before they speak and allow us to have more honest and open dialogues when it comes to racism and prejudice.

Chesca now works with MTV and creates entertaining and thought-provoking videos along the same lines as her own channel’s content. I am so happy that there is someone like her out there that is so creative and is able to articulate our thoughts and ideas in a way that people can actually get it. I strive to be just as creative when I do my own videos. Make sure you check out her page on YouTube (  and watch the video “Shit White Girls Say To Black Girls” below and let me know who your fave YouTube vloggers are!



Don’t forget about my live web chat next Wednesday at 9Pm est. Looking forward to chatting with you guys!


Always remember to love and live luxuriously!




My Pre-VMA experience!

Heyyyyyyyy! I know I keep on saying that I’m gonna post but I didn’t wanna just talk about any old random thing. I wanted to write something when I actually had something to talk about and this weekend gave me just the inspiration/motivation I needed! I wanted to get VMA tix and I was on 1iota everyday waiting for them to post seat filler tickets (yeah I wasn’t about to stand outside in heels all day trying to get pics lol) so while I was wishing and praying that those would come through, I found out about a few events that I wanted to go to. I was asked to help out at a pre-VMA event that Themediamodel was in charge of on Friday night. People really don’t realize what goes on behind the scenes but it is pure madness trying to make sure everything is in place. I was helping out with the gift bags and let me tell you, celebs get some pretty nice stuff! There were expensive headphones, cute little bracelets, handbags and trendy looking t-shirts and caps…so much stuff and I am like “ahhhhhhhhh!”  When the doors finally opened for the media and “celebs” to come through, it was madness! The venue was small so the temperature changed dramatically and I looked hot…literally! I didn’t see too many people that I recognized but I met a few upcoming artists that I hope to feature on the site in the near future. I also received a gift bad of the leftover stuff that was stored in the back so I was super excited about that!

Saturday was all about BK! I met up with my girl Telisha of in the city. We had brunch at this cute hipster spot in Brooklyn which was right around the corner at VP Nail Lounge where Adrienne Bailon was having a Pre-VMA event. The nail salon was super cute and the bar which was sponsored by Malibu Red had some tasty drinks. I was in heaven when I found out that they were serving red velvet cupcakes and they tasted AMAZING! Telisha and I just chilled when I spotted some familiar faces in the crowd. I ended up talking to BET/VH1 correspondent and Gossip Game star Sharon Carpenter, former 106 and Park host Miss Paigion, R&B singer Bridget Kelly, R&B singer Elle Varner and Adrienne Bailon. All of the ladies looked amazing and were really sweet. I told them about the site and how I would love to do an interview with them so I’m keeping my fingers crossed!

After that event, I headed back to Manhattan and met up with some friends who have a radio/ web show called “Titty Talk” that is hilarious and provocative in the best way! Telisha was a special guest so I had to come and support. Check them out on Facebook because you will be throughly entertained! After ALL of that, I finally headed on home lol!

I didn’t get to go to the VMA’s (insert sad face here) but I am more determined to get in there for next year…unless Miley Cyrus is performing again cause I will definitely pass on that! 


Talk to you soon and stay tuned for details on something big I’m working on called the “Confidence Campaign”


Love ya:)






me and Adrienne Bailon at her Pre-VMA Pamper Party
Elle Varner, myself and other ladies at Adrienne Bailon’s Pre-VMA Pamper Party
Bridget Kelly and I at Adrienne Bailon’s Pre-VMA Pamper Party


Online Dating: Expect the unexpected


I don’t watch that much television anymore(with the exception of Law and Order SVU and Scandal) but there is a show on MTV that I find fascinating called “Catfish” that deals with people who want to meet the internet love of their lives. The twist is that when they meet their love in person, nothing is the way they thought it would be. I have met a few guys off of the internet(yeah kinda weird to admit but I’m putting it out there!) and although the situations weren’t as extreme as the ones on “Catfish” (I actually talked to the person on the phone and their pics were actually their pics lol) the face to face interaction wasn’t what I expected it to be.

The first guy I ever met off of the internet was someone I was talking to on Myspace(so you know how LONG ago that was). Let’s call him “Playboy” cause that was part of his AIM sn lol…”Playboy” was kinda cute, we seemed to click online but in person, the magic just wasn’t there. I wasn’t drawn to him the way I was online and after we agreed to meet the next day but when he suddenly cancelled, I knew then that we didn’t live up to each other’s expectations.

The next dude I met was someone who found me off of a message board I frequented. He was cute from his pics and we had great conversation. Same story as the first situation right??? Well when we met up a month or so later, I thought he was nice but something was off about him. I didn’t realize until our third date that his hand was deformed and I was mortified. I try not to be judgmental but I was really bothered by it and it turned me off from future dates. He never mentioned it and I didn’t pick up on it until I took a closer look but I wish I would have known in advance because I would have been able to deal with it differently. We never saw each other after that last date but I was very leery of who I dealt with in online interactions after that.

This last dude that I am going to mention was different than the others because he hit me up on Myspace regarding a mutual associate of ours. We ended up talking to each other and I enjoyed our conversations not really focused on what he looked like. Curiosity got the best of me and I decided to check out his profile and I was blown away. He was freaking gorgeous and when we talked on the phone, he sounded as good as he looked. Even though I had 2 bad experiences in the past with online dating, I felt such a strong connection to this man I’ve never met before. He lived 4 hours away and when we tried to make arrangements to meet up, something always came up. A year after we started talking, I was in his area for an event so we finally met up and I was super nervous. We had an interesting time but once again, things were not the way I expected them to be. This time, it had nothing to do with looks or chemistry but more about fear of the unknown. Putting yourself out there for someone who is a stranger in many aspects is scary. You never know what to expect. the best thing to do is to hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.

I have been fortunate not to have any “Catfish” experiences but my own online dating life and the show have taught me one thing.No matter how much you think you know about someone whether its an online or face to face relationship, always expect the unexpected.