Anxiety Is Not A Game!

Good Afternoon! The reason why this post was uploaded at noon and not at 9am like normally is because I couldn’t think of anything to write about at first. I thought about what issues am I facing currently and I realized that my anxiety has been creeping back in my life slowly but surely. There are different levels of anxiety and its an ongoing issue that I constantly deal with but I am learning to recognize the warning signs and learning how to better deal with those feelings as they come.

My anxiety usually appears in the form of heart palpitations, worst case scenario thoughts and the inability to be able to completely relax.  It happens as a result of an issue that feels out of my control or one that could have been prevented if I would have done something differently.  The anxiety began this weekend when I was out at a party and I accidentally broke something. Although the object that I broke appeared to be fixed, I was still worried about something happening where my friend would get in trouble or I would have to pay an exorbitant amount of money to repair/replace the object even though a high amount was unlikely. The night went south after that and between worrying about that and being concerned for the well-being of someone else close to me, I was stressed out all weekend. The stress lasted into Monday and yesterday where I was annoyed about not receiving payment from one of my clients for something I worked on for him and wanted to avoid confrontation although I was not at fault and feeling overwhelmed with deadlines for other clients. Since my anxiety only appeared to worsen throughout the day, I decided to disconnect from social media yesterday evening and went to sleep after watching my tv shows. Today I woke up still feeling anxious so I decided to start putting everything into perspective. If I end up having to pay for the broken object, I will work out a payment plan that won’t mess me up financially. I will be direct with all of my clients from now on regarding payment and not agree to work on projects with those who have a hard time following. I will continue to stick to deadlines but I will create a schedule that will allow me to pace myself and allow me to not feel so overwhelmed. Even though my anxiety will most likely pop up again in the future, I know that I can alleviate the symptoms by changing my thought process, decatastrophizing, and realizing that no matter what the outcome is, its not the end of the world even though my anxiety wants to convince me otherwise!

How do you deal with anxiety?  Let me know your tips in the comments. Still working on ideas for the next “Confidence Is…” Profile so if you or someone you know is the perfect example of confidence and strength in the face of adversity, email me at angelacherai@gmail.com so I can interview them! My next post will be up on Friday but until then, always be sure to love and live luxuriously!

This Moment 

 

Can we just stop
Focus on what we feel
Forget about time
Cause it ain’t real, no it ain’t real
We only got this moment
We only got this moment
We only got this moment
We only got this moment

This Moment- Janine and the Mixtape

I woke up this morning feeling anxious and tense. I had the craziest dream that unnerved me and then I was thinking about my grandmother who had a mini stroke last week and wanting to talk to her. I plan on visiting her in Florida after I take my driving test in December because I want to be able to help out more by running errands and things like that. On top of all of that, I’m waiting to start this new director gig at my current job and even though I was told that the position is mine, nothing feels set in stone. It is all overwhelming and I don’t want to break under pressure but I wasn’t sure on what to do until I did what I do when I need an escape: I decided to play some music.

I started listening to the EP of my favorite up and coming artists, Janine and The Mixtape (check out my interview with her in the Feature Artist section of the site) and her song “This Moment” came on.  In that moment, I realized that we all have issues that we have to deal with but sometimes it’s best to focus on this moment and be grateful for what we do have because tomorrow is not promised to anyone. It’s difficult to live in the moment when life comes at you with full force but I know that I need to just breathe and live in the moment when it gets to be too much or else I’ll go crazy. That’s not to say that I am going to abandon my problems or be in denial about them but instead, take things one day at a time and focus on the positive. I encourage all of you to do the same😀

Until next time,

Always remember to love and live luxuriously! 

Day 1 Confidence Challenge: Finding “Me Time”

metimeoprahquoteGood Morning Everyone!!! I am so excited about the response I received after posting about the “30 Days of Confidence” challenge yesterday. So many of you said you were all in for participating and wanted to know when we would start. Well TODAY is the day!!!! I have had multiple conversations with friends and family and so many of us feel blah about ourselves because we are overwhelmed with the pressure and unpredictability that life brings. Whether you are a mother or father working long hours to provide for your family or a college student trying to cram for 3 midterms, stress and the fear of  failure can make us feel like we are losing even before we start our day. No matter what is going on in your life, ALWAYS remember to take care of yourself. You have to be in a good mental and physical state for other areas of your life to fall into place. If you want that promotion at your job or want to earn an A on your next exam, you have to get your mind right and for you to do that, you have to mentally and physically recharge to be at your best. Finding time out to treat yourself, even if its 15-20 minutes out of your day doing something you like is essential to your overall well-being and definitely has a positive impact on the way you see yourself. Doing these things by yourself  also allows you to enjoy spending time with a person that should be valued and cherished:YOU! You are able to learn so many things about yourself when you are alone especially when its something you have never done before. I remember going to see a movie by myself for the first time last summer and I was so proud of myself because I did something that was outside of my comfort zone and enjoyed every moment of it. Something as simple as treating yourself out to your favorite meal or reading a chapter of a book you have been dying to read will have a profound effect on your mood and your overall outlook. If you pay close attention, you will notice that the most confident people are the ones who don’t need to be around a crowd every minute of the day. Their solitude speaks volumes and they can be alone without feeling lonely or insecure. It is a very powerful thing so I strongly suggest that you carve at least 15 minutes out of your schedule to do something fun/relaxing/entertaining for yourself by yourself. I plan on meditating while listening to the “Yoga and Meditation Playlist” on Spotify when I get home. It is relaxing and improves my mood and I told myself that I would start doing it more often so why not start on Day 1! Let me know what you plan on doing for your “Me Time” activity down below and make sure you do these things for you and  not anyone else:)

