Happy Monday Everyone! I was swamped with work last week so I wasn’t able to post but I definitely want to make up for it with today’s post. After a conversation I had over the weekend, I realized the importance of self-worth in the face of adversity. You have to know your own value to be able to change the course of your life. It can be difficult to see your own self-worth when events in life make you feel like you have nothing to offer but I think that the clarity and focus you need to get your life back on track often comes when you are at your lowest point in life.
When I was at a low point in my life in order to gain clarity, I had to reflect on that actions that occurred that brought me to that point. I realized that the very action that brought me down was my inaction. I became complacent and soon the complacency gave way to not bothering to even make an effort. Lack of motivation led to a decrease in my own self-worth. If I couldn’t bother to even try, what was the point of my existence? I wasn’t suicidal but at the same time, I wasn’t sure what my purpose was. Since it was difficult for me to figure out what I wanted for my life at that point, I decided to think back to a time where I was hopeful and optimistic about my life and what my goals were. At that time in my life, I wanted to motivate and inspire people. I also wanted to be an entrepreneur with my own business and I wanted to be financially stable so I could create the life I’ve always desired on my terms. After reflecting on my past goals, I did a reevaluation on those goals and realized that I still wanted those things. After that confirmation, I started thinking about all of the steps it would take to get to where I always wanted to be.
The first thing I decided to do is start working on myself so I could motivate and inspire people by using my life as an example of triumph over adversity. I got back into blogging, started a podcast with my friend and started changing my perspective on things so I could see the bright side or “best case scenario” (check out my previous post for more about that topic). As far as the entrepreneurial goals, I started doing more word of mouth promotion for Amore Luxe Media services as a result of online observation which has helped me gain consistent clientele. I am currently on my way to financial stability because of my growing client list as well as working at the daycare doing administrative work both of which have helped me earn extra income. I’m not where I want to be but I am doing a lot better than I was this time last year and most importantly, by figuring out what I wanted from my life, I was able to rediscover my passion which gives me a positive sense of self-worth and purpose. Everyone’s journey is different but sometimes, you have to start back at square one to get to exactly where you need to be.
What does self-worth mean to you? Is it something measurable or does it go deeper than that? Let me know in the comments! I will be back on Wednesday with a new post but hit me up on IG (@amoreluxe_) or Facebook (Angela Cherai) with your thoughts and any topic suggestions. I hope everyone has an awesome week and until Wednesday, always remember to love and live luxuriously!
Good Morning! I’m writing this post right before I have to head to the dentist (ugh!) to get my wisdom tooth pulled. I still have to go back for fillings and crowns and I am so disappointed with myself because things shouldn’t have gotten this far in regards to my dental health and my health in general. I know exactly why I am at this point though. I grew up in a household where I could eat anything I wanted at anytime. I didn’t have to ask permission for snacks and goodies and my mom bought and cooked whatever I liked. If she couldn’t cook it, we ordered it and I just accepted that as a way of life. I’ve worked out here and there but I knew to see real results, I’d have to change what I eat as well and that part would be tough for me. I want to be the best version of myself and I knew that in order for that to happen, I’d have to change up my eating habits. I’m not too big on beef or pork ( I do like bacon though!) but chicken as always been my weakness. I love Chick Fil A and when I go there, I get the same thing: 12 piece nuggets, waffle fries and a Coke or sweet tea. On this particular lifestyle plan, I can’t eat red meat, can’t drink soda and no processed foods…bye bye Chick Fil A 😢 Fortunately, pasta is still on the menu in whole wheat form which doesn’t taste half bad. I have to prepare all my meals myself and that’s a first because I NEVER cooked on a regular basis. It’s been a challenge especially since many of the foods I love are no longer on the menu so I’ve had to be creative and try other type of dishes like my almond apple muffins above ( I know they look like cookies but it’s only because of the angle) steamed asparagus (eh!) and boneless, skinless chicken breasts ( at least I can still eat chicken!)
I’ve been working out at least once a day as well doing things like squats, crunches, lunges and other types of exercises that will tone my tummy, legs and booty. I want to look and feel healthy and I feel that with this new healthy lifestyle, I am on the right track. I may have a “cheat day” in the future but as long as they don’t turn into cheat weeks and months, I think I’ll be alright. I will continue to keep you up to date on my progress and in a future post, I’ll show you before and after pics(yikes!) Keep giving your all into whatever it is you desire and make sure to share your journey with me. We’ll talk soon!
Always remember to love and live luxuriously!
I was talking to my girl Robyn (who will be co-hosting with me on a future show really soon!) about being confident with your appearance and the challenges we faced growing up and learning to love ourselves in the process. I started thinking to myself “What would I like to change about myself physically to be completely satisfied with myself?” I always had an overbite but braces made it less noticeable and closed my once prominent gap so my smile hasn’t been a major issue. I was always the skinny girl in middle school and high school and was 107 pounds at my lowest but within the last few years, I’ve filled out dramatically so that really isn’t an issue anymore either. I do want to tone but I can do that by going to the gym a few times a week and eating healthier but none of these “changes” seemed extreme to me so I thought about what it would be like to take the next step and receive cosmetic surgery. I could receive veneers to fix my teeth, a butt lift to get the perfect booty and liposuction to get the perfect stomach and then I would be happy right? Heidi Montag (the woman in the video) claims she is happy with the 10 procedures she had done to change her look so it seems like the logical thing to do if you have the money right? It would seem that way but now I am not so sure.
I consider myself to be an attractive woman. I’ve been told that I’m cute or pretty many times and when I get dolled up, I feel great at first but even in those moments, I can find a flaw that can distort the image that I see staring back at me in the mirror. Plastic surgery can these “flaws” but what it can’t fix is my confidence overall. These issues are deeper than what people see on the outside and stem from how I viewed myself growing up and how I related to others. I would have to deal with these issues first before ever considering going under the knife. I don’t believe in quick fixes so I know that fixing my tummy or booty won’t bring instant confidence and the changes may be damaging to my health so I would have to live with these decisions for the rest of my life. I believe that to feel confident in all aspects of your life, you have to be confident in your appearance so if plastic surgery will help in your journey to positive self worth, then go for it! My advice is to focus on why you want the changes first and work on an “inner makeover” before you take the next step and change what’s on the outside. As long as you are true to yourself, you can’t go wrong!