Good Morning! I strive to be completely honest with my readers about all the issues/struggles that I am dealing with in my life. With that being said, I have a confession to make: I am a YouTube addict. Seriously though! I can spend hours and hours looking and various YouTube content. Some of it is substance material, some of it is fluff but I keep telling myself that I need to stop watching and start creating. That works for like a day or so and then I go to my recommended video list on the main page and I see content that changes the way I look at life and I become hooked once again. This is exactly what happened when I stumbled across YouTube Vlogger Chescaleigh’s YouTube page. She had this video called “Shit White Girls Say To Black Girls” and I couldn’t stop laughing while watching but it wasn’t solely because the content was funny and entertaining. She was able to show how white people say racist things to people of color about everything from their appearance to their culture but thought because they phrased it in a certain way or because they were cool with that person, the racist comments/questions were acceptable. I have heard a few of the questions myself especially the ones related to my hair so it was refreshing to have someone turn a mirror and show people how silly/stupid/ignorant their comments and questions really are and hopefully will teach them to think before they speak and allow us to have more honest and open dialogues when it comes to racism and prejudice.
Chesca now works with MTV and creates entertaining and thought-provoking videos along the same lines as her own channel’s content. I am so happy that there is someone like her out there that is so creative and is able to articulate our thoughts and ideas in a way that people can actually get it. I strive to be just as creative when I do my own videos. Make sure you check out her page on YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/user/chescaleigh) and watch the video “Shit White Girls Say To Black Girls” below and let me know who your fave YouTube vloggers are!
Don’t forget about my live web chat next Wednesday at 9Pm est. Looking forward to chatting with you guys!
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Afternoon lovely people! I want to start the week off on a positive note and let you guys know what is to come on “Amore Luxe”. The first event is the web chat that I have talked about for the past few weeks on my social media pages that I’m so excited about! I will be doing my first web chat of 2015 live on Wednesday August 19 at 9 PM Eastern standard time on Spreecast. The topic is colorism within and outside the black community. Make sure you post your thoughts down below so I can share them on the air. I have a couple of YouTube videos coming up later in the week. I was supposed to post them last week but there were shooting and editing issues that needed to be handled but they are definitely coming out this week so stay tuned for that. I’m also working on a contest that will most likely start in the fall because I want to thank you guys for sticking with me during this crazy time in my life. I usually draw a blank when it comes to contest ideas but my girl Shenia gave me a lot of great ideas so we are working on the details which I will announce in the coming weeks.
I know I’ve slacked a lot and one of my long-term goals is on remaining consistent as it relates to the site and everything else that will help me get to where I want to be in my life. I feel the need to take on a lot at once and then fall short because of feeling overwhelmed under pressure. When things don’t work out the way I expect them to, I feel like I’ve fallen short and instead of pushing through it and learning from it, I tend to dwell on what I don’t have and how far I have to go. I am slowly but surely learning to be thankful for all the blessings that are in my life and how far I have come especially when I remember how confused and lost I felt around this same time 10 years ago. I am a work in progress that will grow and thrive with every challenge and obstacles that comes my way and I know that many of you are going through the same struggles but we will make it through and be better people because of it. Thank you for your continued patience, love and support. I NEVER take any of it for granted. I hope everyone has an inspiring and productive day:)
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Afternoon! I watched the “Light Girls” documentary on OWN last night and wanted to express all the things that were running through my mind while watching. I didn’t comment on the “Dark Girls” documentary because I didn’t feel like I could completely relate to what the women on the documentary were saying but after watching the “Light Girls” documentary, I realized that I can’t completely relate to the “light-skinned” women and their experiences either. My mom is a beautiful brown-skinned woman who I’ve been told that I favor on countless occasions but my father was very light-skinned. People used to tell him that he favored Smokey Robinson pretty hazel eyes and all! When I was younger, classmates would ask if he was white because of his light complexion. Most of the relatives on my father’s side of the family were just as light and some could pass for white. I remember one experience when I was with my grandfather at the supermarket and I ran into a coworker of mine who waved when we walked by. When I saw my coworker at work the next day, he asked me who was that “white man” I was with the day before and when I told him that was my grandfather, he didn’t believe me. As a result of growing around people who were considered “light-skinned” in my eyes, I never saw myself as light because many of my family members had a much lighter complexion than me. It wasn’t until my young adult life that I was placed in the light-skinned/redbone/yellow complexion category. When I would wear long weaves, people would ask me if I was mixed and the guy that I am currently seeing jokingly calls me “light brite” and “yellow cake” because he swears that I am of a lighter complexion than he is.
Being “light” was never something that I felt I should be proud of. My mom as I stated before is brown-skinned and my maternal grandmother had the most beautiful chocolate complexion that I’ve ever seen. Beauty, in my eyes was how you carried yourself and skin color had nothing to do with it. It bothers me that we are still having this conversation in 2015. I feel like we can’t even begin to properly deal with racial discrimination until we address the colorism within our own community. Instead of putting people on pedestals or insulting them if they are light or dark, we need to talk about why we are focusing on skin color in the first place. It all stems from racism as far back as slavery and although it has been 150 years since slavery ended, the pain from the emotional wounds still linger. I know it is easier said than done but we must address the real issues that are more than skin deep.
I think we can all start by learning how to truly love ourselves. It is hard to not let appearance be a reason but we need to focus on being the best version of ourselves by changing what is on the inside. Once we learn to love and embrace our differences and accept others’ differences and be happy with what God has blessed us with, we can grow as individuals and as human beings. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. famously said “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.” Even though Dr. King was speaking about the judgment outside of the black community, we need to work on the judgment within the black community so we can begin the healing process.
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
I was on my Facebook page on one of my FB friends posted an article from a few years back where the KKK was saluting “gangbangers” for killing off African-Americans. I would like to think that we have come so far in the past 200 years because slavery and racial segregation were eliminated but we are still fighting for these freedoms because of slavery of the mind. There are so many people in the world that cannot see past their current circumstances to go on to accomplish bigger and better things so they take the “easy” route in life. Easy money, easy thrills and since no one looked out for them, these “easy” route takers have no sympathy or compassion for others. Because of this, unity is damn near impossible to achieve.
It is harder to take “the road less traveled” for fear of failure and humiliation but failure gives you strength. If you know what failure looks like, feels like, you want success that much more and will put up a fight to get to that point where you are happy. Your own personal happiness isn’t enough you have to give back to others so they can give. This is the only way to break this destruction cycle and promote unity.
We cannot control every situation around us BUT we can control how we react to things. Don’t let your current unfortunate circumstances have a negative impact on your future and don’t let what others say or think define you. When you live life according to what works for you and follow your heart, then and only then will you be free. Free from the outside constrains holding you down and most importantly, free from the limitations that you and others have placed upon you.