Overcoming My Fears



Good Morning! I know it’s been a minute since my last post and as I’ve stated before, I’m still trying to sort my life out. This has been one of the toughest years of my life because I have been in a state of uncertainty for most of it. When you are passionate about something and you pray that things will work out the way you imagined, it feels like a punch to the gut when things take a turn for the worst. I never wanted to settle but it felt like a lot of the decisions I’ve made in my professional and personal life weren’t ideal choices but instead, the most logical ones for the time being. This was because I was letting fear take control over my life.

At the beginning of the year, I had so many plans for my life and specifically, for the site but I allowed fear and doubt get in the way of my goals. There was so much that I wanted to do but instead of taking things one day at a time, I let myself feel overwhelmed and decided not to go after any of the things I desired. Now I’m at the point where I can either decide to let my fears (fear of failure, fear of rejection, etc.) control my life and keep me at a standstill or I can let it motivate me to become the best version of myself. I’m going with the latter šŸ™‚ Fear is normal because most of us have things we are unsure of or uncomfortable with. Fear gives us limits and limitations are only good when people and situations can put our life at risk. Fear is not good however when it threatens to limit your potential. In these instances, faith and belief in yourself must override the fear that is holding you back. It is a scary process but the result is worth the anxiety and uncertainty that lingered at the beginning of the journey.

It’s about a month away from the new year and I’m not waiting until 2016 to overcome my fears. There is one end of the year goal that I’m working on and once I achieve it, I’ll be sure to tell you all about it. I want to go into 2016 with a bang and this goal will be the spark that I need to start 2016 off right! Thanks for rocking with me and stay tuned for my comeback:p


Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Realistic New Year’s Resolutions

new-years-resolutionsHappy New Year everyone! Hope everyone had a fun and safe start to 2015. Now that many of us have entered 2015 with a bang, it’s time to get to work! Every year I make New Year’s Resolutions that I intend to follow through on but somewhere between the end of January and the beginning of February, those plans go by the wayside. I didn’t want to do the typical “New year, New me” type of post because I don’t plan on becoming a “new” person. I just want to change some behaviors and characteristics to improve the foundation that I’ve already laid in my life. I feel like the only way that this will work is if I start making realistic New Year’s resolutions that work for me and my lifestyle. I have a list of things that I want to work on but my top 3 goals for this year are to eat healthier, think and act positively and to take risks to get to where I want to be in my life.

As far as eating healthy goes, I like going to spots like Jamba Juice for smoothies and this health food place called HLS for healthy wraps and the best sweet potato fries EVER! (if you are in the north NJ area, you definitely have to visit!) but I really don’t watch what I eat when I’m at home. I told myself that jumping into an all healthy 3 meal a day lifestyle won’t work for me at this point but I can eat what I like in moderation and start juicing as a way to balance my diet. My mom bought me the Nutribullet for Christmas and for the past few days, I have had at least 1 smoothie a day with fruits like strawberries and pineapples and veggies like spinach all blended together. The results were surprisingly good! Many of my Facebook friends juice as well and have given me some great recipes to try so I am looking forward to my juicing journey. If you have any great recipes, feel free to share in the comments section below:)

I strive to be a positive person in both my personal and professional life but sometimes, negative energy creeps up on you and throws you off track and that has happened to me a lot in 2014. I threw a lot of pity parties and cut myself off but I told myself that this year when I start going down that path, I would immediately do something to snap out of it. Something as simple as listening to a party song (Turn up for what!) can bring me out of that mood. I also like googling positive quotes and watching inspiring stories on YouTube that bring happy tears to my eyes. Little actions like this can make a big difference and although it is okay to cry and let it all out, to stay in that depressing state is no good for the mind, body or soul and I intend to make sure that I evoke positive energy for all the world to see!

When I think of myself and all that I have accomplished, I am very proud of many of the goals that I have achieved thus far (graduating college with a 4.0, interviewing various celebrities, relaunching the site under a new name on my birthday) but there is so much more that I want to do and I know that rejection and fear are my biggest deterrents when it comes to achieving my goals. I don’t like hearing the word no although at times, its inevitable and I take those nos personally and start to doubt myself instead of using it as motivation to drive me even more. I let fear of the unknown and fear of failing stop me from going to that next level in life and although I believe in the saying “The great the risk, the greater the reward” , I never applied it to my life and instead settled for mediocrity in many ways. That worked for a while until I started seeing people I grew up with and met at various social events and engagements doing these amazing things with their lives and I thought to myself “Why cant that be me?” The answer I received was that it wasn’t me because I was sitting around hoping and wishing instead of getting up and putting in the work that it takes to get to all of these amazing things. I don’t want to waste another moment wondering “What if?” so my biggest resolution for 2015 is to be a go-getter in every sense of the word šŸ˜‰


Other resolutions are to stop cursing (there are so many words in the English language I can use to express myself) and to learn how to save money (a foreign concept to me lol) but I know that by taking little steps each day and changing patterns and behaviors will help me make those big steps when the time comes. I wish everyone a happy, healthy, safe and productive 2015 and beyond!


Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Work In Progress

workinprogressIt’s almost the end of February and I told myself that I would start 2014 off differently. I was going to have a different mindset this time around because change begins in the mind before it can actually be seen with the eyes. I started working out (doing the 30 day ab and squat exercises) eating healthy (and counting calories) and I would post regularly on the site. I was good up until the last week of January lol…I don’t know what happened but I just lost interest in the workouts and started going back to my old eating habits. And as far as the site, well I haven’t posted in weeks until today so you know how that turned out. I started off so gung-ho about everything but then the passion and energy started to evaporate and I ended up in the same place I started. I felt like a failure and anyone that knows me knows that I hate to fail. I understand that failure is apart of life but I hate the feeling that I get when I try something but for whatever reason, things don’t go as expected and I am left feeling defeated and disappointed. I started thinking about why I couldn’t complete the goals I set out to do and I realized that even though I was attempting to do the physical changes, I really didn’t prepare myself mentally for them so when things became too tough, my mental couldn’t take it anymore and I went back to the old way of doing things. I was reading Necole Bitchie’s personal blog last night and she had a post titled “You Will Not Always Win”(iamnecole.com/blog/you-will-not-always-win/). She discussed how the most successful people were rejected and turned away but that in the end, they moved on to something bigger and better. These people knew that failure didn’t mean that they should give up but that instead, try harder or do something different. As long as you are happy and are doing what you love to do, you won’t fail in the end. So today I told myself that I would figure out focusing on what makes me happy and working on goals related to that. I want to be in a better frame of mind and promote positivity and self-love Ā and be a shining example of a person who has overcome the obstacles placed in her way and became the best version of herself that she could be. Only then will I be able to do all the things I want to do and meet all of those goals and handle rejection and failure when it comes my way. Failure is inevitable but it is all how you handle it. I have run away from it but now I know that to get to that next level, I have to face it head on and bounce back. Instead of aiming for perfection, I am working on being happy and honest with myself. We are all a work in progress and everyday is a new day to improve the condition of our lives and the lives around us. I would love to hear more about your journey. How did you overcome the obstacles in your path? What motivates you to get out there and do your very best? Let me know in the comments section below! I look forward to reading your replies!