I know it’s been a minute but I had a lot of things to get off my chest so forgive me if this post is a bit all over the place but I wanted it to be read in its purest and rawest form without trying to sound perfect or profound. I’ve been MIA for a lot of reasons mainly because I was feeling uninspired/unmotivated/depressed/down on my luck, etc. I wanted to present the best version of myself and I felt that until I could do that, I was going to stay away from blogging and mainly lurk on social media with the occasional snap or ig flick. As a result, I gained social media envy and just felt like my whole life was a complete failure compared to that of my former classmates, family, friends and influencers. I knew deep down inside that you can’t take everything on social media at face value and that people usually present the best versions of themselves but I still allowed it to control the way I felt about my life and all the losses that had occurred. At the end of last year, I started going to therapy after my grandmother died because I was feeling lost and unsettled. My life felt like it was in shambles and I had no control over it. I was at a job that I didn’t like and I felt like I was settling and being complacent. My therapist made me realize that I had to take a leap of faith to see change so I decided the first thing that I had to let go of was the comfort and security of my job. I left my full-time job to follow my dreams of being an entrepreneur (social media marketing maven/blogger) but those old feelings of inadequacy came creeping back in. Though I was gung-ho at the beginning of the year and initial launch of “Amore Luxe Media”, the energy and steam wore off when I didn’t receive immediate results and the cycle of feeling uninspired and unmotivated started yet again. What made it worse was that I didn’t have a good excuse to not try harder. My closest friends were making moves, taking chances and pushing themselves past their comfort zones. They were living their lives unapologetically and even though sacrifices had to be made, they knew that the result would be worth it. If you watch the hit HBO show, Insecure, I felt like I was Issa and Issa is me. She was the one in the group of her friends that was at a job that didn’t fulfill her and was watching her life spin into chaos while the ones closest to her were living their best lives. I didn’t wanna be the “Issa” of the group so I had to have a brutally honest conversation with myself to figure out what to do to not suck in life lol
The “Insecure” scene that changed everything .I REFUSE to be the Issa in my group of friends 😂 😂😂
I came to the conclusion that I need to set out specific goals for myself, attack them ONE at a time and be consistent and persistent. I am the type of person who expects to see instant results instead of being patient and continuing to put the work in even when I may feel like wanting to give up or feel like I am heading towards failure. Between watching Oprah and Will Smith inspirational videos, I’ve learned that failure is inevitable but it is how you handle to that makes you a true contender in life. I was running away from my challenges in fear of failure and not attempting to give it my all is worse than any feeling that failure brings. I know that it’s a journey and it’s going to have its bumps and battles but giving up can no longer be an option. Excuses no longer cut it and while perfection is ideal, it shouldn’t be the main focus of everything that I set out to do. In order to live, I have to learn and embrace whatever is coming my way. I am strong enough to fight the battles and smart enough to know that failure or rejection isn’t the end but just another challenge I have to overcome to get what it is that I dream of. I have so much that I want to accomplish and normally I would list it all but for now, I’m keeping a few things to myself and will share them with you all as I make them happen.
“You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.”
― Oprah Winfrey
“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me danger is very real but fear is a choice.”
― Will Smith
For those who have supported me since “The Angielala Experience” days, I love you and I appreciate everything from the positive feedback, constructive critiques and every like/share/comment on social media. I am still in the process on what direction I want “Amore Luxe” to go in because I feel like it’s all over the place at the moment but I know that I still want confidence to be the focus and I hope that this post and all that follow it inspire and urge my readers to take chances to make the necessary changes in life. I know it’s tough but you can do it and I believe in you just as much as you believe in me and going forth, I promise that I will make sure to provide content that will help you be the best you. Let me know what you think about this post by liking/commenting/sharing. Much love to you all and always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Afternoon! I have been racking my brain on what I should write about. Writer’s block is no joke and it’s been a struggle but I thought about the things that have been heavy on my mind lately and I realize that I’ve been frustrated that I’m not living the life of my dreams yet. I know what I want out of life and the work that it will take to get there but it’s been tough just wishing and hoping that things will work out. That’s when I have my “aha” moment as Oprah likes to call it. If I’m actually putting in the work, I won’t have time to think about what I don’t have and what I’m not getting out of life. In order for me to want to do the work, it has to be something I’m passionate about and something I’m willing to wait for because I know that it will come true in time.