I will be posting Day 2-Day 5  Confidence Challenges tomorrow so make sure you are on the lookout for that!

 

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!

Confessions of A Retail Associate

retailmemeHey everyone! I know I promised that I would make a weekly YouTube video where I would talk about what happened during the week as well as my thoughts on various subjects but right after I came up with the idea, I got a second job. In addition to tutoring at an afterschool program, I have a second job as a retail associate at a clothing store at my local mall that shall not be named(heaven forbid that someone from management or corporate finds my page doing a Google search…don’t need any unnecessary drama lol) and I have a lot to say about the few weeks I have worked at this particular company. Think of this as 3 weeks worth of random thoughts blogs lol

Before I get into my life as a sales associate at _____ , I want to fill you in with my retail job history. I had a seasonal retail job 3 years ago at another major clothing store while I was still in school. I really didn’t like it because the store was in a mall that wasn’t near my house and since I don’t drive, (I am working on it so no lectures lol) I had to take 2 buses and one of the bus lines was in an unsafe area so I was always on high alert while waiting and riding the bus. Needless to say, I didn’t stay at the store after the holidays!

Fast forward to 3 years later and once again, I find myself in retail. After graduating last year with a Bachelor’s Degree in marketing, I assumed that I would find a decent job in my field of study right away especially since I graduated with a 4.0 and many other accolades. Boy was I wrong! I have been actively looking for a full-time job for over a year now and haven’t had any luck finding a position that will help me get to where I want to be in life. By the beginning of September, I decided that I could no longer be picky with the type of position I wanted and I needed to find another job that would help me pay off some bills as well as help my mother out with everyday expenses. Retail associate positions are always open especially around the holidays so I figured that working as a part-time associate wouldn’t be so bad the second time around, especially since I wasn’t in school anymore and I would only work mornings during the week so I wouldn’t be burned out. I was hired as a part-time retail associate at the store that shall not be named in early November and I was kind of excited because the store was new to my area and everyone was new to the company outside of the store manager who previously worked at other stores in the company. I figured that I could have a fresh start and be on the sales floor helping customers out and all the “sales” stuff I did before at my old retail job. Unfortunately, nothing is ever that simple! All of the sales associates were hired before the store had been set up so guess who they expected to do all the set up work: the retail associates. We had to put sensors on clothing and accessories, help with setting up the visual areas and move everything so it could be in its proper place. Other companies have visual merchandisers and stock associates that are hired to specifically do these tasks but at this company, upper management expects the retail associates and lower level management to do these tasks. We put in a few 11 and 12 hour shifts to make sure the store was ready for its grand opening so I figured that I would go back to normal retail associate behavior after the store opened. Once again, I was mistaken! Myself and the rest of the associates are still doing multiple roles for close to nothing and I’m trying to see if its even worth it in the end. Like what is my motivation for being here??? I am really not sure. I can’t say its my fellow associates and managers that motivate me or cheer me up because outside of 1 or 2 associates, I really don’t care for anyone there enough to develop any real type of friendship. I think that one of the associates tried to steal my iPhone 6 on the low my second day on the job but wasn’t smart enough to turn the phone off so I found the phone in a box in the dumpster behind the mall. Most of the customers are not interested in our help so that makes the day go by soooo slowly! On top of that, the managers are wishy-washy (I think that one of the managers is bipolar!) and I am the oldest sales associate so I kind of feel like I should be at management level age wise instead of being where I am now. My biggest fear is being stuck doing something I don’t want to do because of obligations instead of doing something that I love that fulfills me. I read a quote on Instagram the other day that really spoke to me which said:

“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight with no vision”

I don’t want to end up losing my vision because of outside interferences so I tell myself that this job is just a pit-stop to where I need to be and not my final destination. Having a job in this crazy economy is a blessing in itself so I am just going to stick with it until something better comes along. I am pretty sure that I will have more tales to tell before 2014 is over so stay tuned!

P.S.- I won’t reveal the name of the company I work for so don’t even think about asking me 😛

Always remember to love and live luxuriously!