QOTD: What Constitutes As Lying?

Good Morning! I said in my previous post that today’s post would be based on a question that I posted on social media. For those of you who missed it, here is what I wrote:

QOTD: Should lying by omission be considered lying?

Ex: Your significant other asks who you’re hanging out with tonight. You say you are hanging out with your boys/girls but fail to mention that your ex will be there as well. Should you be at fault for not telling the whole truth?

The responses I received were interesting mainly because most women thought that lying by omission should be considered lying and many of the guys who replied felt that it shouldn’t be considered lying especially if information was withheld to avoid any future issues. Even though I can understand both arguments, I think that a lie by omission is still a lie because by withholding information, you allow the other person to create outcomes based off of the details you give. In the example I posted above, if you say that you are hanging out with your boys/girls but fail to mention that your ex will be at the same place and say that place is a bar, getting intoxicated around someone who you used to have a relationship with may create a situation that can lead to serious consequences. Many people would argue that just because someone is hanging around their ex doesn’t mean that they have feelings for them or that they want to get back into a relationship with them and while I wholeheartedly agree, if there is nothing to worry about. why hide the fact that the ex will be there in the first place? If the reason is to avoid drama in the form of accusations or jealousy, I feel that there are deeper issues in the relationship that need to be addressed. If you trust your partner completely, you should be secure in your relationship and most importantly, secure with yourself and what you bring to the table.

I feel that it all boils down to effective communication with your partner and respect for his/her feelings. If you know that hanging around your ex is going to be an issue, talk about what the specific issue is. If the issue stems from the ex causing issues in the past within your relationship, then maybe its best not to be around him/her even in a group setting. If the issue is mainly with your partner and their own insecurities, that is something that he/she needs to work on outside of the relationship especially if your actions have not warranted that type of behavior. I have dealt with men in the past that have omitted details from a situation and when I found out about them later, I was upset, not because of the actual detail being omitted but the fact that he deliberately failed to mention a detail because he wanted to avoid any type of confrontation or disagreement made me wary and suspicious of his behavior. Even if I would have felt some kind of way about the situation knowing all the details, I would have respected his honesty because honesty is very important to me in all of my relationships both personally and professionally. I can’t speak for everyone but I feel that if there is open communication and honesty within the relationship, omitting details would be unnecessary because trust would be established which would be stronger than any potential bs from outside sources.

Working on my first vlog/rant of 2019 for my next post and it’s gonna be a good one so stay tuned for that. In the meantime, I’d still love to read your feedback on this question so  make sure you let me know your thoughts in the comments below! Thanks to everyone for all of the positive feedback. I am really enjoying blogging for the first time in YEARS so know that I am just getting started! Until my next post, remember to love and live luxuriously!

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Amore Luxe.com is On Hiatus!

img_0291Happy New Year! It’s been about 4 months since my last post and I told myself that I would stop with the BS excuses in 2019 so I’m just going to be honest with you. I have no idea what I wanted to do with “Amore Luxe”. What began as a passion/hobby started to feel like a burden. I was depressed and discouraged and didn’t want to write about that so I stayed away. I would occasionally pop up and try to impart words of wisdom but it didn’t feel completely genuine so I felt that it was best that I stayed away until I had something positive/fun/uplifting to write about. Days turned into weeks and weeks turned into months and before I knew it, 2019 was here! I told myself that I wouldn’t start this year off the same way as I did all the others: broken promises and more bs so I’m posting today to tell you that I’m still figuring out what direction I want this blog to go into. No major announcements will happen until I know exactly what I want to do. I have ideas but until they are made a reality, I am going to work behind the scenes and really plan things out.  Although there won’t be any posts for the time being, I am still active on social media (Angela Cherai on FB and @amoreluxe_ on IG) so you can reach me there and “Amore Luxe Media” is up and running so hit me up for all of your social media/content writing needs! Thank you for your continued patience and I will make sure that all of the changes are worth the wait! Talk to you soon!!

Until then,

Love and Live Luxuriously!

 

30 Days of Truth post Day 14: Something out of the ordinary that you would like to do in your life

We are one day away from the halfway point of the “30 Days of Truth” exercise and I know that it takes a lot for a person to be completely jump-2honest with themselves but I promise you that you will be a stronger and more determined individual because of it! I haven’t been posting my truths for the last few days because of some issues going on in my personal life but I will try my best to be as consistent as possible for the duration of the exercise. I decided to change a few of the questions this time around because I answered the original questions last year so instead of using the original day 14 question which is “A hero that has let you down”, I decided to create my own and talk about something out of the ordinary that I would like to do. Continue reading “30 Days of Truth post Day 14: Something out of the ordinary that you would like to do in your life”