Passion and patience lead to greatness and I feel that both is needed for me to make all the visions on my vision board a reality. I can’t let pressure overwhelm me and as I stated in a previous post, I have to take things one day at a time. As long as I don’t lose sight of those goals and remain confident and excited about them, they will come to fruition. Every day is a new beginning so let this day be the start of something amazing! Be sure to keep me updated on your journey:)
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Morning! Last night as I was deciding what I wanted today’s challenge to be, I started thinking about the negative traits that I wanted to change about myself and one of them was gossiping. I am not as bad as some of my friends and family members but I still do indulge in gossip from time to time and that says more about my character than the person or people who I am speaking of. I can’t pretend that I like everything someone says or does but instead of focusing on the things that aren’t appealing or of interest of me when it comes to their appearance, behavior or overall personality, I could use that same time and effort into working on my life and the person I want to become. Gossip comes from a negative place and even though not all of it is meant to be malicious and hurtful (think about the funny and entertaining gossip blogs many of you read on a daily basis), it still demonstrates anger, envy, jealousy and other characteristics that are harmful to one’s mental well-being. They say misery loves company and a bunch of gossipers can spread misery and negative energy wherever they go.
I know how difficult it can be to stay away from gossip especially when your coworkers are talking about how much they can’t stand their boss or you turn on the television and watch yet another celebrity get bashed on TMZ but today, try your hardest to refrain from engaging in the chatter. Change the subject or walk away once someone attempts to bring you into the negative conversation. Turn the channel on the television or close out of the window of the site that is feeding negative energy about someone. Engage in other activities that are uplifting to yourself and others and you will feel better about yourself and life in general. Instead of the possibility of guilt or remorse after bashing someone, your confidence will rise because you didn’t have to put someone down to feel better about yourself and that is what this challenge and overall campaign is about. Affecting others in a favorable way will bring about good energy in your own life and will be clear to anyone who encounters you.
I made a conscious decision not to post challenges everyday because I don’t want this challenge to feel like work. On the “off” days, I want everyone to reflect on their progress so far and create goals that will bring them into a more confident frame of mind. I want to thank everyone who made it through week one of the “30 Day Confidence Challenge” and for those who are just starting, here’s a recap of the challenges so far:
Day 1: Finding “Me Time” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/09/day-1-confidence-challenge-treat-yourself-to-some-me-time/
Day 2: “Smile” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/10/day-2-confidence-challenge-smile/
Day 3 and Day 4: Challenge Break to work on “Confidence Goals”
Day 5: “Think Positive” https://amoreluxe.com/2015/04/13/day-5-confidence-challenge-think-positive/
Day 6- Reflection on Confidence Progress so far
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Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Morning Everyone!!! I am so excited about the response I received after posting about the “30 Days of Confidence” challenge yesterday. So many of you said you were all in for participating and wanted to know when we would start. Well TODAY is the day!!!! I have had multiple conversations with friends and family and so many of us feel blah about ourselves because we are overwhelmed with the pressure and unpredictability that life brings. Whether you are a mother or father working long hours to provide for your family or a college student trying to cram for 3 midterms, stress and the fear of failure can make us feel like we are losing even before we start our day. No matter what is going on in your life, ALWAYS remember to take care of yourself. You have to be in a good mental and physical state for other areas of your life to fall into place. If you want that promotion at your job or want to earn an A on your next exam, you have to get your mind right and for you to do that, you have to mentally and physically recharge to be at your best. Finding time out to treat yourself, even if its 15-20 minutes out of your day doing something you like is essential to your overall well-being and definitely has a positive impact on the way you see yourself. Doing these things by yourself also allows you to enjoy spending time with a person that should be valued and cherished:YOU! You are able to learn so many things about yourself when you are alone especially when its something you have never done before. I remember going to see a movie by myself for the first time last summer and I was so proud of myself because I did something that was outside of my comfort zone and enjoyed every moment of it. Something as simple as treating yourself out to your favorite meal or reading a chapter of a book you have been dying to read will have a profound effect on your mood and your overall outlook. If you pay close attention, you will notice that the most confident people are the ones who don’t need to be around a crowd every minute of the day. Their solitude speaks volumes and they can be alone without feeling lonely or insecure. It is a very powerful thing so I strongly suggest that you carve at least 15 minutes out of your schedule to do something fun/relaxing/entertaining for yourself by yourself. I plan on meditating while listening to the “Yoga and Meditation Playlist” on Spotify when I get home. It is relaxing and improves my mood and I told myself that I would start doing it more often so why not start on Day 1! Let me know what you plan on doing for your “Me Time” activity down below and make sure you do these things for you and not anyone else:)
I will be posting Day 2-Day 5 Confidence Challenges tomorrow so make sure you are on the lookout for that!
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!